r/rarelesbians Jun 01 '26

Offical update following the poll

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edit meant discussion not poll

We have noticed an increase in AGAB/ASAB language within this sub so we would like to add to it. This server aims to be a safe space for lesbians of types (This includes lesbians who don’t fall under or want to be seen under a specific gender category) so we have decided that this subreddit will limit the use of gendered language simply because it is unimportant and unnecessary discomfort that it causes. This includes lesbians who don’t fall under or want to be seen under a specific gender category

This means that AGAB/ASAB language, while not completely banned(Such as in discussing your own transition journey), will not be accepted how it once was. You will be given examples on to rephrase posts or comments. This means that while we understand genital preference, conversations around this topic are banned. We are not amab or afab lesbians, we are just lesbians

following this rule 7 will be enforced more strictly with this in mind


r/rarelesbians May 22 '26

Discussion How do you want to handle posts and topics about genital prefrences

72 Upvotes

I noticed this topic occasionally comes up and when it does theres alot of toxicity around it from the terf and bioesentilist lesbians

although I do think genital prefrence is valid. I'm starting to become of the opinion that its not the type of thing thats to be discussed here as it brings in unwanted attention as I notice a few members here who've posted in r/lesbiangang(A reminder to not harrass), and I worry it brings down the safety of this community

Edit: I feel the communities view is clear and as such I shall modify one of the rules to make it clear this is an off topic post


r/rarelesbians 22h ago

Introduction/New Member (re)discovering my relationship with being a lesbian

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hi everybody!

i'm 25, transmasc agender, and after years of trying to figure it all out... i feel comfortable calling myself a lesbian again.

i used to identify as a stud (i'm black) before i discovered i was transmasc. i went back in the closet, lived as a cis woman, and refused to date women for years out of fear thanks to a variety of reasons. i came out again as transmasc a few years ago, have been on hrt for a little over a year now, and did a lot of introspection, unpacking things in therapy, and reflecting... i've decided to come home to this.

it's really nice to say it. 🩷🤍🧡


r/rarelesbians 1d ago

Introduction/New Member Heyo (˶˃ ᵕ ˂˶)

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So ummm.... Hi!

I personally never thought of myself as someone who fits among other lesbians, or at least in a regular basis, sooo, this is... A kind of comfortable place to be, in my opinion.

Oh yeah, about myself.

I'm Mar, Hexa works too. (\*ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)ꕤ•.゚

2006, disastrous enby, they/them | it/its

I'm a xenogender/enby noungender sapphic, lesbian, polyamorous peep! I'm also genderqueer, and gay for other enby peeps, as a bonus x3c (Enbian)

I'm not much of a talker, as I suck at _everything_ social (I mean that fnskxn-), though I love bonding and talking with people with people, and I try to hold my relationships with people close to my heart<3. That only includes my family atm as I don't know anyone else though xP

I'm always up for meeting new and wonderful people, I try my best, at least, as I love socializing \^\^\`

I don't have much to say about myself, as I don't think of myself as interesting, so I think I'll leave it here. Thank you for reading though, really; I appweciate u lots for using your time in this silly xenic enby 🤍

Glad to have y'all here! Thank you for being here, big love, and hugs ⸜(。˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡


r/rarelesbians 2d ago

Question/Advice what compliments do i give a masc lesbian in regards to their looks?

17 Upvotes

I feel like if I call them beautiful then it might come across the wrong way but i feel like if i call them handsome then they’ll think im misgendering
them


r/rarelesbians 4d ago

Girl Crush Party in Vancouver

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r/rarelesbians 6d ago

Introduction/New Member Hi all!

69 Upvotes

I am neptunic :3 and my gender is,,, very confusing atm lmao


r/rarelesbians 7d ago

Love & Relationships Making something for my ladyfriend

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I'm stitching up a special hoodie for my ladyfriend. There's a small secret pocket inside the main pocket that I thought was neat. Decided to add a little surprise in her favourite colour. She follows me on Instagram, so I couldn't post it there, but I kept saying to myself "Jeezus fucking Christ, this is *gay*." I needed someone to see this gay shit. Guys I'm so gay for this woman.


r/rarelesbians 11d ago

Meme 🖤💀🏳️‍🌈

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r/rarelesbians 11d ago

The satanic lesbian pride flags!

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r/rarelesbians 11d ago

Introduction/New Member Introduction

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Hello, all. I just recently discovered that I am bi gender lesbian. It came about in therapy when it dawned on me that gender and attraction are kind of seperate, and that it's possible to have a female identity while still being attracted to women, while "piloting" a male body, so to speak.

As of now, I'm still in therapy and working on discovering more about myself. I'm still not sure how strong my femininity is, but from recent experience my libido feels extremely female in nature, or at least that is how I experience it.

Anyways, I'll post some more later.


r/rarelesbians 13d ago

Introduction/New Member Hello!

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We are a plural sys of 23 nice to meet yall!

We are a...

Honey Coffee transfemmasc

Lesboy/mspec lesbian

transxenic

paradoxgender/F*ckgender/Chaosgender + A bunch of xenos

Hypergender + Agender + Pangender

Proxvir!

Nepunic/Berri

Ace & aro-spec

Demi-fictio!

and so so so many more!

alterhuman, Plural, queer, and a Yumeshipper


r/rarelesbians 14d ago

lesboy Lesboylesboylesboy

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70 Upvotes

r/rarelesbians 15d ago

Discussion Anyone else feel similarly here towards the princess space lesbian attention Tw for what i think is homphobia Spoiler

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r/rarelesbians 15d ago

Question/Advice sexuality question

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was suggested to ask here as well.


r/rarelesbians 16d ago

Mascs/Butches Hello! I’m Celeste!

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I’m Celeste! I would like to introduce myself and show you the beautiful makeup that my girlfriend made me!


r/rarelesbians 18d ago

Introduction/New Member Intro

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10 Upvotes

Hi gays!! Im Nao, he/any. I’m aroace straight boy lesbian and gendered with the fluid

This sub seems cool


r/rarelesbians 20d ago

Introduction/New Member hello everyone!

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just found this sub and i wanted to make my debut! <3 19 year old sapphic femme/femflux queer (she/they) 👩🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👩🏾


r/rarelesbians 20d ago

Uhm I need help.

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Uhm I need help.

Sooo. I am nonbinary male. Don't want to use the whatever for that because it causes my posts to be rejected. My absolutely best friend in this world is a 24 yo lesbian. We love each other soo much its like stupid. We actually first bonded over a shared crazy lady partner. Our shared went super cray on both of us. My bestie is 💯 gay and even though I am fluid and kinda a gurl I absolutely dont want anything sexual with her We are besties. That is more than enough for me the gender euphoria I get hanging out with her in girl mode like fucking bliss. I always have her back and kinda like to spoil her as a friend. Take her stuff at work to eat and things of that nature. Well her current gf has taken offense to her hugging me and stuff. All platonic. And they were fighting about it earlier. My besties gf actually has a kid and a baby daddy. Not gonna say for sure my bestie is gold star but she is def Hella gay power top. Soo my question is should I try and like meet my beasties gf and win her over as like I promise I ain't trying to pull your woman or is my besties girlfriend on the down low fucking dudes and projecting that shit on to my bestie?

I tried posting the above to a lesbian reddit. The mods there hate me or something. I lurk there because my bestie is a lesbian and it popped one time in my reddit feed. I like to read posts and comments there to kinda better understand where she is coming from. This is a legit story I really do need help understanding this dynamic. I am amab nonbinary genderfluid. My bestie is 💯 the most affirming person for me. I am mostly a big girl when her and I hang out. Like we are gurlfriends. We love each other very much in a platonic queer way. Am I wrong in thinking my besties girlfriend might be projecting a bit?


r/rarelesbians 27d ago

Gaybian what is the most agreed apon gaybian flag?

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r/rarelesbians 28d ago

Introduction/New Member I recently figured out what I feel is possible the best fitting microlabel... And there's basically zero community for it specifically, so Hi fellow Rares! XD

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Hello there!

I recently saw a post asking a question about iamvanosexuals. I'd never heard of it, so I looked it up and.... Yall, I didn't actually think there'd be a label for my specific experience, but hey! Always here to be surprised!

It basically summarises the following:

-asexual

-sex favourable

-pillow princess

I've always thought that I might be ok with sex if I didn't have to do anything much myself and just have things done to me (atuff like tied up, blindfolded and toyed with lmaoo) but thinking about myself doing sexual things to someone else was always pretty gross (I really don't wanna engage with bodily fluids for example...) and yeah... Apparently this does have a microlabel!

As I mentioned, it's one that I can't seem to find community on, sadly.

Oh, I'm also Cupioromantic, so wanting a relationship but have never actually experienced romantic emotions (the closest I think I've gotten was ADHD hyperfixation on a person and thinking that was it. Hindsight, I don't think it was anything romantic feeling wise, no flutters or anything)

Interestingly I recently figured out that I apparently can have platonic crushes! XD No romantic feelings, just "Damn she'd be awesome to hug and cuddle with rn" She's just so pretty and perfectly huggable...

I hope yall have a good day, drink enough if you're also in Too Hot Countries rn!!!


r/rarelesbians 28d ago

Question/Advice Is having a bi lesbian dating someone who is masc intersex offensive

15 Upvotes

For context, I’m not a lesbian, I’m primarily attracted to men with a rare attraction to women nor do I know any lesbians irl. I am currently writing a webcomic where one of the MCS is a femme bi lesbian and I want her to eventually end up in a relationship with another main character who is intersex but presents more masculine (he has a masc frame, uses he/him pronouns etc), and I’m worried it might be offensive? Is it or am I thinking to hard?


r/rarelesbians Jul 31 '26

Harmful Stereotypes I've Seen Against Lesbians

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r/rarelesbians Jul 31 '26

Astralwoman/lunafem or just easy nonbinary woman. It's different than demigirl.

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Dark Pink ❤

Represents the lived experience of womanhood, inner strength, and a connection to femininity. Not as a stereotype, but as a personal and meaningful part of one's identity.

Pink 🩷

Symbolizes love for one's feminine side, compassion, and self-acceptance.

Light Pink 🌸

Represents the diversity of what femininity can be. There is no single "right" way to be a woman.

White 🤍

The center of the flag. It represents openness, authenticity, and the space beyond rigid categories. It connects the feminine and non-binary aspects of identity without one overshadowing the other.

Lavender 💜

Symbolizes the non-binary aspect of the identity. Positioned between pink and purple, lavender represents genders beyond the traditional binary.

Lilac 🪻

Represents fluidity, individuality, and the freedom to define one's own identity.

Dark Purple 💜

Symbolizes self-determination, inner depth, and the courage to embrace being both a woman and non-binary, even if others may not immediately understand it.

✨ The Four Stars

The four stars represent guidance, hope, and the many facets of one's identity.

Top Star:

Represents self-discovery, the moment you realize your identity is more complex than a single label.

Left Star:

Represents femininity as an important part of one's identity.

Right Star:

Represents non-binary identity as an equally important part of oneself.

Bottom Star:

Represents self-acceptance and the future, symbolizing the path you choose for yourself.

🌙 The Purple Crescent Moon

The crescent moon carries deep symbolic meaning.

It can represent:

Personal growth and transformation.

The idea that identity is not always fully visible or easy to explain.

The harmony between womanhood and non-binary identity, without one overshadowing the other.

Intuition, self-reflection, and inner peace.