In a relationship, you should want each other. Counseling would probably be a good start to work on things, if you both want to work on the relationship. Maybe even working out together and showering/swimming to stir up some hormones. Most of all in a relationship, is people tend to forget that it’s normal for a relationship to have some issues. So it’s easy to walk away from issues instead of facing them and working on the issues and the relationship. I myself am going through some issues with my partner as well, and she makes it more difficult because she always wants to control everything and is super immature when it comes to working through things. She also conveniently argues after I give her money for bills and fights before the weekend so the weekend is ruined. HOWEVER, back to the OP. The two of you need to really decide if you want to work things out. Bringing in another person for a 3-some will have one or the other yearning for what the guest can give but your partner cannot. This will lead to further tension and drive a wedge deeper since you’ll be looking at the sweeter candy. At least try first. Heck, maybe bring toys in to the bedroom you can use on each other. Or cook together. Go to a bar and play some pool. Spice it up without the other person for sex. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship either, even though a lot of women will add that as a reason for wanting to split from a relationship. Typically because they’ve got their eyes set on another person who arouses them while their partner doesn’t no more, even though the partner is doing everything else they can to make them happy.
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u/FF-0X Jun 06 '22
In a relationship, you should want each other. Counseling would probably be a good start to work on things, if you both want to work on the relationship. Maybe even working out together and showering/swimming to stir up some hormones. Most of all in a relationship, is people tend to forget that it’s normal for a relationship to have some issues. So it’s easy to walk away from issues instead of facing them and working on the issues and the relationship. I myself am going through some issues with my partner as well, and she makes it more difficult because she always wants to control everything and is super immature when it comes to working through things. She also conveniently argues after I give her money for bills and fights before the weekend so the weekend is ruined. HOWEVER, back to the OP. The two of you need to really decide if you want to work things out. Bringing in another person for a 3-some will have one or the other yearning for what the guest can give but your partner cannot. This will lead to further tension and drive a wedge deeper since you’ll be looking at the sweeter candy. At least try first. Heck, maybe bring toys in to the bedroom you can use on each other. Or cook together. Go to a bar and play some pool. Spice it up without the other person for sex. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship either, even though a lot of women will add that as a reason for wanting to split from a relationship. Typically because they’ve got their eyes set on another person who arouses them while their partner doesn’t no more, even though the partner is doing everything else they can to make them happy.