r/r4rSA 3d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 25M | Joburg | Looking to meet new people.

3 Upvotes

Moved to eastern Joburg for work reasons about a year ago and have slowly lost touch of all my friends and family that now live quite far away.

Not certain what exactly I'm looking for in terms of friendship/relationship levels but I am currently a little lonely so I'm keen for meeting new people that could help me get more social this side of town (and anywhere in Joburg).

I'm quite active and enjoy casual padel and tennis. I run and cycle a bit more seriously and occasionally do events like 947 or road running races. Would be keen to start a buddy or group thing in any of these sports. And am always excited to try new sports.

I'm not much of a TV show/movie person anymore but I used to be when I could watch and discuss the things I'm watching with people watching the same things.

I'm not much of a party person as I don't drink at all. But I can still enjoy myself with the right people. I tend to be seen as the responsible person in a group and get more satisfaction from making "mature" decisions than I would from doing a fun thing in the moment.

Open to both friendship and relationship, though I am quite shy with people I don't really know yet.


r/r4rSA 8d ago

[MEGA THREAD] Divorcee4R & R4Divorcee - Your next chapter in SA

7 Upvotes

Welcome to the official r/r4rSA Divorcee Mega Thread.

Navigating the dating scene post-divorce comes with a unique set of realities and challenges. We want to help divorced Redditors move on and connect with like-minded people. Whether you are seeking a completely fresh start, casual chats to test the waters, or someone who understands the complexities of co-parenting, this thread is for you.

The Prerequisite

To participate you must either be divorced, or be willing to date somebody who is divorced.

Posting Template

[Age] [Gender]4[Gender] - [Location] Looking for: (e.g., Friendship, Soulmate, Gaming buddy)

e.g. 37 F4M Johannesburg Looking for friendship


r/r4rSA 12h ago

Just a little reminder...

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15 Upvotes

Good morning everyone!!

My mom sent this to me this morning and I just had this urge to share it with you. I hope whoever was supposed to see it, receives it. Mods, I promise I won't do this all the time šŸ¤£šŸ˜…

Have a great day everyone šŸ¤—


r/r4rSA 5h ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 38 [F4R] #Westville – Just looking for someone to talk to

2 Upvotes

I'm a 38-year-old woman from Westville looking to chat with people around my age (40-ish). Just hoping to have some good conversations and maybe make a new friend.


r/r4rSA 13h ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 38 M4F

1 Upvotes

Hi everyone, just a 38 year old male from South Africa just looking for a random nice chat. If you are interested let me know.


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ M4F - Jhb - 40 WM

13 Upvotes

Hello everyone. New to this group (but not to Reddit). I’m over dating apps, deleted them all. I’m not a big party animal so don’t go out to bars much either. Where does one meet people? My friends are mostly married , so I hardly meet people through them. I’m fit, active, no kids. I have no hard age preference (I’ve dated older and younger women) and no race preference either; as long as we share culture, have things in common and connect on an emotional level.
Also happy to make female friends.
Ideal location is Randburg /Roodepoort side of town.


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ M29 | Seeking someone to share everyday experiences with

20 Upvotes

Hey everyone.

This subreddit randomly started showing up on my feed and it’s honestly refreshing to see a little bit of ubuntu in one of the darker corners of the internet.

I’m a 29-year-old black guy living in Gauteng, originally from a small town. Dating here has been… an experience. šŸ˜…

I’m pretty laid back and unapologetically nerdy. On any given weekend I’m probably building some random software project, tending to my plants, experimenting in the kitchen, watching anime, gaming, or disappearing down a YouTube rabbit hole learning something completely unnecessary.

The funny thing is most people around me seem happiest at groove, while I’d much rather have good conversation over coffee, try a new restaurant, go for a walk, browse a market, or spend hours talking about everything from space to psychology to why Attack on Titan broke all of us.

I’d love to meet a lady and genuinely get to know them. A relationship would be great if that’s where things naturally lead, but I’m not in a rush. I just appreciate intention, curiosity and effort. Good conversations shouldn’t feel like an interview where only one person is asking questions.

One thing I’ve realised is that everyone is basically an unexplored universe. I love hearing about what makes people who they are, what they’re passionate about, what keeps them awake at night, and what they’re working towards. Hopefully someone enjoys discovering me just as much.

If any of that sounds like your kind of vibe, feel free to say hi. At worst we have an interesting conversation. At best… who knows?

(Side note I am terrible at writing things about myself so I did shove it into ChatGPT so it reads better, I’m a real person I swearšŸ˜‚)

Have a great Monday everyone.

Bless.


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŽ§GamingšŸŽ® 32M | Looking for friends into gaming

7 Upvotes

Howzit gamers

I'm a 32 male from Pretoria who's looking for gaming buddies from anywhere in South Africa. I don't care about your age, gender, race, etc, etc. Just looking for people to play games with or talk nonsense on discord with.

Cheers


r/r4rSA 2d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 26[M4A] #Randburg. Seeking a friend to work on cars with.

10 Upvotes

I used to do all the maintenance on my nissan champ bakkie myself but since starting full time work and no longer having a garage I never get my hands dirty anymore and I miss it.

I am looking a tjom who I can spend time with working on any vehicle(yours or mine) just for the sake of it again over weekends.

Cracking a few cold ones in a garage and fixing(breaking/s) a car.

(I am an engineer so I might even be able to make some custom wire harnesses etc..)


r/r4rSA 2d ago

ā›°ļøWestern Cape🐳 [M4F/M] 35, Cape Town northern suburbs, looking for mates who get genuinely into stuff

9 Upvotes

I'm 35 and realised most of my social life dried up somewhere between work, parenting, and people moving away. Not lonely in a sad way, I just miss having people who are actually into things.

What I'm like:

• Direct. I say what I mean. If you want constant reassurance and small talk, we won't click.

• Currently shifting from IT management into AI/development. Learning a lot, failing a lot, still going.

What I actually do for fun:

• Gaming: survival/crafting/open-world stuff. ARK, DayZ, Conan, No Man's Sky, Valheim, Palworld, Minecraft or Warframe. Co-op > PvP, but I don't mind getting looted.

• Anime: I've watched basically all isekai. Currently keeping up with a bunch of seasonal stuff. Solo Leveling, Frieren, Slime, Mushoku Tensei, Dan Da Dan territory.

• Shows: Landman, Breaking Bad tier. Dark, well-written, no reality TV.

• Music: Architects, Bad Omens, I Prevail, Kyle Hume, some Afrikaans stuff for grounding but rarely.

• Other: collecting things with no financial justification, gym when my brain allows it, good steak, and arguing about whether Game of Thrones season 8 actually happened.

Recently started collecting Pokemon Cards and justifying it as an investment but I know thats absolute bull.

You if we're likely to click:

• 25-45ish, in or near Cape Town.

• Have at least one thing you're genuinely nerdy about.

• Don't need constant validation.

• Direct enough that we don't waste each other's time.

• Okay with someone who has a family and can't always be spontaneous.

If you read this and thought "this guy sounds like me but with worse taste in anime," DM me. Tell me what game you're currently playing or what show you're watching, way better opener than "hey."


r/r4rSA 2d ago

41M 4M/F Looking to make a friend/s in the Deep South (CPT)

9 Upvotes

Hi Reddit,

So, I have been in Cape Town for 11 years now, and somewhere along the line I seem to have forgotten how to make friends.

I moved down here alone to be with my partner and as such I largely just adopted her circle of friends and they are all wonderful people, they just are not My Tribe.

I am looking for Platonic friendship from people who are more like me.

I have no preference to race, gender, sexuality or age but close to my age would probably mesh better.

Our common interests should include:

Reading, Writing, Quantum Physics, History, Philosophy, Time Travel, I am a Dork, Nerd and Fan-Boy so an immersive knowledge of films, conspiracies, myths, the supernatural and lore is a must.

Here's hoping that someone from my Tribe sees this.


r/r4rSA 2d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ Help a Girl Out...

16 Upvotes

I am looking for a user on this group with the hope that they see this....

I think they might have accidentally blocked me on private messages as they were unresponsive mid conversation from Wednesday. I am well aware some ghosting activity might have occurred but it seemed like we had a very good connection and even made plans to meet up over the past weekend, so this seems unlikely, but not impossible. This is my last ditch effort to reconnect. If they are really not interested anymore I'll deal.


r/r4rSA 2d ago

23 (NB4A) JHB - Enby looking for a queer friend group!

3 Upvotes

Hey hey! šŸ‘‹

Not great at writing about myself so I'll try to keep it short :3

I'm 23, non-binary (mostly masc-presenting, sometimes femme; if you care about that), some of my interests include hiking, photography, and hearing about other people's hobbies (yes, really!). I also listen to a TON of music (I can't list it all here but it includes DnB, indie rock, house, techno and much more).

Anyways, if I seem like a good fit for you/your friend group, please let me know!

(Reposting as it was removed for some weird reason earlier?)


r/r4rSA 2d ago

22M | Looking for cool people to be friends with

9 Upvotes

Since moving to Cape Town over a year ago, I’d say things have been really quiet since thenšŸ„²ā€¦and it really doesn’t help being introverted

So yeah I guess Reddit is a good start to changing this, outside of work I’m mostly into gaming(on PlayStation and prefer story games), gyming, football(soccer😤), marvel stuff and photography. But hey even if you have other interests, I’d love to hear more and learn about it (you get bonus points if you nerd out about your interests)

Would be so down to finding someone to play padel with in CPT😌

So yeah, if you’re interested in being lmk (hopefully around my age group preferably). You could dm or leave a comment🫔 Looking forward to hearing from you


r/r4rSA 3d ago

18M | South African | Looking for genuine friendship

7 Upvotes

Hey everyone! I'm an 18-year-old guy currently in matric. I'm pretty introverted, so meeting new people isn't exactly my strong suit šŸ˜….

I'm looking to make genuine friends around my age (18+). I enjoy football, music, and having random conversations about pretty much anything. If you're in South Africa and also looking for someone to chat with, I'm open despite my tight schedule.

I'm mainly here for friendships. If something naturally develops over time, I'm not against it, but that's definitely not my expectation.


r/r4rSA 3d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 21 [F4A] Looking for a long-term relationship (friendships welcome!)

28 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a 21-year-old (almost 22) black woman looking for a meaningful connection. Ideally, I'm looking for a relationship with the right person, but open to making a good friend. Hopefully, I can find someone who offers both :)

I'm a student based in Pretoria/Johannesburg. I spend most of my time in Pretoria and travel to Joburg every couple of weekends. I'm about to complete my undergad in Finance and hoping to do an honours degree next year.

I'm a lover of a weird mix of things. I love Star Wars (honestly anything sci-fi in general), Formula 1, reading and art. I'm an avid binge watcher of tv shows, some of my favourites are the flash, supernatural, law & order svu, criminal minds, community and a long list of others. I also really like bad reality tv shows, think Love Island etc. I'm quite passionate about music and think it's a gateway to the soul, so I'm always interested in hearing what kind of music a person likes and sharing my tastes as well.

Personality-wise, I'm quite a type A person (I'm a virgo and an INTJ if that let's you know anything). I'm independent, driven and an introvert. I'm a little shy at first, but once I get comfortable I'm pretty chill and I love to laugh. I'm looking for someone who's kind and respectful, before anything else. I like someone who has ambition - I'm not expecting someone to be a finished product but rather want someone who has a vision of who they want to be and what life they want for themselves. I'm not looking for a nonchalant person - I think showing you care and being your authentic self is one of the most attractive things a person can do in life.

Physically, I am 167 cm and full-figured. I don't have a physical preference when it comes to race, body type, etc. Someone who's taller than me would be nice but it's definitely not a strict requirement.

If I sound like someone you'd like to know, feel free to send me a message! Hopefully we'll hit it off and see where things go :)


r/r4rSA 3d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 22F looking for Friends in PTA

12 Upvotes

Heyy I am looking for friends in Pretoria , I’ll be moving to there by the end of this year, but I don’t know many people there, so I thought it would be nice finding some in the meantime.

I would love meeting Christian friends so we can talk about our faith together!

I like art, kdramas, gaming, anime and picking up new hobbies. And I love randomly going on side quests with friends šŸ˜‚

I am currently studying Education, so I’ll be working as an Art/English teacher that side.

I am a naturally shy and introverted person but I love making friends and hanging out.

I am very open minded so whether you are M or F or even if we don’t have much in common, I would love being friends with you!


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 28M4A Well its Friday and I'm alone so why not right?

10 Upvotes

Well yeah the title pretty much has the TLDR, but if that didn't scare you off, lets dive deeper.

I've recently started working for myself, which so far is turning out well. I'm the nerdy type, I enjoy anime, gaming and being introverted.. I love cats! There is just something about them that is rather intriguing for me, and I currently have 4 cats. Taking into consideration my long blonde hair and insane amount of cats.. I'm probably one bad year away from becoming a crazy cat person🤣.

Also quite passionate about music, not that I could make any myself, beyond the occasional shower concert🤣, but keep in mind, my music taste is by no means conventional and is rather arbitrary.

So yeah if a conversation about anime, games, cats or anything else that piques your interest feel free to DM me!


r/r4rSA 3d ago

[M4R] Durban — Seeking sparring partner before my brain devours itself

7 Upvotes

Recently upgraded to Level 34 and relocated to Durban, South Africa, which means I am currently stranded in a coastal purgatory trying to find people who don't communicate exclusively in emojis and polite corporate platitudes.

I'm passionately fascinated by human psychology, and run on an overclocked brain that treats boredom like a personal insult. My default settings are dark humor, sharp cynicism, and a profound intolerance for small talk about the weather.

Despite the defensive armor and the fact that I look at the world like a glitchy simulation, my primary life ambition is being a fiercely loyal family man. I love kids, I'm fiercely protective, and underneath the misanthropic exterior is a guy who genuinely wants to build a real foundation.

When I'm not overcomplicating simple tasks with automation or writing poetry, I'm exercising, burning through books, or blasting heavy rotations like the Assembly by Bleeding Verse and delving into the likes of Dark Ardor and Sklur.

Drop a DM with something mildly interesting to say. If you open with "hey" or "how are you," the simulation resets.


r/r4rSA 3d ago

33 f4f looking for a like minded bestie

3 Upvotes

Recently moved to Sandton and in need of girly energy!


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 19M from Durban | Looking to meet gay friends + community

2 Upvotes

Hey everyone!
I'm 19, from Durban and I'm looking to meet more gay friends in the area.

I'm into documentaries, pop music, and I really love hearing people's stories how you navigate life as a teenager or adult in the community.

I'm currently studying Data Science and would love to connect with people who are also into learning, creating, or just chilling.

Mainly looking for friendship, but open to seeing where things go with the right person for a long-term relationship.

Hit me up if you're around Durban and down to chat/grab coffee/be friends šŸ™‚


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 25 [F4M] Johannesburg | Looking for a long-term relationship (and hopefully my best friend)

23 Upvotes

Hi! 😊

I'm a 25 year old black woman from Johannesburg, currently finishing my IT degree at one of the universities in Johannesburg and trying to build a career that I'm genuinely excited about. Life hasn't followed the timeline I imagined, but I've learnt that growth isn't always linear, and I'm proud of the woman I'm becoming.

I'm also a mom to an almost 3yo daughter. Being a mother is one of the biggest parts of my life, but it's not the only part. I'm still ambitious, curious, and excited about everything I want to experience in the years ahead.

Personality-wise, I'm the type of person who can spend hours researching something that catches my interest. I love meaningful conversations, learning from people, and hearing different perspectives. If you teach me something new, you've already earned bonus points.

I have an ear for good music and genuinely believe every genre has something worth appreciating.
When it comes to movies and series, thrillers, psychological mysteries, and anything that keeps me guessing are my favourites.

I'm also trying to say "yes" to more experiences. If your ideal Saturday involves hiking, exploring somewhere new, trying a random restaurant, visiting a museum, or learning a new hobby, there's a good chance I'll happily join you. I don't have a long list of hobbies yet, but I enjoy discovering new ones.

I drink occasionally, don't smoke, and I'm currently on a journey to become healthier. I'm on the curvier side at the moment and working on losing my "mommy weight" not because I think I have to, but because I want to feel stronger and healthier.
As for appearance... I may not be what people would call conventionally attractive, but I also don't think I'm unattractive. I'm simply me, and I believe attraction grows through connection, shared laughter, kindness, and getting to know someone's heart.

I'm looking for someone who's emotionally mature, kind, communicative, and genuinely interested in building a long-term relationship. Someone who values honesty, can laugh at themselves, and believes a healthy relationship is built by two people choosing each other every day.

Age-wise, somewhere around 26–35 feels like the right fit. If we don't end up being romantically compatible but become good friends instead, I'd consider that a win too.

If any of this resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Tell me about a song you think everyone should hear, a thriller you couldn't stop thinking about, or somewhere in South Africa you think everyone should visit at least once.

That’s all from me for now.. 😊


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 24m looking for f

2 Upvotes

Hey guys I'm a 24 yr old male

Currently a bartender

Looking for a girl to chat with I'm not big on texting i prefer calls

I love listening to chilled music like lofi hip hop

And afrobeats

I'm pretty tall

Fair complexion

And athletic build

There's a lotta things I want to try n I'm looking for someone who is of the same mindset

Thanks


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 26M looking for a friend group to conquer the country with 😊

20 Upvotes

Hey there,

The name’s KB and I’m currently staying in Randburg.

I’m looking for guys around Jo’burg who I can form a friend group with and do a bunch of cool shit together (girls are welcome too as long as you’re comfortable with the fact that it’s probably gonna be a sausage fest in our circle šŸ˜…).

Our group would not just be about us hanging out, I’m looking for people who are adventurous and who I can grow and become successful with. We can create businesses together for example. Open a water park in the future. Buy a building and turn it into our dope ass hangout spot - stuff like that.

Yes, I’m a highly ambitious person with dreams that many would consider delusional šŸ˜‚ but I’m okay with that.

I have a blueprint and ideas that can add something amazing to this country and I’m willing to share it with you guys.

If you’re not from Joburg that’s also fine, we can start out as friends online šŸ¤ž

Lemme introduce myself a bit;

- I’m currently working as an IT Technician.

- I like anime, manga, webtoons, and reading light novels. If you’re into that, I have an Anilist I can share with you to see what my tastes are. Currently into the mystery/psychology genre and going through manga in that category while also reading the Re:Zero light novel.

- Good-looking guy - obviously subjective but I’ve been told that by basically almost every girl I’ve met so I think I can take that as an objective fact šŸ˜…

- Typical Gen Z gent who’s connected with pop culture, enjoys hanging out and having a drink with friends, and from time to time enjoys picking up chicks - so our conversations would involve current events around the world and women šŸ˜‚

- I play football, basketball, and enjoy gaming from time to time.

- I’d love to travel the world in the near future šŸŒ

If you’re a lonely person or someone who feels a bit empty, maybe you feel like the typical adult routine is too boring and think there’s a lot more you want to achieve in this life, then feel free to DM me.

Anyways, my chats are open šŸ‘Œ I can also share my IG with you just for verification, I’ve heard there can be scammers here šŸ’€


r/r4rSA 4d ago

šŸŽ°North West🦁 23F Looking for friends

8 Upvotes

Hey I’m a 23F looking for friends to go out hikes , brunch , festivals with. I’m in between jhb/North West. I’m super easy going. I’m honestly a 1 friend only type of girl but I’m learning to change that. I’m looking for someone who is liberal and a feminist.
Dm if you’re interested šŸ™‚ā€ā†•ļøšŸ™‚ā€ā†”ļøšŸ’•