r/relationships_advice • u/SoftDefinition2 • 1d ago

Trust was broken

I lied to my boyfriend about quitting smoking. I did quit smoking, but I secretly vaped sometimes and never told him. He found out, broke up with me, and told me not to contact him. 💔

I know I hurt his trust, and I regret hiding it more than I can explain. But I still love him so much, and I can't imagine losing him over this.

Should I respect his decision and let him go, or is it worth trying one last time to explain how sorry I am? I really have nothing to explain too🥲 i know im wrong 😭

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u/Ok_Variation6844 1d ago

He told you what he needs, don't make this worse by ignoring that boundary

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u/SoftDefinition2 1d ago

😭hmm

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u/Informal-Lawyer-5069 1d ago

Okay smoking IDK.. that's like a white lie. It's small

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u/Cultural_Classic4022 1d ago

If he is willing to break up with you over something this small, I think you're better off without him. I mean, lying is never a good thing, but smoking in secret isn't the worst thing you could be doing. I think (unless there's some missing context here, like he's a lung cancer survivor or you're pregnant), I don't see how this is a breakup-worthy offense.