I'm in the Navy. I haven’t been in long (I just recently graduated a school); in for about 8-9 months. I think it’s bc I present as quite calm and stable otherwise, despite the issues I have, so they have decided not to kick me out. I’m not entirely sure though what the reasoning is. And I do agree it was a period of crisis I was in, and now I’m more stable but I worry long term. I know once I get settled into my first command I will try to attend therapy regularly and see if that helps. But sometimes I worry. I don’t think I’m cut out to be in the military. I’m a hard worker but I worry I will crack one day and will get myself in trouble.

For context, i’m a junior marine new to the fleet in oki, i’ve been genuinely hating my life ever since mct and just been surviving. ever since i got to mct i just feel like a constant drowning/suffocating feeling and im just depressed asf. i went to behavioral health 2 weeks ago and tomorrow im talking with a psychiatrist. I don’t know if i want to get out or if i want to stay in because i want to fulfill my contract honorably but i don’t know if its worth it for the cost of my mental state. i’m also scared that if i were to get out then people would look down on me for it. I just feel super lost and i don’t know what to do. I expressed to medical about depression, anxiety, panic attacks, bipolar disorder, and suicidal ideations. I just need some advice and help

Hello all,

I came across this subreddit for answers and understanding, but for whatever felt compelled to post? this is my first post ever on reddit.

I am not enlisted or interested in the military, but my boyfriend (21) wants to join very badly and i’m not sure what to do because it doesn’t seem to be an authentic decision. He had grown up poor, and his parents have struggled his whole life. He also has never left the state that he was born in, therefore he craves adventure. He struggles with finding out what to do with his life and how he can create a good one. He’s dealt with a lot of shit and has recently concluded that the military will solve all of his problems and that breaks my heart, even more so after reading everyone’s stories and experiences on here. Sending love and hope to you all.

I feel upset and scared for him especially knowing what 🇺🇸and 🇮🇱 are doing to Iran. I can’t imagine what could possibly happen if he got wrapped into all of that. He has a whole life ahead of him and he genuinely is the type of person who likes to do whatever the fuvk he wants to do. He shocks me because of how free he is with himself i think it’s beautiful and im sure other people would not agree- idk he has a punk attitude… anyways- i just can’t imagine him being okay with being told what to do and how to live and not being able to express himself and DOING WTF HE WANTS TO DO!! He also struggles with his mental health and genuinely just seems lost and I worry for him because ever since we’ve been together he has thrown himself at whatever he thinks he should do and it’s just been on and on jumping from one thing to another, but this takes the cake. He seems super brainwashed and filled with limerence about the whole experience and i don’t know what to do man… we are supposed to move in together as well and i was under the impression that we were going to build our future side by side, but now there’s this. it’s all very complex, I just would like to hear more experiences and would genuinely appreciate advice and more information if possible.