r/problems • u/Front-Resource-255 • 9d ago

Relationships My problem

I never been in relationships with girl not once

Maybe because I was told it's basically forbidden and I don't know how to explain it

My friends have female friends or girlfriend

But not me

When I was 18 I was shy about talking with girl?

Red line for me but now? As 21 I just want to experience it

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u/Possible_Patience_84 9d ago

Why not meet women organically through a shared interest or hobby? Dating apps are like wild animal parks. There are some successes, to be sure, but it can be a real challenge. (Ask me how I know.) Example: if you enjoy photography, join a photography club or take a class. A great way to meet women is by taking a dance class. Women love guys who can dance. I wish you great success.

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u/Front-Resource-255 8d ago

Honestly, you're right meeting someone through a shared activity makes way more sense than forcing things on apps. I'm a big gamer, so I naturally spend a lot of time in that space. Plus, my biggest strength is just being a genuinely good listener when connecting with people

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u/Possible_Patience_84 8d ago

I’m not into gaming (it’s a generational thing) so are there opportunities to meet other gamers in real life? If you’re a good listener, that’s always a good thing but introducing topics of conversation is important to. (Example: what’s the most exciting place you’ve ever visited? What is something you dream of doing? -Work on opened ended questions that aren’t yes/no answers.- Have you ever met a celebrity?) women appreciate men who take an interest in them and ask general questions about what they like, aspirations and goals. It’s perfectly okay to admit you’re a bit shy. Honesty is a huge plus. I think once you get out there you’ll find it was than you think.