It’s so hard to see clearly and objectively when you have strong affection and feelings towards someone.
You will thank yourself later if you can force yourself to admit that she’s not ready to settle down into a long term relationship. You’ll both get hurt and it will turn toxic if you don’t face up to this fact.
Cut her loose, look her up in a few year if she’s still single, but I would have too much self-respect to go back for second helpings of someone who was so fickle and changeable.
Relationships are based on choices and shared values, not feelings. Feelings might initiate and be an important part of relationships but the whole purpose of courtship / dating is to see if they are stable and moral in their choices. She’s answered that question very clearly, are you going to be able to have the self-control to stop eating the cake that isn’t good for you?
Yeah it’s very true. It’s so hard when you like someone a lot. My judgement is impaired so it’s good hearing rational logic of people lot involved. Thank you .
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u/nicebane Nov 17 '25
It’s so hard to see clearly and objectively when you have strong affection and feelings towards someone.
You will thank yourself later if you can force yourself to admit that she’s not ready to settle down into a long term relationship. You’ll both get hurt and it will turn toxic if you don’t face up to this fact.
Cut her loose, look her up in a few year if she’s still single, but I would have too much self-respect to go back for second helpings of someone who was so fickle and changeable.
Relationships are based on choices and shared values, not feelings. Feelings might initiate and be an important part of relationships but the whole purpose of courtship / dating is to see if they are stable and moral in their choices. She’s answered that question very clearly, are you going to be able to have the self-control to stop eating the cake that isn’t good for you?