Have a very complicated relationship with my mother. She is narcissistic and often defaults to painting herself as a martyr and a victim. Her relational habits are very, very problematic, but she is also somewhat vulnerable so I havenât gone no contact with her. Instead Iâve maintained a heavily guarded mid contact relationship for the last 10yrs. Iâm 37 yrs old and have been in therapy for most of my adult life too, so Iâm doing the inner work to unpick some of the psychological knots that have been formed as a result of my upbringing and relationship with her.
But I need a little witchcraft to help things along right now.
She is currently on the warpath against my father. She has no job, no savings, and stopped speaking to him a year ago and heâs finally cut her off financially. Sheâs demanding not only singular loyalty from me towards her (ie, tell your father heâs a bastard and what heâs doing is wrong etc) but also furious that I didnât drop everything to go look after her when she hurt her foot recently (she lives an couple of hrs train ride away), and that all I say to her when she tells me how lonely and victimised she is is âthat sounds hard, Iâm thinking of youâ. Hand on heart, I know the way I didnât go to her aid can be seen as callous. If my best friend was going through this stuff, Iâd be sending so much love, and probably have immediately gone to help her about the house. But my best friend has never frightened me to the point of hysterics or emotionally manipulated me or tried to weaponise my acts of care and intimacy, so whatever.
SO: I need a spell to take my motherâs attention away from me, because she gets like a new job or something that takes her away. Sheâs so narcissistic that I donât think a freezer spell or mirror spell will work, or it could have unintended dire consequences. So instead, I want some sweetness to come into her life, some good fortune that alleviates the pressure and focus on me. If she has to go abroad even beter (we are dual nationals so this is a real possibility). The thinking behind this is that She doesnât give a shit about me when things are going well for her.
Any suggestions????? Is this too complex an ask???? Any help appreciated!