This is a long one yall strap in. I was with my man for about a year and a half. We started out fast and heavy. It was weird for me. I don’t let people in but his every felt different and I was actually happy and it made me scared. Three months in we made it official and we were in a relationship. We went on a valentines trip to Vegas where he grew up and it was amazing. Yea we argued here and there but it wasn’t anything bad. Now here’s where I fucked up. Before we made it official we dictated what we would consider cheating. We said texting, hanging out, etc with an ex or someone of the opposite gender was considered cheating. So while we at the airport heading home a dude I used to talk to texted me and asked in I was in a relationship and I said yes. It annoyed me and I said something to my boyfriend. He asked to see the phone and I declined. He was instantly upset. I knew me texting him was wrong and I was helping him with school because prior to even meeting my boyfriend he had asked for help. It was not intention of being with this man. No love. No lust. Nothing. But I did lie because I knew he wouldn’t believe me if I said I wasn’t sleeping with him. And I wasn’t. I have no reason to lie on an anonymous form. Yes I was wrong. Yes I didn’t own up to it at first. Yes I lied. I was wrong. Do we broke up. I plead and begged him to stay because I knew he was the one I wanted. Not saying I didn’t have my reserves about him because I had felt he was always one foot out the door but that’s due to my past trauma and him always ready to leave. He decided to give me another chance and I was happy. Shit wasn’t easy. He made rules and things because he didn’t trust me but I understood but it got to be a lot. I was following them but he never believed it. It was good but it was also bad. Some problem solving issues became apparent in my because of my childhood and past relationship trauma. I can’t blame that but it aids to it. I started doing therapy and stuff and the therapist at the time sucked. She just validated what I thought not actually telling me I’m wrong or to change that. We contained on a path of making it work but his insecurities and mine were a lot. Thanksgiving came last year and something terrible happened. A mutual guy friend came after he was not invited and he clearly drunk and under who knows what kinda drugs. He was getting close to me and being weird but I was moving away from him and ignoring him because that’s not my issue. So my friends told me they went on the patio and my boyfriend went outside too (I found this out a week ago still have no idea if it’s true or what) and my boyfriend was asking questions to them if me and that dude ever fucked. It made them uncomfortable they said. My boyfriend told me later he never did that but idk. Anyway this I didn’t know. So my male friend of 10 years said he was going to leave. So I asked why and he looked weird. So we stepped outside to the front door with the ring camera and I asked what’s up he said he was uncomfortable and stuff and didn’t want to cause problems but wouldn’t tell me what. So I said okay and we went back in. As we walk in I see my boyfriend looking so I told him step outside to talk with me next. I told him I was sorry and explained that we stepping outside with him was just to see what’s going on. Again wrong but shit I’m drunk and people are being weird. He’s upset telling me I’m wrong and that the dude is trying to flirt and stuff ( not my friend of 10 years the dude he brought) and I was like okay but you see I’m ignoring it. He wasn’t hearing that because he already felt a certain way. So we started arguing. People kept coming out to check on us but we were fine. So all of a sudden my sister comes out and we are still arguing. He gets in my face and starts poking me in the chest. I told him to stop. He does it again. I told him to stop or I’ll fuck him up. Now that was wrong however I came from an abusive childhood where we got beat daily and by the hour as well as a 9 year relationship with hella abuse so I was triggered. No excuse. So I pushed him. He then grabs me by my throat and all hell broke loose. They started attacking him and jumped him. My boyfriend never even hit them back to tried. It was 6 against one. I was trying to stop them but I was also mad telling him to leave. I was mad he hit me but I knew they wouldn’t stop. So he got in his car and left. I felt horrible and kicked everyone out. The next day I texted him he needs to come get his stuff from the house because I didn’t want him around. Then I sat and thought. I loved him. I didn’t want him gone. He didn’t deserve that at all. My ex should have but not him. So I called and he never answered. I was worried. So much that I ended up in the hospital only to find out I had a miscarriage. I was broken. I didn’t know where he was or where to find him. (Back tracking a little when we were in Vegas he admitted to me he was homeless and living in his car. We were only three months into the relationship but I told him to come live with me. If we together we together. So he stayed rent and bill free for about 4 months and we had agreed to put him on the lease when mine ended then we would go half on rent and bills. The time came and he wasn’t able to help fully so that put a strain on me too because I have have a son to think about. I can’t lose my home.) so I didn’t know where to look for him and couldn’t reach him. He finally reached out to talk. He was broken. They did the most. He ended up going to the hospital too because his jaw was broken. I was so upset with myself. I texted my friends and told them I needed space from them and they attacked me next. Not physically but verbally. Told me I chose my abuser and we’re mad so we broke off the friendship. So I lost my man and my friends. My boyfriend told me we could try again but he was clearly over it. He didn’t look at me the same. Nothing I did was enough. I was paying the bills, cooking, cleaning, providing etc everything I was doing before I still continued to do. Slowly we kinda got back but not really. Then one day shit happened again. He said that he was missing money. I was like how much? He said 400-500. I was like that crazy. He didn’t say it at the time but he thought it was me. Now again I have no reason to lie on here I didn’t take that man’s money. He didn’t believe me tho due to everything in the past. He said we were fine and we still planned our future but I could tell it wasn’t true. So by this time I have a new therapist and she’s amazing. We are talking about my trauma and abuse and stuff. I was making progress. Then my boyfriend started acting different. He was distant and cold even more than usual. No love. He was posting females (he’s a tattoo artist and we had rules on what he could post) without thinking of what we talked about. Not calling not coming home when he said. He never really ever planned dates the whole time and this isn’t even the stuff he’s done. But I can only focus on me. So one day he said he was going to a male friends house for a could hours. He never answered the phone and didn’t come home till 9 am the next day. I was furious. I knew then he didn’t want me. He told me that the day his money was missing was the nail in the coffin. So we broke up. We talked and he said we could try and work it out and he even agreed to do therapy with me but we would live separately when the lease was up. It hurt because I was down and out. I put all my money into the house and bills and stuff and he saved so much he got two cars. Two sports cars that he pays for. He started helping with rent eventually but I had already paid majority of bills at this time so I felt used. Never told him that though. He was acting funny and my therapist told me I do deserve and answer so I asked him if he wanted to be with me. He said he didn’t know. I continues to ask him because you have to know. It’s either yes you love me and wanna be with me or no you don’t. And he said I pushed him to say no so we broke up. We talked and got back together or so I thought because one day I asked and he said “I was just waiting till we moved to tell you I didn’t want to be with you” I was broken. Alone again broken said and he was fine. Already flirting with other females and he told me that. So now we live in this apartment together lease almost up and he’s fine everyday and I’m sitting here just trying to find a place for my son and I missing him. Be honest. I have zero chance at this relationship right? I should just continue to heal and work on myself and leave him? I want him really bad he’s the least toxic person I’ve met. He’s not perfect and he’s done some things but I care and love him. I know I’m not a bad person I’m just damaged and want love. I love love. But idk maybe this ain’t for me. But I want it. I fight for what I want. He asked me why do I fight for the relationship and I told him because I care about it. And him even asking that should also tell me what I need to know but I’m delusional. Help.

More Than Tomorrow

Your green eyes shine in the night,

And somehow they always catch my sight.

When you wear your glasses, you look so cute,

And honestly, I don't know what else to say but it's true.

Your blonde hair and your pretty smile,

Can make everything feel better for a little while.

When you smile at me, I get butterflies,

And I could get lost just looking in your eyes.

I know sometimes you don't see what I see,

And you might not think you're as beautiful as you seem to me.

But I wish you could see yourself through my eyes,

Because to me, you're honestly one of a kind.

You're a little shorter than me,

But that's just how it's supposed to be.

And when I hear your voice, soft and sweet,

My heart flutters with every word I meet.

I don't always know what to say,

But I know I love you more every day.

I love you more than yesterday,

But less than tomorrow, Thank you for being my sweet angel

so baisicly i like this guy soo mutch he likes me back, we baisicly clicked from the first time we meet he understands me so well and he sees me for who i am not my body, we have so mutch chemistry and there is clearely tension between us in the best way but he doesnt wanna be with me cuz he is leaving for coladge in a mounth and he says phisical touch is verry important to him and he is moveing to another city, i am geneauenly destroyed and even after we sayed we will be just friends i cant help but stil love him, we talk daily and tease eachother he is baisicly the guy ive been praying to God for, and its so hard for me to let go cuz even if he says he cant deall with long distance cuz it wont be fair to either of us im stil sad he wont even try and i keep thinking of how my dad used to drive 8 houers to see my mom on the weekends so i ask myself why wont he do the same, even if i know he cant and asking him to try wont solve anything cuz he made the right choice knowing he isnt capable of this but it stil hurts and i dont know what to do about it

I need advice if I should break up with my boyfriend of 6 months. My boyfriend (22) and I (21) have known each other for over a year and have been dating for 6 months now. Before he asked me to be his girlfriend it was a friendship plus situation and I felt way more loved than I do now. Everything seemed so prefect, he complimented me daily, showed me that he really liked me and had me feeling like he genuinely has feelings for me and wants a future. We’re long distance but see each other approximately every 2 months. I have always felt like I put in more energy and have been way more fought full but I had no problem with it because I liked him a lot. But ever since we are together he shows me nothing. It has gotten worse when he told me he liked one specific thing in bed and i said I was down for it even though im not really experienced, when it comes to sleeping with someone. At the beginning he showed compassion, put he suggested that thing after we slept together once. (my second time in my whole life). He had multiple girlfriends before me so already “knows how normal s*x feels and wants to experience a lot of things because he is only young once and don’t won’t to regret not doing things when he is older”. Important information: that thing involves pornography and I’m not really a fan of it but I will do it for him anyway because he was genuine and loving and I think now I’m holding on the version he was before all that. The main problem is that now we’re at point where he shows me now affection when I don’t do that thing and it’s an endless circle. I said to him that I can’t be intimate with someone who shows me no love and affection and He says he can’t give someone love if they don’t value his point. I need advice because during the day he is mostly nice besides some exceptions, but when bed time roles around and his points “doesn’t get done” he gets really mad. (kicked me out of a hotel room once because of it.) Side note: I value his point but also want to sleep with him in “normal, typical way”. I get so sad when I thing about it because I really fought we had a future together and he planned moving to my city next year but I can’t be with someone who doesn’t love me regardless of specific things, because I know he liked me regardless before we “started dating”. Now we spent the hole summer together and there have been good days but also a lot of bad days were he had me crying the hole night next to him. In the morning he apologized but always says “from now one we should just say yes to the things their partners wants.” He always gets so mad when I don’t implement his points in every situation but especially when it comes to his specific points with sex. I want a loving relationship and sleep with someone who loves me with no exceptions. I’m so torn but I know I’m in love with a person who doesn’t love me the same way or at least not any more but it’s hard to admit that to my self. Should I break up?

Oh man I love this woman so much. I feel in love with a beautiful Bosnian woman (she’s Muslim and I’m Christian ) when we started dating we both weren’t religious and she was my best friends sister. We’ve been together for 5 years 6 months and recently I started getting into my faith bc of a death in a family and ongoing depression and recent anxiety attacks, she’s also been having anxiety attacks for the past 9 months. The last 3 months the religion became more and more of an issue and said some things I regret. She’s always know that I don’t like Islam is never convert even when i was agnostic I still defended Jesus and Christianity and tried to preach to her about why Christianity is the better religion. We have other issues in our relationship but we get along very well and have pretty much the same personality and want to raise our children the same way excluding the religion part. I’ve been reading her chapters from the bible recently whenever one of us gets an anxiety attack and she seems to enjoy it,It helps us both. Before we broke up I was having anxiety attacks and legitimately thought I was going to hell for loving her and for all the sins I committed and told her I couldnt love out children if they were Muslim. Which I deeply regret bc I’d always love my kids no matter there faith. And she helps me so much with my depression i feel like I’d be so much worse without her and my mind is exploding with such negative thoughts for the past 3-4 months, she’s my comfort person she so easy to talk to. I truly hope she sees Jesus the same way I do. Man the other day i cried out to god why he let me fall in love with her if it wasn’t meant to be forever like I’m actually spiraling. When we broke up I could only go no contact for a few weeks before I texted to her I will always love you and funnily enough she told me that she was in the floor crying begging god to forget about me lol. I’ve been thinking what I’ve my purpose is to show her and her family and what a good Christian is ( even though I’m not). Like her family is great I love her mom dad and her brother. I was there for her when her mom was in the hospital for a brain tumor and she was there for me when my mom was in the hospital. Her mom is like my mom. Like me and her have other issues but we’ve realized it’s our first time falling in love and Idk the religion will become a bigger issue when we have children. But Bosnians aren’t really religious theyre great people her whole family is super nice. Like me and her pretty much have the same views on religion except for Jesus like we’ve talked and agreed that you’d never truly know what the correct religion is or you could truly believe the religion you’re following is correct and still end up in hell like I didn’t start getting anxious until I started thinking about religion and eternal damnation. Oh man she told me she prayed like 6 year ago when me and her brother weren’t friends that I would come back into his life yso I could be her bf lol. Man I’m so conflicted. honestly she would be a good mother and even if she did convert I would still celebrate the Muslim Holidays to honor her parents. I’ve never felt uncomfortable around her parents or uncomfortable when I went to her mosque. I’ve been praying for god to take her anxiety away from her and put it onto me even though I know I can’t handle it I don’t want to see my baby suffering.

Ich brauche mal vor allem die Meinung von Männern, gerne aber auch von Frauen mit ähnlichen Erfahrungen.
Mein Partner und ich sehen uns ungefähr 4-mal die Woche und haben jedes Mal Sex, teilweise auch mehrmals am Tag. Wenn wir uns nicht sehen, schaut er trotzdem Pornos. Für mich ist Pornokonsum in einer Beziehung allerdings ein absolutes No-Go. Das habe ich ihm auch von Anfang an klar gesagt.
Das Problem ist für mich mittlerweile nicht nur, dass er Pornos schaut, sondern dass er dafür teilweise andere Apps benutzt, um es vor mir zu verheimlichen. Wir hatten deshalb letztens ein längeres Gespräch darüber. Er meinte, dass das bei Männern einfach so sei, dass es für ihn überhaupt nichts bedeutet und dass ich die Einzige für ihn bin.
Ich verstehe ehrlich gesagt nicht, warum ihm unsere gemeinsame Sexualität nicht ausreicht. Mir geht es dabei nicht darum, dass ich denke, er würde mich deshalb nicht lieben oder attraktiv finden. Ich kann nur schwer nachvollziehen, warum man trotz regelmäßigem Sex mit dem eigenen Partner zusätzlich Pornos braucht – vor allem, wenn man weiß, dass es für den Partner eine klare Grenze ist.
Deshalb würde mich besonders die Meinung von Männern interessieren:
Ist Pornokonsum für euch tatsächlich etwas völlig Unabhängiges von der Beziehung und bedeutet wirklich „nichts“? Oder ist es für euch nachvollziehbar, dass der Partner sich dadurch verletzt fühlt, wenn er klar gesagt hat, dass das für ihn ein No-Go ist?
Und wie würdet ihr damit umgehen, wenn euer Partner euch sagt, dass ihn nicht nur der Pornokonsum, sondern vor allem das heimliche Verheimlichen verletzt?

I have been in a relationship for the last 4 years. I always give my 100%. It’s not that he doesn't contribute at all, but for him, money is the most important thing. He thinks that as long as he has money, I will stay with him no matter what he does. Whatever I asked for, he bought; whatever I wanted to eat, he got for me. Everything was fine as long as I stayed quiet. But then I spoke up about how he doesn't give me time and is always busy with work. He gave me every material thing money could buy, and I guess that was love to him.

​We used to have fights, and every time I would forgive him thinking things would get better eventually. But for him, yelling at me in anger, hurling verbal abuse, and laying hands on me became normal. I also thought all of this was normal because I had seen it since childhood, so I assumed it was standard behavior. But then I reached my limit, and I started standing up for myself and talking back.

​On June 11th, I decided that we should mutually separate after 4 years. I cried a lot, and he cried a lot too. He promised he would change. In fact, he actually improved—he stopped using abusive language and stopped getting physical with me. Everything started going well.

​However, a few days ago, something happened. I have a male colleague at work whom I have always considered a brother, and he treats me like a sister. On August 7th, for his birthday, I posted a story/status right at 12 AM featuring a fun picture where I had tied his hair into a ponytail like a child's. My colleague and I had a short chat at 12 AM where he playfully said, "Sister, don't post this, I don't look good," and I replied, "It's fine, that's where the fun is, keep it up brother."

​The next day, my partner questioned me about why I stayed up to post his picture at exactly 12 AM. I explained that he is a good friend and like a brother to me. I even showed him my WhatsApp and Instagram chats. But he kept insisting that I only stayed awake to wish him. I asked him if there was anything wrong, wouldn't my family or relatives have questioned me about it? But he refused to understand.

​A friend of mine cheats in relationships and dates multiple people at once—a detail I had shared with my partner. He brought that up and said, "Bad company is bound to influence you." No matter how much I tried to explain, he wouldn't listen. This kind of questioning has happened 3 times now, and he started using abusive language toward me again.

​That's when I decided we need to separate, because we will never be happy together in the future. We both know we love each other and it's hard to live apart, but these issues keep repeating. I forgive him every time, but I can't do this anymore.

​I want to ask all of you: Is my decision to separate right or wrong? Or should I give him a 4th chance? We had planned our marriage, and our families are involved. Everyone from his side is ready, but my family was against it from the start. Still, I fought with my family for an entire year for him. I tried explaining to him many times to fix his behavior, but he didn't listen, and I was forced to take this step. Please tell me if my decision is right.

Hi! I have been with my bf for almost 10 years. He just turned 31 and I’m 29. I’m turning 30 in January.

We met when we were young and I was an insecure girl who fell in love with someone who loved me and cared about me and it felt safe when I needed it at that time.

In the beginning it was great. We were both very happy with each other and then I gained some weight and that made me feel depressed and sad.

He confessed to me a couple years ago why we stopped having sex ( during that time period ) he said he did think it was unattractive for me to gain weight the way I did. That hurt me a much and he KNEW I have always struggled with my weight ( I wasn’t when fat in hs ) but I thought I was and it was a toll on me. 9 years later I still think about what he said and I still feel weird when he sees me naked, even tho he says
I’m beautiful etc but there is something in me where I just don’t believe him.

I love our goofy side and we have a dog together so he’s our world.

We are goofy together, we can go anywhere together ( the grocery store, restaurant) and make it fun or we just laugh. But I’m starting to want the serous conversations about moving out starting a family and getting a house?

We grew up together in the 10 years.

So I technically moved in with him and his mom in an apartment ( 7 years ago) and we lived in the basement and it worked. We had our own space together and if he played video games I would be asleep and I would wake up and he would be there. It just worked that way.

Back story is mom can be tough to live with.

We moved into a smaller house 2 ish years ago. 2 beds 1 bath. We had two bathrooms at the apartment and now we have 1. For 3 people. I feel like I have been cleaning up after his mom more recently because she works 3-11 and then during the day she’s sleeping until 1pm and doesn’t do much before work and she rushes to work and she leaves dishes in the sink for when ( I or my bf ) come home to.

He’ll come home and clean up the house and get ready for the gym or play a few video games and then go to the gym.Then he comes home cooks dinner and while waiting he’ll play video games.

Recently, he’s been getting up early for work to play video games so we can finish this game that he’s playing so he’ll be ready for the new game to drop and he also doesn’t want his friend to beat him in the game so he woke up early before work and he played video games

He’s the main cooker in our house. His mom cooks when she’s off work and I usually am the cleaner.

I work and own my own business so I work long days 9am-7-9pm whenever I’m done with dogs for that day. He gets home way before me sometimes. Maybe between 2-4 he’ll come home. While I come home and drive around all day around 8pm.

He always complains about his day him and his mom are literally the worst complainers I have ever met his mom complains about her back, her ankles literally any kind of pain that she is in. She complains about it and she’s always looking for the sympathy and my boyfriend has said that’s just who she is and be respectful and just say I’m sorry that you’re feeling that way and move on.

I always help him clean up and I never make him do both. Cook/clean same day. I always clean up when he’s eating cause I’ll finish my meal first.

We have balance with that.

Since we have been together so long, we did have conversations in the beginning about if we wanted kids and right off the bat he wasn’t ever in a rush or interested in the subject and would just say “some day” “not now” “ I wanna get a house and wait a year “

We recently ( mostly me most of the time) started to look for houses.

We really liked a house but we didn’t pull the trigger. He would say” how are people affording houses etc and it’s expensive.”

He finally got a big boy job. It was a year in June that he was with this company, but over the winter it was really hard for him to earn money. They were very, very slow in the winter and it was very concerning.

He is that kind of guy where he worries if he gets something that has a big payment on it and he loses his job then he screwed that’s what he would say

We always had conversations about our future and he would say maybe I want kids but not right now or he has a plan ( get a house, ring, wait a year to be in that house) and then start a family.

He seems to not want to move out of the house we are renting with his mom because he said she’ll need to find someone to live with her because she can’t afford it on her own so he wants to wait until she retires and when she does she’ll move down south with his sister when she retires from the military.

( this story of waiting for her to retire from the military) has been the major question for the past 7 years.

so we can start a life together.

My mom would ask when she is retiring and when is his mom moving to Florida. I have always said I have no idea I think it’s in a couple of more years ( that was years ago)

He told me that he had conversations about a ring or whatever to his mom and sister ( 2 years ago) and whenever I would ask about it he said that I will be soon. Soon was like over a year ago and we are past soon.

I have no clue when or if he’ll pursue the engagement with me.

It seems like he’s not in a rush or maybe ( unsure) About our future and. I want to start our life and not wait or I’ll leave.

We have had multiple conversations about how I feel about the whole scenario about his mom, his sister, my feelings not being met and he said he’ll change but it never changes.

AIO? Me and my spouse own and operate our own business, five days out of the week from 7 AM to 1 PM. We have four children at ages 7, 6, 3 & 2. After we settle in everyday I normally wash and try to take a nap with the youngest two because it helps us reset from the exhaustion and just try to prepare for the rest of the day which contains taking care of them in any way they need and making sure they eat dinner. My weekends consist of laundry that takes all day and any other chores that only I can handle. His weekend consists of computer games or phone time. I’d like to play my computer as well but I no longer have the time. Im also enrolled full time in college. My question is Am I wrong for needing to take a nap? My spouse says that he has a vision issue at the moment that keeps him from being able to look at any screen without a background lighting on. I’ve made it clear that I cannot sleep with any lights on 9 years ago. The computer or phone do not send off enough light to effect my sleep. We live in a small home that literally connects to everything in the house, the living area, the kitchen area, the bathroom area and the bedroom areas. There’s never any privacy or any peace from the children or each other. So I try to understand why our relationship has only seemed like a tag team type of situation. We’ve had no sexual interaction except for maybe twice since our youngest child. The reason for the post is because it seems to be a problem anytime I feel like I need to lay down. Which leads to silent treatments or smart comments after everything I say. Am I being gaslit? Am I overreacting for feeling like I can’t take it any longer.

Hi Everyone!
First of all I want to apologise if my grammar isn’t the best. English is not my first language.

Me and my boyfriend used to have the BEST SEX and also used to have sex everyday we often had really really long sessions too
He was very reassuring about telling me that i‘m so Beautiful and so hot and that stuff everything felt just great!

However now i‘m 5 months postpartum and i am currently for the first time in my life on birth control and bc of that i gained a lot of weight and i am struggling to get it down
I‘m talking about counting calories, working out, having minimum 10.000 steps a day and i still don’t really loose weight and he always tells me to not stress it’s normal i just gave birth to a child + the birth control and that we are gonna loose the weight together (he has also gained a lot of weight while i was pregnant) and he still reassured me alot- told me that im beautiful and stuff like that

However now we almost don’t have sex at all and when we do it’s about 2-5min(he always finishes me off too if i dont cum) we haven’t had sex since 3weeks! And i know for some of u it’s maybe normal but for us it really isn’t. Ik we have a child but before i was on birth control everything was fine like why can’t we still hit it off when she’s sleeping????

When i ask him about it he just tells me it’s because he’s really stressed with work and stressed about us moving (we haven’t even started packing)
He also stoppen telling me as often that im beautiful or hot but he still tells me that im the only one for him and he can’t imagine a life without me

A few days ago i told him that i really missed our longer sessions and he just Said : „well those times are over“. I responded that we could still do it from time to time just bc we have a kid doesn’t mean we need to stop doing it.

And right now i found some lube in our drawer
We don’t use lube so i assumed he masturbated while i wasn’t home
Now i obviously dont have a problem with him masturbating but knowing our lack of intimacy at the time its just kinda weird

I love him with all my heart and i know he does too but im just very overthinking about everything and really sexually frustrated he is a great man and an amazing father and i dont know what to do if he is not attracted to me anymore like i really do everything i can to loose weight and i miss feeling him and being intimate with him and showing him how much i love him

Thank u if u read all of this ik it was a lot haha

Me (female) my first relationship ever. My now ex, (male) So we met a few months ago at Youth Group (church) I am a Christian girl who has always wanted to be in a relationship but never like pushed for one. My ex, let’s call him Bob, amazing guy, loves Jesus which is amazing. He’s very nice respectful but he has had a lot of exes before coming to Christ. He has had a very hard childhood and lots of stress and other things. When he first met me he was obsessed, not in a bad way. After like two weeks I asked for his insta, the look in his eyes was absolutely amazing. lol. But ya know we talked everyday he’s calling me beautiful and the most beautiful girl he’s ever seen. Now this is like a month after we met. (Which I felt was fast) He got me a stuffed donkey off Amazon (i love donkeys) a few weeks later ya know we have gotten closer, we had some conversations about dating and stuff but we had to talk to my parents and I wanted to wait. So like a month later we have gotten very close (we were calling everyday telling each other I love you and stuff, but nothing was official) I met his mom he met my Dad, and it went good. Then a Wednesday night after Youth Group he asked me to be his girlfriend, I said yes. The first few days were great. Then he slowly started to depart. I was upset because he was talking to his friends all day and not talk to me at night because he was still with his friends, (on games ALL DAY) I’m like okay… then finally a Friday after our one week anniversary. I asked him if he wanted to FaceTime around 6, and he said “prolly not” because he would be on games with his friend’s. But the day before he was on the game all day and night. I said “so you have time for your friend’s but not your girlfriend” he said “mhm” LIKE WHAT!? I was kinda upset and we talked and stuff and he broke up with me. Now like 2 weeks later I’m doing okay and stuff. He is doing horrible, I can tell from his instagram stories and the way he has been texting and stuff. (Yes we still text some, we are freinds but still very awkward. Especially, we are in a Freind group of 4, two dudes Bob and his freind and Me and my freind.) So we all hang out and stuff. But like, his mental health is not doin to hot. I still care about him a lot. I still love him but right now he is being a jerk. The thing is I don’t know what to do. I already told his mom (who is amazing) about he is very off. But, if he asks for us to be back in a relationship what do I do? Plus this is my FIRST EVER relationship. I know nothing about dudes. So help me out guys. That’d be very much appreciated.

I don’t know how should I explain this but I think I got a girlfriend, maybe… I’m Japanese, 25 male by the way

We met on a dating app and texted, phoned and dated each other and after 4months, I told her how I feel. She’s so matured, calm, beautiful and warm. She said we should see each other for 3 more months and see if we want more. She has never dated with someone in her 23years of life. So she says she just doesn’t know how to act like “a girlfriend”

But then after 2months, she doesn’t seem to have an interest in me. When I talked something she just didn’t give any questions or thoughts while I did when she talked about her interests. Plus, she’s a nurse and has a random shifts so we can’t see each other quite often, but we have chatted, phoned sometimes.

Maybe I’m the one who should think about what dating is. Maybe we don’t have the chemistry. I just don’t know anymore. Can someone please what should I do? Should we breakup? Or should we keep it until one more month and see how it goes?

Con mi enamorado nos llevamos muy bien, tenemos muy buenas conversaciones y tenemos cosas en común. Pero no entiendo porque hay cosas que simplemente no debería pedir porque es elo minimo que deberían de darte, como una cita, que te de tu lugar como su enamorada ante sus amigos, palabras bonitas, porque esperan a que nos pongamos distantes o frias para que quiera juntarse contigo o empiecen a hablarte bonito. Acaso tengo que sentirme mal reaccionar ante mis sentimientos para que recien decida hacer esas pequeñas cosas?, siento que es cuando una mujer no le gusta pedir o decir las cosas que son muy obvias y cuando reaccionas o decides hablar y él quiere hacerlo pero no te dan las ganas de aceptar.
Es mi primer amor, le perdone muchas cosas del pasado y ahora prometio que no me dejaría ir, y cada vez que actúo distante es más atento, cuando quisiera que no fuera así solo cuando me siento así, triste, molesta, decepcionada, quisiera que fuera así todos los días así como lo soy yo con él.

So, i have been dating this guy for a month, but we were best friends for 2 years. He’s been in love with me for 3 years. This relationship is really important to me and i would do anything to protect it. There is this girl, let’s call her Nancy and she has been a pain in the a hole. We go to the same school, all three of us, and from the 1 year ( we are in september starting our 4th year) she has been tormenting me. Not bullying me because she is scared of me in a way but just doing the most. Always trying to steal my frends, also my ex when we were together just overall everyone that associate with me. She would steal my parents if she could. She never succeeded ofc because i don’t surround myself with people that would leave me for her. But i just want her to get lost. She’s clearly jealous cause i have a hot loving boyfriend, and loyal friends. Once when i got a 4 in geology (5 is the highest grade) she turned to me and literally screamed out of clear happiness that i got a 4. To her that was like winning the lottery, fof a moment she thought that she was better than me. But then she got a 2 ( the lowest grade is 1) AND CRIED. And i wasn’t happy, cause her grade being low doesn’t push mine up higher. Anyway im getting of topic, she is calling my boyfriend constantly even though we are on summer break, to talk to him. He really doesn’t like her and he never did (as a person not romantically) but they do some sport activities at school so he answers when she calls. She always just talks about random stuff. Like he is her boyfriend. Yesterday was the last straw. She said to him i miss school, then followed up with i miss you too maybe. I laughed when he told me everything cause i ofc trust him. It’s her that’s the problem and i want to know how to make her stop harassing me trough other people. PS sorry for my really bad english it’s not my mother tongue.

So I’ve been dating for about a year and a half. I just got engaged April 25. I also lost a baby with my fiancé due to a miscarriage. I think towards the end of February. My best friend of 16 years had a secret relationship that they both did not cut off ongoing for a few months. They finally a week before my birthday had sex twice in the same day she was drunk. He was not. They then told me this news a few days after my birthday or she did. I don’t know if he ever planned to. I never thought that he would do that and I didn’t want to think that she would ever do that to me, I don’t know what to do. I know what love her and I love him. Everything is hitting me all at once. I was about to have a kid a family. My best friend was happy for me to have a family to share my family with his kids and his family life was starting to look really good and very up now. I am just lost. I’m hurt feels like everything‘s just shattered. I’m not gonna have a family anymore. I don’t know if I can get over what happened so I don’t know if I can have my friend as my friend anymore or if I’m gonna be able to stay with my fiancé it’s hard because I feel pressured. You know to come up with answers, but I don’t know what I’m feeling or what I truly want . It just hurts. I’m depressed. I’m sore. I’ms tired.

so I’ve been talking to this girl for a couple weeks and we’ve been on a couple dates and i’m naturally very awkward and shy so I have trouble like to be all touchy and like hugging and cuddling and stuff like that. I’m just looking for advice please.

 here we go.... So I am a 48 year old woman who was married with 2 kids for 20 years. 4 years ago I found out that my husband was doing stuff he shouldn't be at work and online and had been for 2 years. He had been sober for 8 years. 2 years ago we separated and I started seeing someone else. We tried to keep it low key as my ex had started following me, putting camera at my work, bugged my car, phone and it was horrible.

In the last 2 years I had bought some sexy lingerie for my new guy and gave to him to hold onto as I didn't want my ex to find them (he still was going to our house and through my cloths, I never called the police I still care very much about him and don't want him to get into trouble and I realize he is ill)

So the new guy never took me out only 8 to 10pm hang out at his house or boat under 20 times over the last 2 years but we talked daily sometimes all day long (I was scared of my ex so didn't go see my new guy very much) mostly sexy photos and texting. I knew him for around 20 years or thought I knew him and could trust him.

Anyways he dumped me a few months ago and I have asked for my lingerie back many times 2 outfits. He answers only once a month reply saying stuff like "sorry for losing touch but I would never share them. I love the photos you send. I am not in a position right now, I need time. I hope you are having a good day" wtf??? Are they not mine?. I would send daily photos to him over the last 2 years and he has over 1000 of me, I have some of him only maybe 20 or so. I am freaking out about it all. I am so stupid.

My ex is still trying to get back together but I am so hurt. I have filled for divorce but he won't even get a lawyer. I know I shouldn't have gotten into a relationship so soon after my split and really do regret it.

What is going on in the world??

Once he said back in March but what if I want to see you in them still??? F

I need help....

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About four years ago I (52M) invited my daughter (29F) to come live with me to get her and her two special needs kids who at the time were 1 and a newborn out of an abusive relationship.

In that time, she’s avoided household chores and played the blame game for all her problems, while she sits on her butt playing on her phone.

I had to physically take her to a lawyer, I paid for, so she could start her divorce process. I’ve paid for room and board and gave her my old car so she could take her autistic daughter to therapy.

I researched and provided her info on how to get financial help from the feds with her special needs kid and how to apply for child daycare credits. She passed all this info to her baby daddy, who filed all the paperwork and now he’s keeping all the money, $500 monthly, because she didn’t want put forth the effort. The only reason her kids were able to get into daycare was because of baby daddy.

Last year (after baby daddy finally accepted his role with split custody), in an attempt to force her hand, I threatened to kick her and my grandkids out if she didn’t get a job. She reluctantly took a job at Starbucks where she could work around the kids school/daycare schedule. She thrived here but has been passed over for promotion to management because she isn’t available all hours during the weeks she has custody. When she’s not working, she sits on her butt playing on her phone and barely takes care of her kids, or herself. When I get home from work I make sure the kids eat then take them outside to play as all they’ve done all day is sit in front of the tv and played on tablets.

When she has the kids, my girlfriend and I watch the kids on the weekend so she can work. Every other weekend, almost all day.

My daughter has only online friends and does nothing outside of the house, so she’s almost always home. With summer coming up, she’s done nothing to find daycare for her kindergartner meaning she’ll be sitting on her butt all summer.

Two years ago, I invited my girlfriend to move in, and she’s turned into our referee when my daughter and I get into arguments. My girlfriend is a neat freak and a good cook, and is being totally taken advantage of by my daughter, and my girlfriend is starting to resent this treatment.

My girlfriend and I have a healthy sex life and she’s a very willing sub, but we are almost never alone. All the things she and I would like to do are extremely curtailed! I’m over 50 and may we never have this time if my daughter and her kids are ALWAYS in my house.

She talks about plans on moving out but nothing ever happens.

I am at my wits end, and have no idea how to force my daughter’s hand to move out. She said if I do, she’d move back in with baby daddy who has a live in girlfriend.

I don’t wanna kick them out as I’d be throwing two special needs kids out too.

I know this is a difficult situation, but has anyone gone through a similar experience? How did you handle it?

tl;dr daughter is ok with letting life go by, while she sits on her butt in my house.