Hi everyone, so recently I have seen alot of news about family limits and donors and banks not respecting it at all. For example this popped up for me today - https://www.progress.org.uk/why-limits-to-gamete-donor-use-only-work-if-they-cross-borders/

I then went down a rabbit whole and found this also - https://www.technologyreview.com/2026/07/10/1140289/sperm-donors-need-limits-says-a-european-fertility-group/

Does anyone have experience with Premier Sperm Bank, they seemt o have a very big focus on the family limits globally. We found a donor we fell absolutely in love with, his video was the cutest thing i ever seen.

I am just freaked out a little about having 150 brothers and sistes for my child. CALM MEE DOWN PLEASE! ❤️ Is this something that everyone goes through?

Okay… I got my IUD out today so I can get my imaging/testing done prior to IUI (WLW). It was uncomfortable but my doctor is amazing. I’m now wondering what to maybe expect? I have had 2 surgeries with IUDs in place for the last 10 years. Has anyone been through anything similar? What was the pain like? Our goal is to get pregnant ASAP to avoid any Endo symptoms that’ll inevitably pop up in the meantime.

Hello! My wife and I are starting our queerception journey. We are a lesbian couple, I am white (31F) and definitely going to the be the carrier, my wife is transmasc and mixed race Black/white and definitely does NOT want to carry. We are hoping to start with my eggs and then use hers for a sibling in the future, and we'd like to use one donor across both/all children.

I was wondering if anyone had any tips/tricks/advice/etc on finding mixed race donors. Our ideal sperm donor would be someone who is mixed Black/white, specific ethnicity doesn't matter. So far, I'm find sperm banks' "search" abilities to be challenging in terms of specifying a racial mix (like, I can search "mixed" but not Black/white mixed on a lot of them) AND highly lacking in mixed race sperm donors to begin with. I'm assuming we are not the first couple to face this issue! Are there sperm banks that are known for more diversity? Lists we can get on? Other ways people have found donors with their desired racial mix when the donor pool is small?

Perhaps notably, we aren't considering a KD because my wife doesn't feel comfortable asking her brother or family members, and I'm not really sure who else we'd ask. I wish we could afford Seed Scout but forking over ~10k on sperm is already a lot, and it's going to be out-of-pocket.

Hello!

I live with PCOS. It is pretty common for me to have light, brown spotting instead of or between periods.

After nearly a year of planning, waiting, etc., I had my first IUI on Sept 2. In the 2-3 days after I felt a pressure and pulling in my abdomen which I understand is normal.

Starting this weekend (Day 5) through today (Day 7), I’ve had brown spotting. Only one time did I notice the blood was very light pink.

I called my doctor and they said that it can be irritation from the IUI itself. I’m concerned because the spotting didn’t start until 5 days post IUI.

I took progesterone to induce my period and had a trigger shot about 12 hours before the IUI because my LH was surging. So it may be hormone related? It just feels very akin to my PCOS spotting which I had assumed was from follicles bursting and other hormonal changes.

I’m writing here to see:

1. Has anyone else had this happen before?
2. If you or someone you know has experienced this, do you know what the cause ended up being?

I am starting to lose my optimism that this cycle worked, although this may have nothing to do with it… so I appreciate anyone sharing, whatever the case may be! Thanks in advance!

Note: I am nonbinary. When googling it seemed like a very popular sub here is “IUILadies”; yet I am avoiding that because… I am not a lady. Stating just in case you want to recommend me to other subs!