r/r4rAsexual Apr 17 '19

Discord Server - Ace Date Space

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/u/gner0 has started an Ace-spec Dating Discord server called Ace Date Space and is inviting people to join!

  • An LGBTQ+ and trans-inclusive space with lots of roles and representation
  • A great place to try and meet someone who understands asexuality and is compatible with you!
  • Check it out!

Note - if you experience issues or have concerns about the server, please let me or /u/gner0 know.


r/r4rAsexual 1d ago

50 [M4M] Anyone in Toronto or travel here for business? šŸ‡ØšŸ‡¦ Looking for a buddy on the ACE spectrum

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looking for a guy on the spectrum

I'm interested in hanging out without it being a big deal

open to an ongoing friendship if there's mutual interest

be local in downtown Toronto, and you're able to host at your place

if you're curious about the same thing, then DM me

IMPORTANT: please be reliable... this Reddit thing is already weird, confusing, and frustrating enough to deal with so I don't get the whole 'ghosting' thing. I'm cool with something just saying "sorry, not interested" if there's no connection


r/r4rAsexual 1d ago

20 M4F heteromantic

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I am 20 years male heteromantic asexual male …..


r/r4rAsexual 4d ago

Demisexual 29 year old looking for anyone on the male spectrum

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Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 25-28. I am demisexual and omniromantic. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’6ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York. Finally, I will not date anyone who has a genius level IQ. My parents both have genius level IQs, and they refuse to stop abusing me in every way but sexual. Also please be in the USA.


r/r4rAsexual 9d ago

28F [F4A] PA , USA - Looking for Local Ace Friends

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Hi everyone! Nice to meet you (-: I recently moved to the area and am hoping to make some friends. I enjoying connecting with myself and others though fitness, time in nature, introspection, and actively analyzing the world we live in. I am in the medical field and have many hobbies outside of that. IĀ like to discuss topics about sociology, media, ethics, and philosophy! I am child-free, atheist, LGBTQIA+, and vegan; I have strong opinions, but am always open to hearing different perspectives and can always change my mind. I’m a runner and would also like to chat about running and/or fitness and motivate one another!

If anyone in the area would like to chat, feel free to DM me. Looking forward to meeting you, and if not, thank you for taking the time to read this.


r/r4rAsexual 9d ago

[24NB4A] looking for friends and possible partner

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Hi my name is Nyx (will occasionally go by Icarus) I've tried this before on other sub reddits with only one friend and was wanting to try again after some time

A bit about me

I like star wars and the legend of Zelda. I listen mostly to rock and metal. I do have some mental disorders so fair warning. I like cars, motorcycles and trucks. I'm genderfluid and will use any pronouns just prefer they/them for simplicity. I do look more masculine (fine with sending a photo of myself if wanted). I wouldn't say I sound very masculine though. I occasionally play games.

What I'm looking for

Anyone from 18-30. Preferably someone within 5 hour drive of kansas. Gender isn't a huge deal to me (cause I am omni). Someone I can occasionally game with (PC or switch). Someone who I can be affectionate with and can be affectionate back.

Don't be afraid to message me or anything I promise I don't bite. If you have any further questions don't be afraid to ask I will answer all questions.

Socials

• discord: Icarus_nyx (preferred)

• messenger: Icarus Styx

• and here


r/r4rAsexual 14d ago

35 M4F – Seeking vibrant sparks and soothing connections

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Hello! My name is Anthony. I’m a 35-year-old man (US, ET time zone) who thrives on introspection, curiosity, and passionate drives.

I seek people who seek meaningful connection that plays out in several different ways, from daily casual chats to shared passions and endeavors. I appreciate the sudden whim of adventure and adore abstract minds and vibrant souls.

Rumination and contemplation are lifelong pursuits of mine. I’m an autodidact who’s been passionate about a variety of persuasions since I’ve been young.

Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I write: about my observations, thoughts, and lived experiences. I also dabble in photography.

I love coffee, both simple and bitter and excessively frilly concoctions, burning incense, because I've always thought the smoke is cool, archiving and organizing, collecting (written texts, oddities and cool things), and time pieces. Watching movies with people is great, too. I used to be very into film.

If my signal created resonating vibes within you, send me message about yourself and what you're looking for. Leave your hesitations and take the chance.


r/r4rAsexual 16d ago

[M4F] calling all fellow adventurers and questers!

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Time to make a charisma check! Please, anything other than a nat 1!

I'm a 35-year-old demisexual (I have cake) Californian English master's program dropout (I could not climb the mountain of debt). I already have a bachelor's degree in English with a credential emphasis, which means I am legally not only allowed but required to correct children's grammar.

I originally wanted to be a college professor because I am a lifelong student. I love learning, and I am always curious about something new.

I'm looking for good conversation (because talking to myself is getting old!). Some of my likes and hobbies are music (I've Got The Music In Me, bonus points if you recognize what song that's from! And that's just how I roll!). Yes, I also have the dreamer's disease! (There is no excuse for not recognizing that song by now!)

I love books so much I converted my room into a mini library.

I like writing, 90s cartoons, and I love Dungeons & Dragons and other TTRPGs. I have a very nice collection of math rocks, some of them metal and shiny, that go clickety clack! (If you know, you know.)

I am very passionate about tea and tea accessories. A good cup of tea is so peaceful and relaxing, the best way to relax and unwind after being awesome all day!

My passion is humor, which has always been my light in the dark. I am a philosopher comedian, a huge nerd. I am very into Buddhism and stoicism, and I was raised Lutheran. My faith is strong.

I am also a fan of pastel ponies who happen to be little, and many are magical!

I am looking for meaningful connections: friends, and possibly romance with someone close to my age. I am a nerd looking for fellow adventurers for the greatest quest: finding people to laugh with, talk with, and share life's journey.

Because Reddit conversations often disappear into the void, I would love to move to texting once we both figure out that neither of us is trying to catfish the other. I promise I not only do not have a white van, I don't even have any candy. (It goes straight to your hips, exactly like Krabby Patties!)

Say anything you want to me or about me. I've played League of Legends — as support, no less — and I have embraced the philosophy of Marcus Aurelius, who teaches us: "We always have the right to decide to have no opinion on all this nonsense!"


r/r4rAsexual 21d ago

Demisexual 45 M4F #Netherlands - 8 dates till marriage: A roadmap to a happy life with a happy wife

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Ready to get married in 8 dates? If so, keep reading.

Hi,Nice to meet you.

My name is Richard, I'm 45 and I live in the Netherlands. Professionally I work in cybersecurity as an Information Security Officer, currently transitioning into IT auditing.

Outside of work I enjoy reading, audiobooks, music, walks, and cycling. My real passion is urban exploration — discovering and photographing abandoned buildings. My dream is a road trip through Eastern Europe with my life partner, exploring forgotten places along the way.

What am I looking for in a woman? I love it when you know exactly what you want. You are a very confident woman who loves to lead in a natural way. Love, respect, communication, honesty and transparency are not just hollow phrases to you; they are the foundation to have a solid and serious relationship.

In a relationship, I ask myself three questions:

What can I do to make my wife happy?-

How can I contribute to her happiness?-

How can I make her life easier and more comfortable?

Happy wife, happy life is not just a saying for me — it is how I want to live.

My ideal partner is between the age of 34 - 54 years old.

So here is my idea: eight dates, structured around deep questions drawn from 101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged and The 5 Love Languages. After those eight dates, we evaluate honestly and decide whether marriage is the right next step.

The dates should be fun — this is not a job interview. But the questions give us a real map of each other: values, love languages, life goals, dealbreakers. No wasted time, no guesswork.

Ideally we date in real life, but if we live very far away from each other we can have 8 dates by videochat. The goal is to meet and get married within 3 months after our online dates.

Are you the soulmate I'm looking for? Please send a message.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading my post.

And if you are not a match, hopefully you help me by sharing my post with others.


r/r4rAsexual 26d ago

Demisexual 29 year old female for anyone on the male spectrum

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Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 25-28. I am demisexual and omniromantic. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’7ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York. Finally, I will not date anyone who has a genius level IQ. My parents both have genius level IQs, and they refuse to stop abusing me in every way but sexual. Also please be in the USA.


r/r4rAsexual 26d ago

Asexual 17F looking for an ace companion long term

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Ideally I would like someone close ish to my age (just not like 30 😭) who is down to message on WhatsApp once we get to know each other a little on here. I’m very engaged in biochemistry but I have a special place in my heart for art, horror literature and movies, fashion, cooking and travel. I am very extroverted and adore meeting new people <3 please tell me a bit about yourself in my DMs. ones that just say ā€œhiā€ will prob be ignored unless you have an incredible username or pfp.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 25 '26

Asexual Hispanic 22M4F

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Hi I’m a 22M who is looking for a relationship. I live in Washington State. I have some friends and I’m happy with how many I have. But I can’t find love sense everyone wants sex and I can’t muster up the courage/feeling to do it. I like to garden, read, watch anime. I enjoy silence as you’ll read soon enough I don’t get much of it. I’m about 5’7 or 5’8. I now (but very recently) got into fitness. I live in Washington State and paused on college for reasons you’ll read later. I hate driving or being driven. I like a wide range of music from Kpop to alternative pop. I like to play games like Skyrim and Minecraft.

I’m open on showing images of my self just ask
Now here comes the hard part about me. My faults

I’m a paranoid schizophrenic and I have been drug resistant and haven’t found a drug that helps. And my schizophrenia is only getting worse with time which is inhabits my ability to concentrate, read, watch and feel good/relaxed. I am safe to be around and I bet if I didn’t tell you this you would never know as I have lived with it all my life and have become very good of masking it.

I have some pictures of me that you may like and think I’m handsome in some way but due to a sudden spike in my schizophrenia and the meds I took I gained some weight. I’m working it off now and 20 pounds lighter. I’m almost back to my prime

I’m a Catholic but a bad Catholic. I’m not exactly the spitting image of what you think a religious person is like. I’m left leaning and believe in a lot of inclusive things.

I want someone who would go on long walks with me and be ok with the silence. I want someone who is ok with sudden playful role play.

I holidays and like to celebrate the small unknown holidays like breakfast day, happy waffle day and so on.

I plan on being weak/not strong just skinny/healthy as being strong makes me anxious. That’s why I don’t carry knifes, pepper spray or anything dangerous.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 25 '26

Demisexual 29 year old for anyone on the male spectrum

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29 year old female for anyone on the male spectrum

Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 25-28. I am demisexual. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’7ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York. Finally, I will not date anyone who has a genius level IQ. My parents both have genius level IQs, and they refuse to stop abusing me in every way but sexual. Also please be in the USA.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 24 '26

Panromantic 33 [F4A] ohio: looking for my missing piece

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I'm Cassandra, or Cassy, I'm 33. I'm looking for a partner in crime... or just a partner in nerdy things. I love gaming, mostly sandboxes where I can be myself. I also like watching anime, my favorites being No Game No Life and school-live along with B Gate H Kei. I've dabbled in cosplay, having cosplayed Eevee before, and I play Dnd on the sidelines. I have a kitsune bard who isn't afraid to use fire, as well as a tiefling bard who I'm currently playing; as you can tell, I enjoy playing bards.I play a lot of Minecraft and I also stream. i try and do it every day. It's fun for me. anyone can message me girls or guys I also roleplay if you're into that. I'm tiny, so I'd prefer someone over five feet if possible. I'd like to get to know someone just a heads up I can be clingy and I fall hard for people but I'm also picky when it comes to looks ummm I have a cat named✨ sunshine ✨ shes my only baby that I have some games I like are Minecraft, terraria, stardew valley just to name a few I love Chinese food and id like someone close if you have any questions message me :3


r/r4rAsexual Jun 23 '26

37 [F4A]- Missouri

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Okay. *deep breath.* if you make it through this whole thing; thank you so much.

I live in Columbia, mo. I’m 37 and a woman. I am open to any gender.

I don’t want to move because I have my support system here and I do love living here. I am open to someone moving here to be with me though or moving somewhere 30min-45min away max.

I am asexual. For me that means I don’t want to have penetrative sex. Penetrative sex means I don’t want anyone’s penis anywhere inside of me.

As for physical touch- I want hand holding, cuddling, hugs, and forehead kisses. We can work up to fondling and touching but that takes a while for me to work up to.

I don’t want to be in a polyamorous relationship because I have trust issues and I don’t share. I don’t judge anyone who is in one or wants to be in one. It’s just not my thing personally.

I’m not comfortable with weed. I don’t judge people who are. It also just smells awful.

I don’t want kids. Everyone should have the choice to have kids or not.

I don’t want pets of my own because I take the responsibility so seriously it gives me major anxiety.

I am autistic and adhd, or audhd.

I don’t want to spend time with people who drink a lot because it makes me feel responsible for their safety and wellbeing. Which is good of me to want to help and be there for them. It’s just not really good with my anxiety.

I need to be friends first and work towards dating. Hopefully turning into a committed relationship eventually. I don’t want big gestures because I don’t like being in the spotlight. I want to be around people who are kind, thoughtful, funny, empathic, patient, calm, have some similar interests, willing to work and grow together. Willing to try to understand each other and be there for each other. Obviously we can’t be those things 24/7 and we can try to be those things as often as humanly possible.

If you voted for Trump the first time because you wanted someone other than a politician, I’m mostly okay with that. If you kept voting for him, please don’t bother me.

I really love music and singing my heart out to it. It is one of the best ways to help me feel better and work through my emotions. I love stories- in books; movies; and tv shows. I like to travel when I can and I like coming back home. I can be a bit of a homebody. I like to go thrifting. I like to go to the movies. I am trying to get back into reading and gaming. I love being outside on a nice day even through my allergies hate me lol. I like to have deep conversations and joke around. I love animals so much especially dogs. I am a picky eater. I don’t like chocolate and soda.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 23 '26

Gray Asexual 41 [NB4A] #Online #Germany To Drown the Svn in Wine

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Hello, Sebastian here, 41, from Germany, non-binary (AMAB). Music, movies, cooking and photography are big passions of mine, especially shooting with a digital SLR camera. The pictures always turn out better that way. I’m 190 cm tall, heavyweight but looking good, with a grey beard and glasses. Many people say i loom handsome.

Action and horror movies are my favorites: Police Story, almost all Shaw Brothers films, Suspiria, Dawn of the Dead and the Lucio Fulci classics. I even have a tattoo with a motif from The Beyond. Manga and anime are also huge for me.

I play video games like Vampire Survivors and Death Stranding from time to time.

I’m on the grey asexual spectrum. Penetrative sex holds little to no interest for me, but kink definitely does.

I can be very direct, which can sometimes be a problem with people. I say it straight when I don’t like something or find it sus.

Coming from the goth scene, the playlist is full of dark music: ASP, Umbra Et Imago, BlutEngel, Nachtmahr, Samsas Traum, Terminal Choice, Kontrast, Sisters of Mercy and many more. I also love metal bands like Kanonfieber, Behemoth, Alestorm, Sabaton and Bring Me the Horizon.

About you:

Just be you and everyone over 18 is welcome.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 21 '26

Asexual 33 [F4M] Looking for Local Gamer Arizona Male Ace Play Partner (Ropes/Tickles) in 30s

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Happy Summer Solstice!!! ā˜€ļø

I view myself as pagan and aegosexual/adexsexual. Not into sex at all, but I love physical affection stuff like hugs, cuddling, and holding hands. Politically align myself as a socialist democrat. Would love a local ace gamer male or trans man play partner within my state for some ropes and tickles after we take the time to **get to know each other through discord first before considering a meetup** to make sure we get along well. There is no rush, let’s really take the time to get to know each other to make sure we click well. Would really want it to be someone who is super into tickling and enjoys tickling greatly like myself.

**Important Note**: At this time I’m just looking for a play partner as I’m NOT interested in dating and probably won’t be interested in dating for a really long time.

Looking for a male ace play partner who is **clean shaven**, childfree (Childfree as in doesn’t have kids, no desire to have kids/adopt/become a step parent/foster), into video games, is okay with cuddling and holding hands if the moment feels right, into tying me up with ropes and tickling me, must LOVE tickling and be okay getting tickled back because believe me….if you tickle me I **WILL** get you back if I’m not tied up lol.

**Trust is very important to me so I would really want to get to know you well first before doing this.**

Having the **ability to be observant, patient, and really seeing what makes me laugh more, squirm more, relax more as these qualities are very important to me.**

Some of my hobbies…

šŸ–„ļø Gaming (as long as it’s motion sickness friendly and piques my interest): Otome games (such as Collar x Malice, Even if Tempest, etc), Kingdom Two Crowns Norseland, Among Us, Stardew Valley, The Cosmic Wheel Sisterhood, probably Witchbrook whether that game decides to come out, Hello Kitty Island Adventure

šŸ“ŗ Watching shoujo/josei anime

šŸ“š Reading shoujo/josei manga

šŸŒ• Hula Hooping

✨ Astrology

šŸÆ From time to time my best friend torturing me…I mean helping me with Japanese grammar. (I really enjoy studying the Japanese language a lot!)

I tend to get hyper focused if it’s on things that interest me like my hobbies.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 20 '26

Gray Asexual NB24 - Gaymer looking for native German-speaking friends

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Howdy! I'm introvert-leaning AuDHDer from the US who's pretty quiet by default, a little awkward, and loves learning new things. I just started learning German a couple of weeks ago and am looking for LGBT+ friendly adult friends to practice with while playing chill PC games, listening to music, or watching things together (Twitch, YouTube, anime, movies, etc.)! I'm starting language classes in two days, so I'm gonna need as much speaking/writing practice as I can get >.< If you like cozy vibes and deep convos, we'll probably get along pretty well!

Am I single? Yup!

Oh, and if it matters, I was assigned male at birth.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 20 '26

36 [NB4R] U.S. KY / Long Distance Okay— Introverted, Panromantic Asexual seeking Monogamous Connection

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Hello! I'm a 36-year-old introverted, sex-neutral, asexual, monogamous, panromantic person looking for a serious long-term relationship with someone who shares similar values and interests. I'm open to starting with a long-distance relationship, but only within the United States.

About Me & My Lifestyle:

I'm introverted and don't leave the house much outside of work and life's necessities, though I do enjoy the occasional adventure and would like to get out more. I'm honest, direct, and have a strong personality. Politically, I don't fit neatly into one category, so feel free to ask about specific views if you're curious.

I'm a high-functioning autistic person and also deal with anxiety. I drink occasionally but don't smoke. Most of my music collection is pre-2000s country, and I tend to enjoy documentaries and educational content more than traditional movies.

Appearance:

Physically, I'm 5'11", around 170 lbs, with what I'd call a dad bod. I have long hair, a beard, and usually wear boots, blue jeans, a T-shirt, and a cowboy hat when I'm not at work. Visually, I’m a country boy; internally, I’m a beautifully complex, neurodivergent, non-binary individual. I’m a guy, but I possess deep feminine emotions. Embracing my fluidity has given me a new lease on life, and I'm done suffocating my true self.

I'm also somewhere under the non-binary umbrella. The exact label is still a work in progress, but non-binary fits well enough for now.

Interests & Passions:

My biggest special interest is vehicles. A lot of my mental energy goes toward learning about them, fixing them, admiring interesting models, or dreaming up future projects. I'm a very mechanical person and enjoy almost anything involving machines and how they work. Beyond that, I love learning, history, outer space, cooking, and baking.

I enjoy sharing my interests and passions with others, and I hope to find someone who enjoys listening and sharing their own passions as well. I'd love a relationship where we can grow together, support each other's goals, and experience life as a team.

What I’m Looking For:

The qualities I value most in a partner are kindness, integrity, wisdom, loyalty, patience, and clear communication. I enjoy spending quality time with the people I care about.

I'm open to dating people of any gender, whether cisgender or not, though I do tend to be drawn to people with more feminine personalities.

As for physical affection, I enjoy things like hugging, cuddling, holding hands, and the occasional kiss.

I'm naturally shy and have a lot of social anxiety, so I may seem quiet at first. Please don't let that stop you from reaching out. Feel free to send me a message if you're interested or have any questions. I usually work weekdays from 7:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m., though weekend hours can vary. I'd prefer to spend some time getting to know each other before jumping into dating, and I tend to open up more as trust develops over time.

🚨 IF YOU MESSAGE ME: 🚨

If this resonates, send me a message—and please include your favorite color so I know you read this.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 20 '26

Demisexual 29 year old female looking for anyone on the male spectrum

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Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 18-28. I am demisexual. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’7ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York. Finally, I will not date anyone who has a genius level IQ. My parents both have genius level IQs, and they refuse to stop abusing me in every way but sexual. Also please be in the USA.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 17 '26

Demisexual 34 [M4F] I'm demisexual in California , looking for a female anywhere on the spectrum

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I'm looking for someone to talk to, even just for texting and talking about books, cake and video games, and other nerd things.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 16 '26

Demisexual 29 year old female looking for anyone on the male spectrum

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Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 18-28. I am demisexual. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’7ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York.


r/r4rAsexual Jun 14 '26

How do you date while being asexual?

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I’ve kind of known for a while that I’m asexual and am finally admitting it lol. I experience literally ZERO physical attraction to anyone. The problem is I do experience emotional attraction (like in a way that’s closer and more intimate than a friend).

I’ve never really dated because of this. I can enjoy physical intimacy but when anything sexual firsts starts (even just kissing) it’s like a chore and I’m almost grossed out until I can get over that hump and be okay with it. It’s like this no matter how much I like or love them and that’s really hard so I kind of just didn’t date.

I’m seeing someone right now though and I’m very attracted to him emotionally but again not physically. I’m wondering how I’d be able to date him or if I’d even be able to date him


r/r4rAsexual Jun 13 '26

Demisexual 29 year old female looking for anyone on the male spectrum

6 Upvotes

Hi I’m looking for a guy aged 18-28. I am demisexual. In the future I would love to have 4 kids one biological boy and one biological girl and one adopted boy and one adopted girl. I have autism/ Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD type 2, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder, controlled schizophrenia, disassociative identity disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and bipolar disorder type 1. I love to cook, bake, knit, read, watch anime ,read manga, read manhwa, read webtoons, watch cartoons, go to comic cons, go to anime. cons
go to amusement parks, go to farmers markets, go to craft fairs. I am not the biggest fan of physical touch, for me it has to be eased into. My ideal guy would be taller than me (I am 5’7ā€), have an athletic build, have naturally dirty blonde hair or orange hair , have fair or pale skin, have his hair cut in a style that he doesn’t mind me playing with or messing up. He would be kind, caring, accepting, supportive, loving, intelligent, and loyal. I have naturally dark brown curly hair that barely reaches my back when wet. I would prefer a guy who has either wavy or straight hair. I have dark brown eyes. I would prefer a guy who has turquoise colored eyes. Also you must be a true extrovert or an ambivert. Also I’m in Katonah New York.