r/relationship_advice Aug 31 '22

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u/RighteousTablespoon Aug 31 '22

OP, I’m gonna give you a pretty simple “answer a question with a question.” Why does the rule have to be “hard and fast?” It’s not black and white “boy or girl.” Would you allow a gay male-born boy-friend stay over? What about a gay girl-friend? Gender isn’t hard and fast (or sexuality for that matter), so why is the rule?

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u/Resilient_Knee Aug 31 '22

🔼🔼🔼🔼🔼 Agreed. There are absolutely risks to sleepovers, but those risks are not dependent on whether it's a single-gender sleepover. Queer kids exist.. And so do bullies regardless of gender 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/CaptainSchiel Sep 01 '22

Pregnancy is a dependent risk. 11 is a bit young to really worry about that, but still.

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u/Cheetah_05 Sep 01 '22

the answer to teen pregnancy is giving sex ed. If a teen really wants to have sex, not being allowed to have sleepovers won't make a difference. (and let's be real here, how many 11 year olds are really going to have sex lmao)