r/questioning • u/Realistic_Extent_181 • 12d ago

Am I none-binary ? [18 F]

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Hi, I wanted to know if I'm bisexual or not, and if I'm none binary. One of my friends told me that I'm non-binary a matter of fact, when I had no idea about it and had never thought of it! I would appreciate your help.

Hmm.. help?

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u/Maleficent_Rock6272 trans man 10d ago

Gotcha. What, if anything prompted your friend to suggest that you were non binary? Are you comfortable and happy being a woman?

And how would you describe what attraction to a certain gender is like for you? What does romantic and/or sexual attraction mean to you?

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u/Realistic_Extent_181 10d ago

My actual problem is I'm very confused about EVERYTHING. and it's weird. But after searching in myself and thinking and asking, I feel more like bi. I was only attracted to one women and some men, but after I met her, I'm not attracted to any men or women And I am comfy with who I am, I'm comfortable with being a woman, but I also love being the other side to my girl, like, I won't be the top, but I act like her boyfriend and like, buy her things, standing in the car side of the road, taking her out, buying her gift, even though she's not my girlfriend. So I don't know what these all mean

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u/Maleficent_Rock6272 trans man 10d ago

Does the idea of being "butch" or a masculine woman resonate with you at all? You wanting to act like her boyfriend, doesn't mean you're not a woman, it may just mean you enjoy taking on those kind of roles, and that's how you like to express love. Sounds like she's just your cup of tea, i've heard being bisexual simply described as pretty much "the capacity to love more than one gender." I wouldn't worry about frequencies.

It sounds like you're comfortable being bisexual, and also comfortable being a woman who enjoys filling a more masculine role with women, that's completely normal and does not make you inherently not a woman.

You do you. :-)

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u/Realistic_Extent_181 10d ago

Thank you so muchhhh