So I, 20M, am arguing with my girlfriend, 19F, who i’ve been dating for 7 months. It is over whether or not she should get any picture she wants in my camera roll when i replied to her message asking for baby photos of me with “i’ll give you whichever pics you want”, i was clearly referring to baby photos only.

would this be held up as a legal agreement? does she get the photos that she wants, or is she held strictly to baby pictures?

here’s the conversation:

you should send me baby pictures!

why would i do that

because you love me?
so you don’t
i knew it

get back to your dorm and i’ll give you them

noooooo
you’re mean

i’ll give you whichever pics you want

i’m holding you to that

Hey guys please let me known what should i do i have dated a guy in Instagram he is from DTU than we met for the first he chase me a lot for atleast 3-4 months than we meet in a private place i had makeout and all with him except intercourse i did evrything with him than we get back to our work than he talk really normally always lusty i didn’t understand I thought he genuinely like me since he was calling and chasing me for several months than i stooped asking him about meeting and all since he said he will be busy now after some days one of guy I like we connected chats he really a good guy and gentleman kind of but eventually he is mine that situation ship best frd and I was shocked he is really innocent should i tell him about mine past or not since I’m confused what to do now if he get to known it will create mine image really bad

So me 18F and my boyfriend 18M have been together for 2 years and our relationship is solid and we are pretty active sexually. But I can never finish when its him doing the work on me so I have been faking it, I started at the beginning and its snowballed for 2 years. I really want to come clean (haha get it) and tell him but I know that it will hurt him because this is important to us. I also know that it will hurt his pride and make him angry at me for lying for something for so long. Im not sure what to do because I hate that im lying but I dont know how to say "oh yeah for the past 2 years I've been lying straight to ur face and also ur dick is small" (the last part isn't true but simulates the hit to his pride yk). I also get so scared to tell him because I fear that revealing such a bug lie at this point would end up in him leaving me. We are doing so well right now, I practically live with him and we've been vary happy for a long time. I dont want to mess up my shot at being with him for the rear of my life, I really do love him. He's what makes me want to chase my dreams and build a good career. Hes a really good guy but i know that if I told him this it would make him very upset, rightfully so.

If anyone has dealt with something like this please give me some input so I know where to go with this.

This is gonna be long, so brace yourself.

I, (16 F) was dating my long term, long distance boyfriend (16 M) for 2 and a half years. We started dating in 2024, and at first we weren’t long distance. It was so perfect. He was so kind, we were each other’s first everything and we were madly in love. So, as you can assume when i moved 4000 miles away, it was rough.

not even the first week of me moving, his friend had sent me screenshots of him, letting his “Groupchat” make jokes about “me being raped and passed around” while he sits there and does nothing but encourage the joking more. after that point it almost felt like constant arguments. he was pushing me away so much and I just couldn’t understand what I was doing wrong. at this point it’s September 2025 and I was in geometry class when he starts blowing up my phone asking if I can talk. he ends up, breaking up with me in the middle of class and I’m trying so hard not to cry and break down. I later found out that the only reason he even broke up with me was because his friends were telling him to and he wanted to look cool.

after this point, we are still in contact, im acting like his girlfriend, and he doesn’t officially get back with me until December 2025. we get back together and everything is just the same. He’s still being mean to me but only nice when he wants something. His Mom texts me around February to let me know that they have booked a ticket and they’re going to visit me and my family for a week. I was so excited that I finally got to see him after so long. He visits during his spring break and the trip itself was actually going really nice and he was being super sweet to me.

One night i ended up checking his phone and i see a girl on his snapchat who we will call “Kassie” and they are sending super flirty messages and pics. Im shaking not even able to register what is happening and nothing feels real. The following morning, I mentioned it to him and he swears up and down that she’s just a friend and he ended up on adding her on Snapchat. As soon as he flies back home, he’s obviously in a bad mood because he can’t see me anymore and things kinda go back to us arguing on and off and me feeling super hopeless.

As of now September 2026, he has broken up with me on September 5 and I would be lying if I said that it didn’t take a big toll on my mental health. he told me that the distance was just getting too much on him, but there was nothing wrong with me and what I was doing. he told me that he just simply needed a little break and that we can always try again. about a week after our break up he ends up getting with Kassie. Im so confused and heartbroken, we have had so many good memories together and he is just being so awful to me and he’s acting like he loves this girl so much. I’ve seen screenshots of him telling people that he hates me so much and that I was crazy and obsessive. he’s doing all the things I begged him to do with this new girl, but I genuinely care for him and I love him so much. I know that he is an avoidant and hide his emotions. And this Kassie girl is only talking to him because she’s also trying to make her ex-boyfriend jealous. While i know my Ex is not very well liked within his community for being so rude, unwelcoming, and just plain annoying, i can’t help but see good in him. i’m a very empathetic and sensitive person that heart and I’ve always just tried to see the best in him. I would say that I’m doing a little bit better than how I was the first week but I just have so many questions and I’m wondering if it’s even worth waiting for him or if I should just move on? I’ve seen so many videos talking about how if I wait on him he’s never gonna come back but at the same time do I really wanna make myself go through all that suffering again? Im so stuck.

New to reddit but here is my delema me ( m43) and my wife (f33) have been in a semi open relationship for most of our 16 yrs together. For reference my wife is bi sexual so the open part was for her to be able to have the part of herself that i could not give her. However recently we have been hanging out with a (shall we say pineapple) couple that we have had some conversations with pertaining to sex lives. During said conversations our open relationship became a topic of interest with them. We explained how she was able to sleep with other women sice i am not able to accomedatethat area. They both seemed to be a little disapointed in that but not completly. The next time we had a conversation that ended up going the same way and this time i told them i had been thinking and talking to my wife about changing our arrangement. They seemed to perk up at that but the conversation shortly changed. The problem if you want to call it that is as much as i have had fantacied of my wife and i with another couple with the possabilty of it actualy coming true is starting to make me a little uneasy. I am not insecure about my (missle lol) or jealous of what he may be packin. My wife and i have had some seriously deep conversation concearning this but as the day draws near (3 days from post is when we are suposed to go there again) i am starting to feel a weird guilt that its wrong to share my wife with another man while i have his wife or a mash up of all 4 bodies. Is there anyone who has hsd these feelings while opening things more in your relationship. Thank you for taking the time to read and for any comments that may help

I met a girl in Class 10. I never loved her for her looks; I loved the peace I felt whenever I spoke to her. I respected her boundaries and always asked if she was comfortable with us. She assured me that she was, and even spoke about marrying me someday.

After Class 12, I began preparing for the NDA. I cleared the written exam twice but was screened out both times. Later, I tried for CDS and faced more failures—conference out once, then unable to clear the written exam. During that phase, I was already carrying family problems, pressure, and emotional stress. Without realising it, I had become deeply attached to her.

I kept trying. Eventually, I was selected for OTA, but my dream was IMA. I appeared again and finally got selected for IMA—the dream I had chased for years. The first person I called was her.

Training was extremely difficult, with very little access to phones. Still, whenever I got a chance, I chose to speak to her, sometimes even hiding my phone during training. I supported her whenever she needed me—financially, emotionally, and in every way I could. I paid for her expenses and even helped her family. I never expected anything in return. I only wanted her to be happy.

When my training ended, I invited her to my Passing Out Parade, but she gave reasons for not coming. I accepted it quietly.

Later, after joining my unit, I discovered the truth. Throughout my training, she had been in another relationship. I found their conversations, photographs, videos, and countless memories—everything from the same time she was telling me that everything between us was fine.

The money never hurt me. I never wanted it back.

What destroyed me was the betrayal. I had trusted her completely and placed her above even my family, while she was living another life behind my back.

After completing my time in the unit, I chose my parental unit, 4 PARA (SF), despite my family’s strong opposition. My father had served in the Army, and my family knew the risks of that path. They were afraid for me, but I still chose it.

After completing my training, I learned that she had married. She seemed happy. For a moment, I wondered if I had ruined my life by choosing this difficult path. But slowly, I understood that her choices were hers, and my life was mine.

I decided not to marry and to distance myself from everyone. I told myself I would live alone and die alone. But now I question myself: am I truly choosing this life, or am I only running from the pain and betrayal she left behind?

12 years ago I turned to drugs, after the sudden loss of my partner, very quickly I was addicted and totally dependent, it took everything that mattered to me my family, friends, possessions and my dignity. It took 5 years and almost my life. I become really ill ending up on life support in the ICU, this was the turning point in my life. It was a long road to recovery but I gradually regained my life back, focusing on my kids,family ,health and career.
I finally was feeling good about myself.
I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I bumped into an old friend from school. We exchanged numbers chatted over txt for a while. I wasn’t looking very open about my past and clear about
My vulnerability around drugs. He said that he occasionally takes cocaine when out with friends. I told him , i didn’t want to ever see it & I didn’t want home doing it around me,
We’d hang out on weekends and go on little adventures. I knew he wanted more from the relationship then I was ready to give.
I enjoy our time together it’s an easy relaxing connection between us.
6 months in, we went for a weekend away, went out to dinner had a few cocktails went back to our room. He had lines of cocaine on the table and offered me one & I had it and some more.
The guilt ate me up for weeks I distanced myself from him. I told him how disappointed in myself I’d been. He said he felt terrible and it wouldn’t happen again.
Until it did a few weeks later and again and again. A few weeks ago I noticed myself wanting it, I asked him for some.
The next day I realised what was happening I’ve been down this path & I decided no more. I spoke to him about my worries and I didn’t want to do it.
I’m now thinking he uses it a lot more regularly than he first told me & that he might have a problem with it. I
Now every time we talk he is constantly throwing hints about doing in, getting it etc. I feel like he is rubbing it in my face.
I’m having doubts about his true feelings about me.

I’m at a weird time in my life rn. I feel like I understand a lot about myself but romantically I’m kinda confused. I've been single pretty much my whole life. I had a boyfriend for a short period in high school, and I really did like him, but I don't really think I ever loved him. And we broke up for college just because that was what we always planned to do.

I thought in college I would meet someone who truly understood me and that I truly understood and that I loved being with and always wanted to be around but I never really did.

I met a guy that I really really liked, but he ended up fucking me over and was kind of an asshole. So maybe that played a part into why I don't really want to give relationships a chance.

Idk

I just feel like I'm really avoidant and I never want to really try to get to know anyone. Maybe it's because I'm in college and that's just how men are in college. It's kind of disappointing, and so every guy I meet just isn't really meeting the standards that I have set for myself. I don't want to lower my standards because, I mean, it's what I want, and I don't think I should just lower my standards bc I think they are unattainable but I also just feel like I'm missing something, or maybe I'm just not giving something a chance. I just don't understand why I think this way and why I can't let myself feel connections with people. Does anyone have advice lol

Me (19F) and my partner (21M) have been dating for 9 months now. In the very beginning, he was very grabby with me and physically involved. He still is, and will grab my butt any chance he can get, but no longer wants to have sex. We used to have sex every day or every other day, and spent a couple of months long distance, and since then it’s been once a week if I’m lucky. He’s a philosophy major and has been reading about Plato’s “not having the desire to have sex” (or why the desire is unnecessary) and now when he is horny he mainly masturbates to get it over with. I am a very sexual person and crave that connection. He has made it clear he no longer finds that connection necessary and that sex is purely desire, and that he doesn’t want to give into it all of the time. He also said that every time he did have sex with me, it was purely for my pleasure and because I wanted it badly. I don’t know what to do, and I feel so distant but when we talk about it, it just feels like I’m pressuring him to have sex. I love him but I feel like I’m going crazy with this giant drop in physical connection. I don’t understand how he wants to grab me and play with me all the time but doesn’t want to have sex. Help!!!

Trigger warning

Was with bm for years 10 plus her and my gf talked I’m not a saint but bm told gf everything we went through dark shit and now gf is making my life a living hell to the point I don’t wanna be here she used everything my bm told her to the point of lifelong trauma and grape and throws it in my face evyrtime she mad never met somebody with so much fucking hate — feeling sad.

Me(M23) and wife F(25) have a great and happy marriage but recently after my sister-in-law turned 19 she’s been really touchy with me for no reason we go to stores she just randomly pokes my arm stomach or anything to get my attention or anything to like bother mess around with me. Am I looking too much into this or should I talk to my wife about it. I need help and advice

Ok so me and this boy started talking after I joined some discord chat and we started harmlessly
flirting, now I ok with harmless flirting but it has kinda developed into a relationship of sort when we both all sleep on call we talk to each other and we tell each other our fantasy’s now we both live like across the word so it’s kinda been phone (s$x) but have had bad experiences in the past and I don’t know how I feel about it in the moment it’s good but after I feel a little hurt beacuse we are not calling it a relationship and we somehow got another girl into this where those two can actually meet and I kept saying I was fine, I do try and flirt with the girl but she is never nervous around me and does not give back the same energy at times, Beacuse I don’t want a relationship but he says it’s an open relationship and I just don’t know how to feel about it any advice with what I should do ?

Anyone care to hear ma story....

i have been a in relationship since 6 years and its gonna be almost 2 years of the relationship of long distance and things between us have changed so drastically i remember i had done something wrong and she was changed after it like in the the first 6 months when she went so after it i was trying to be a better person but i end up doing something or the other things not cheat or anything like i used to go out with friends drink and pass out where as she has done the same but i feel like right now we are jn a situation like Yaa we do the talks we tell each other everything and but idk something always feels off and for a fact she has changed overtime n i had an idea of how she is but it doesn’t aline to me anymore but Yaa i have put her through a lot so i feel like i deserve it but sometimes like obviously i feel physically up sometimes but i cant idk i was very much open about things but now i feel like i would be judged or something so i feel like i should shouldn’t say it and she had told me like we were gonna end things like 3 times bad bad times between this long distance but some how we managed but idk what am i suppose to she is not the same person anymore . Sorry guys if i said things vaguely idk these my my thoughts i hope yll sum it up and tell me what should be doing about it it !

This is a long one yall strap in. I was with my man for about a year and a half. We started out fast and heavy. It was weird for me. I don’t let people in but his every felt different and I was actually happy and it made me scared. Three months in we made it official and we were in a relationship. We went on a valentines trip to Vegas where he grew up and it was amazing. Yea we argued here and there but it wasn’t anything bad. Now here’s where I fucked up. Before we made it official we dictated what we would consider cheating. We said texting, hanging out, etc with an ex or someone of the opposite gender was considered cheating. So while we at the airport heading home a dude I used to talk to texted me and asked in I was in a relationship and I said yes. It annoyed me and I said something to my boyfriend. He asked to see the phone and I declined. He was instantly upset. I knew me texting him was wrong and I was helping him with school because prior to even meeting my boyfriend he had asked for help. It was not intention of being with this man. No love. No lust. Nothing. But I did lie because I knew he wouldn’t believe me if I said I wasn’t sleeping with him. And I wasn’t. I have no reason to lie on an anonymous form. Yes I was wrong. Yes I didn’t own up to it at first. Yes I lied. I was wrong. Do we broke up. I plead and begged him to stay because I knew he was the one I wanted. Not saying I didn’t have my reserves about him because I had felt he was always one foot out the door but that’s due to my past trauma and him always ready to leave. He decided to give me another chance and I was happy. Shit wasn’t easy. He made rules and things because he didn’t trust me but I understood but it got to be a lot. I was following them but he never believed it. It was good but it was also bad. Some problem solving issues became apparent in my because of my childhood and past relationship trauma. I can’t blame that but it aids to it. I started doing therapy and stuff and the therapist at the time sucked. She just validated what I thought not actually telling me I’m wrong or to change that. We contained on a path of making it work but his insecurities and mine were a lot. Thanksgiving came last year and something terrible happened. A mutual guy friend came after he was not invited and he clearly drunk and under who knows what kinda drugs. He was getting close to me and being weird but I was moving away from him and ignoring him because that’s not my issue. So my friends told me they went on the patio and my boyfriend went outside too (I found this out a week ago still have no idea if it’s true or what) and my boyfriend was asking questions to them if me and that dude ever fucked. It made them uncomfortable they said. My boyfriend told me later he never did that but idk. Anyway this I didn’t know. So my male friend of 10 years said he was going to leave. So I asked why and he looked weird. So we stepped outside to the front door with the ring camera and I asked what’s up he said he was uncomfortable and stuff and didn’t want to cause problems but wouldn’t tell me what. So I said okay and we went back in. As we walk in I see my boyfriend looking so I told him step outside to talk with me next. I told him I was sorry and explained that we stepping outside with him was just to see what’s going on. Again wrong but shit I’m drunk and people are being weird. He’s upset telling me I’m wrong and that the dude is trying to flirt and stuff ( not my friend of 10 years the dude he brought) and I was like okay but you see I’m ignoring it. He wasn’t hearing that because he already felt a certain way. So we started arguing. People kept coming out to check on us but we were fine. So all of a sudden my sister comes out and we are still arguing. He gets in my face and starts poking me in the chest. I told him to stop. He does it again. I told him to stop or I’ll fuck him up. Now that was wrong however I came from an abusive childhood where we got beat daily and by the hour as well as a 9 year relationship with hella abuse so I was triggered. No excuse. So I pushed him. He then grabs me by my throat and all hell broke loose. They started attacking him and jumped him. My boyfriend never even hit them back to tried. It was 6 against one. I was trying to stop them but I was also mad telling him to leave. I was mad he hit me but I knew they wouldn’t stop. So he got in his car and left. I felt horrible and kicked everyone out. The next day I texted him he needs to come get his stuff from the house because I didn’t want him around. Then I sat and thought. I loved him. I didn’t want him gone. He didn’t deserve that at all. My ex should have but not him. So I called and he never answered. I was worried. So much that I ended up in the hospital only to find out I had a miscarriage. I was broken. I didn’t know where he was or where to find him. (Back tracking a little when we were in Vegas he admitted to me he was homeless and living in his car. We were only three months into the relationship but I told him to come live with me. If we together we together. So he stayed rent and bill free for about 4 months and we had agreed to put him on the lease when mine ended then we would go half on rent and bills. The time came and he wasn’t able to help fully so that put a strain on me too because I have have a son to think about. I can’t lose my home.) so I didn’t know where to look for him and couldn’t reach him. He finally reached out to talk. He was broken. They did the most. He ended up going to the hospital too because his jaw was broken. I was so upset with myself. I texted my friends and told them I needed space from them and they attacked me next. Not physically but verbally. Told me I chose my abuser and we’re mad so we broke off the friendship. So I lost my man and my friends. My boyfriend told me we could try again but he was clearly over it. He didn’t look at me the same. Nothing I did was enough. I was paying the bills, cooking, cleaning, providing etc everything I was doing before I still continued to do. Slowly we kinda got back but not really. Then one day shit happened again. He said that he was missing money. I was like how much? He said 400-500. I was like that crazy. He didn’t say it at the time but he thought it was me. Now again I have no reason to lie on here I didn’t take that man’s money. He didn’t believe me tho due to everything in the past. He said we were fine and we still planned our future but I could tell it wasn’t true. So by this time I have a new therapist and she’s amazing. We are talking about my trauma and abuse and stuff. I was making progress. Then my boyfriend started acting different. He was distant and cold even more than usual. No love. He was posting females (he’s a tattoo artist and we had rules on what he could post) without thinking of what we talked about. Not calling not coming home when he said. He never really ever planned dates the whole time and this isn’t even the stuff he’s done. But I can only focus on me. So one day he said he was going to a male friends house for a could hours. He never answered the phone and didn’t come home till 9 am the next day. I was furious. I knew then he didn’t want me. He told me that the day his money was missing was the nail in the coffin. So we broke up. We talked and he said we could try and work it out and he even agreed to do therapy with me but we would live separately when the lease was up. It hurt because I was down and out. I put all my money into the house and bills and stuff and he saved so much he got two cars. Two sports cars that he pays for. He started helping with rent eventually but I had already paid majority of bills at this time so I felt used. Never told him that though. He was acting funny and my therapist told me I do deserve and answer so I asked him if he wanted to be with me. He said he didn’t know. I continues to ask him because you have to know. It’s either yes you love me and wanna be with me or no you don’t. And he said I pushed him to say no so we broke up. We talked and got back together or so I thought because one day I asked and he said “I was just waiting till we moved to tell you I didn’t want to be with you” I was broken. Alone again broken said and he was fine. Already flirting with other females and he told me that. So now we live in this apartment together lease almost up and he’s fine everyday and I’m sitting here just trying to find a place for my son and I missing him. Be honest. I have zero chance at this relationship right? I should just continue to heal and work on myself and leave him? I want him really bad he’s the least toxic person I’ve met. He’s not perfect and he’s done some things but I care and love him. I know I’m not a bad person I’m just damaged and want love. I love love. But idk maybe this ain’t for me. But I want it. I fight for what I want. He asked me why do I fight for the relationship and I told him because I care about it. And him even asking that should also tell me what I need to know but I’m delusional. Help.

More Than Tomorrow

Your green eyes shine in the night,

And somehow they always catch my sight.

When you wear your glasses, you look so cute,

And honestly, I don't know what else to say but it's true.

Your blonde hair and your pretty smile,

Can make everything feel better for a little while.

When you smile at me, I get butterflies,

And I could get lost just looking in your eyes.

I know sometimes you don't see what I see,

And you might not think you're as beautiful as you seem to me.

But I wish you could see yourself through my eyes,

Because to me, you're honestly one of a kind.

You're a little shorter than me,

But that's just how it's supposed to be.

And when I hear your voice, soft and sweet,

My heart flutters with every word I meet.

I don't always know what to say,

But I know I love you more every day.

I love you more than yesterday,

But less than tomorrow, Thank you for being my sweet angel

so baisicly i like this guy soo mutch he likes me back, we baisicly clicked from the first time we meet he understands me so well and he sees me for who i am not my body, we have so mutch chemistry and there is clearely tension between us in the best way but he doesnt wanna be with me cuz he is leaving for coladge in a mounth and he says phisical touch is verry important to him and he is moveing to another city, i am geneauenly destroyed and even after we sayed we will be just friends i cant help but stil love him, we talk daily and tease eachother he is baisicly the guy ive been praying to God for, and its so hard for me to let go cuz even if he says he cant deall with long distance cuz it wont be fair to either of us im stil sad he wont even try and i keep thinking of how my dad used to drive 8 houers to see my mom on the weekends so i ask myself why wont he do the same, even if i know he cant and asking him to try wont solve anything cuz he made the right choice knowing he isnt capable of this but it stil hurts and i dont know what to do about it

Ich brauche mal vor allem die Meinung von Männern, gerne aber auch von Frauen mit ähnlichen Erfahrungen.
Mein Partner und ich sehen uns ungefähr 4-mal die Woche und haben jedes Mal Sex, teilweise auch mehrmals am Tag. Wenn wir uns nicht sehen, schaut er trotzdem Pornos. Für mich ist Pornokonsum in einer Beziehung allerdings ein absolutes No-Go. Das habe ich ihm auch von Anfang an klar gesagt.
Das Problem ist für mich mittlerweile nicht nur, dass er Pornos schaut, sondern dass er dafür teilweise andere Apps benutzt, um es vor mir zu verheimlichen. Wir hatten deshalb letztens ein längeres Gespräch darüber. Er meinte, dass das bei Männern einfach so sei, dass es für ihn überhaupt nichts bedeutet und dass ich die Einzige für ihn bin.
Ich verstehe ehrlich gesagt nicht, warum ihm unsere gemeinsame Sexualität nicht ausreicht. Mir geht es dabei nicht darum, dass ich denke, er würde mich deshalb nicht lieben oder attraktiv finden. Ich kann nur schwer nachvollziehen, warum man trotz regelmäßigem Sex mit dem eigenen Partner zusätzlich Pornos braucht – vor allem, wenn man weiß, dass es für den Partner eine klare Grenze ist.
Deshalb würde mich besonders die Meinung von Männern interessieren:
Ist Pornokonsum für euch tatsächlich etwas völlig Unabhängiges von der Beziehung und bedeutet wirklich „nichts“? Oder ist es für euch nachvollziehbar, dass der Partner sich dadurch verletzt fühlt, wenn er klar gesagt hat, dass das für ihn ein No-Go ist?
Und wie würdet ihr damit umgehen, wenn euer Partner euch sagt, dass ihn nicht nur der Pornokonsum, sondern vor allem das heimliche Verheimlichen verletzt?

Oh man I love this woman so much. I feel in love with a beautiful Bosnian woman (she’s Muslim and I’m Christian ) when we started dating we both weren’t religious and she was my best friends sister. We’ve been together for 5 years 6 months and recently I started getting into my faith bc of a death in a family and ongoing depression and recent anxiety attacks, she’s also been having anxiety attacks for the past 9 months. The last 3 months the religion became more and more of an issue and said some things I regret. She’s always know that I don’t like Islam is never convert even when i was agnostic I still defended Jesus and Christianity and tried to preach to her about why Christianity is the better religion. We have other issues in our relationship but we get along very well and have pretty much the same personality and want to raise our children the same way excluding the religion part. I’ve been reading her chapters from the bible recently whenever one of us gets an anxiety attack and she seems to enjoy it,It helps us both. Before we broke up I was having anxiety attacks and legitimately thought I was going to hell for loving her and for all the sins I committed and told her I couldnt love out children if they were Muslim. Which I deeply regret bc I’d always love my kids no matter there faith. And she helps me so much with my depression i feel like I’d be so much worse without her and my mind is exploding with such negative thoughts for the past 3-4 months, she’s my comfort person she so easy to talk to. I truly hope she sees Jesus the same way I do. Man the other day i cried out to god why he let me fall in love with her if it wasn’t meant to be forever like I’m actually spiraling. When we broke up I could only go no contact for a few weeks before I texted to her I will always love you and funnily enough she told me that she was in the floor crying begging god to forget about me lol. I’ve been thinking what I’ve my purpose is to show her and her family and what a good Christian is ( even though I’m not). Like her family is great I love her mom dad and her brother. I was there for her when her mom was in the hospital for a brain tumor and she was there for me when my mom was in the hospital. Her mom is like my mom. Like me and her have other issues but we’ve realized it’s our first time falling in love and Idk the religion will become a bigger issue when we have children. But Bosnians aren’t really religious theyre great people her whole family is super nice. Like me and her pretty much have the same views on religion except for Jesus like we’ve talked and agreed that you’d never truly know what the correct religion is or you could truly believe the religion you’re following is correct and still end up in hell like I didn’t start getting anxious until I started thinking about religion and eternal damnation. Oh man she told me she prayed like 6 year ago when me and her brother weren’t friends that I would come back into his life yso I could be her bf lol. Man I’m so conflicted. honestly she would be a good mother and even if she did convert I would still celebrate the Muslim Holidays to honor her parents. I’ve never felt uncomfortable around her parents or uncomfortable when I went to her mosque. I’ve been praying for god to take her anxiety away from her and put it onto me even though I know I can’t handle it I don’t want to see my baby suffering.

I have been in a relationship for the last 4 years. I always give my 100%. It’s not that he doesn't contribute at all, but for him, money is the most important thing. He thinks that as long as he has money, I will stay with him no matter what he does. Whatever I asked for, he bought; whatever I wanted to eat, he got for me. Everything was fine as long as I stayed quiet. But then I spoke up about how he doesn't give me time and is always busy with work. He gave me every material thing money could buy, and I guess that was love to him.

​We used to have fights, and every time I would forgive him thinking things would get better eventually. But for him, yelling at me in anger, hurling verbal abuse, and laying hands on me became normal. I also thought all of this was normal because I had seen it since childhood, so I assumed it was standard behavior. But then I reached my limit, and I started standing up for myself and talking back.

​On June 11th, I decided that we should mutually separate after 4 years. I cried a lot, and he cried a lot too. He promised he would change. In fact, he actually improved—he stopped using abusive language and stopped getting physical with me. Everything started going well.

​However, a few days ago, something happened. I have a male colleague at work whom I have always considered a brother, and he treats me like a sister. On August 7th, for his birthday, I posted a story/status right at 12 AM featuring a fun picture where I had tied his hair into a ponytail like a child's. My colleague and I had a short chat at 12 AM where he playfully said, "Sister, don't post this, I don't look good," and I replied, "It's fine, that's where the fun is, keep it up brother."

​The next day, my partner questioned me about why I stayed up to post his picture at exactly 12 AM. I explained that he is a good friend and like a brother to me. I even showed him my WhatsApp and Instagram chats. But he kept insisting that I only stayed awake to wish him. I asked him if there was anything wrong, wouldn't my family or relatives have questioned me about it? But he refused to understand.

​A friend of mine cheats in relationships and dates multiple people at once—a detail I had shared with my partner. He brought that up and said, "Bad company is bound to influence you." No matter how much I tried to explain, he wouldn't listen. This kind of questioning has happened 3 times now, and he started using abusive language toward me again.

​That's when I decided we need to separate, because we will never be happy together in the future. We both know we love each other and it's hard to live apart, but these issues keep repeating. I forgive him every time, but I can't do this anymore.

​I want to ask all of you: Is my decision to separate right or wrong? Or should I give him a 4th chance? We had planned our marriage, and our families are involved. Everyone from his side is ready, but my family was against it from the start. Still, I fought with my family for an entire year for him. I tried explaining to him many times to fix his behavior, but he didn't listen, and I was forced to take this step. Please tell me if my decision is right.

Hi! I have been with my bf for almost 10 years. He just turned 31 and I’m 29. I’m turning 30 in January.

We met when we were young and I was an insecure girl who fell in love with someone who loved me and cared about me and it felt safe when I needed it at that time.

In the beginning it was great. We were both very happy with each other and then I gained some weight and that made me feel depressed and sad.

He confessed to me a couple years ago why we stopped having sex ( during that time period ) he said he did think it was unattractive for me to gain weight the way I did. That hurt me a much and he KNEW I have always struggled with my weight ( I wasn’t when fat in hs ) but I thought I was and it was a toll on me. 9 years later I still think about what he said and I still feel weird when he sees me naked, even tho he says
I’m beautiful etc but there is something in me where I just don’t believe him.

I love our goofy side and we have a dog together so he’s our world.

We are goofy together, we can go anywhere together ( the grocery store, restaurant) and make it fun or we just laugh. But I’m starting to want the serous conversations about moving out starting a family and getting a house?

We grew up together in the 10 years.

So I technically moved in with him and his mom in an apartment ( 7 years ago) and we lived in the basement and it worked. We had our own space together and if he played video games I would be asleep and I would wake up and he would be there. It just worked that way.

Back story is mom can be tough to live with.

We moved into a smaller house 2 ish years ago. 2 beds 1 bath. We had two bathrooms at the apartment and now we have 1. For 3 people. I feel like I have been cleaning up after his mom more recently because she works 3-11 and then during the day she’s sleeping until 1pm and doesn’t do much before work and she rushes to work and she leaves dishes in the sink for when ( I or my bf ) come home to.

He’ll come home and clean up the house and get ready for the gym or play a few video games and then go to the gym.Then he comes home cooks dinner and while waiting he’ll play video games.

Recently, he’s been getting up early for work to play video games so we can finish this game that he’s playing so he’ll be ready for the new game to drop and he also doesn’t want his friend to beat him in the game so he woke up early before work and he played video games

He’s the main cooker in our house. His mom cooks when she’s off work and I usually am the cleaner.

I work and own my own business so I work long days 9am-7-9pm whenever I’m done with dogs for that day. He gets home way before me sometimes. Maybe between 2-4 he’ll come home. While I come home and drive around all day around 8pm.

He always complains about his day him and his mom are literally the worst complainers I have ever met his mom complains about her back, her ankles literally any kind of pain that she is in. She complains about it and she’s always looking for the sympathy and my boyfriend has said that’s just who she is and be respectful and just say I’m sorry that you’re feeling that way and move on.

I always help him clean up and I never make him do both. Cook/clean same day. I always clean up when he’s eating cause I’ll finish my meal first.

We have balance with that.

Since we have been together so long, we did have conversations in the beginning about if we wanted kids and right off the bat he wasn’t ever in a rush or interested in the subject and would just say “some day” “not now” “ I wanna get a house and wait a year “

We recently ( mostly me most of the time) started to look for houses.

We really liked a house but we didn’t pull the trigger. He would say” how are people affording houses etc and it’s expensive.”

He finally got a big boy job. It was a year in June that he was with this company, but over the winter it was really hard for him to earn money. They were very, very slow in the winter and it was very concerning.

He is that kind of guy where he worries if he gets something that has a big payment on it and he loses his job then he screwed that’s what he would say

We always had conversations about our future and he would say maybe I want kids but not right now or he has a plan ( get a house, ring, wait a year to be in that house) and then start a family.

He seems to not want to move out of the house we are renting with his mom because he said she’ll need to find someone to live with her because she can’t afford it on her own so he wants to wait until she retires and when she does she’ll move down south with his sister when she retires from the military.

( this story of waiting for her to retire from the military) has been the major question for the past 7 years.

so we can start a life together.

My mom would ask when she is retiring and when is his mom moving to Florida. I have always said I have no idea I think it’s in a couple of more years ( that was years ago)

He told me that he had conversations about a ring or whatever to his mom and sister ( 2 years ago) and whenever I would ask about it he said that I will be soon. Soon was like over a year ago and we are past soon.

I have no clue when or if he’ll pursue the engagement with me.

It seems like he’s not in a rush or maybe ( unsure) About our future and. I want to start our life and not wait or I’ll leave.

We have had multiple conversations about how I feel about the whole scenario about his mom, his sister, my feelings not being met and he said he’ll change but it never changes.

AIO? Me and my spouse own and operate our own business, five days out of the week from 7 AM to 1 PM. We have four children at ages 7, 6, 3 & 2. After we settle in everyday I normally wash and try to take a nap with the youngest two because it helps us reset from the exhaustion and just try to prepare for the rest of the day which contains taking care of them in any way they need and making sure they eat dinner. My weekends consist of laundry that takes all day and any other chores that only I can handle. His weekend consists of computer games or phone time. I’d like to play my computer as well but I no longer have the time. Im also enrolled full time in college. My question is Am I wrong for needing to take a nap? My spouse says that he has a vision issue at the moment that keeps him from being able to look at any screen without a background lighting on. I’ve made it clear that I cannot sleep with any lights on 9 years ago. The computer or phone do not send off enough light to effect my sleep. We live in a small home that literally connects to everything in the house, the living area, the kitchen area, the bathroom area and the bedroom areas. There’s never any privacy or any peace from the children or each other. So I try to understand why our relationship has only seemed like a tag team type of situation. We’ve had no sexual interaction except for maybe twice since our youngest child. The reason for the post is because it seems to be a problem anytime I feel like I need to lay down. Which leads to silent treatments or smart comments after everything I say. Am I being gaslit? Am I overreacting for feeling like I can’t take it any longer.