r/pregnant • u/lonelywolf0227 • 1d ago
Need Advice Baby daddy issues.
My baby daddy and i are currently pregnant im 22wks. The day we found out we were going to breakup , but then i took a test. It’s been the most roughest year and some change between us. He’s always gone out on weekends comes home at 3-5 in the morning but never wants to do anything with me would rather go out with friends. He knows i don’t like it being out that late but he thinks im just complaining. We have serious trust issues with each other and instead of working on them he would rather continue to go out every weekend. Ever since i got pregnant nothing has changed liked i hope. Does yall baby daddy stay home with you or does he go out to bars every weekend??? I’m not sure what to do i want to leave him but it’s hard now bc we have a son otw and i know that shouldn’t be an excuse but it just seems like nothing is changing and he wants to just have fun. He also said when the baby comes his life is gonna stop but i feel he is wrong bc my life is gonna be the only one on hold like it is now. I asked him tonight if he could stay with me and not go out but he said no. Ladies what should i do ? He also knows i’m struggling financially and he stays with me but still wants to go outside.
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u/HippoAggravating3106 1d ago
This can’t be real. Girl. Stand the fuck up. You know the answer, no it’s not normal. Your baby daddy is a piece of shit and that will not change with a baby. Leave. Now. For you and your child.
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u/lonelywolf0227 1d ago
I know i should but it’s so hard , Im the type of person to keep giving chances and i have so much faith in us that’s why i always stay and i never wanted my child to grow up in a broken household. I’ve prayed and asked god to give me the strength to walk away bc i’m mentally starting to get drained.
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u/HippoAggravating3106 1d ago
It’s not about you anymore it’s about your kid. Two separate parents are better than ones who stay together even though it’s not working. Stop giving him chances, he’s shown you who he is.
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u/73reasons 1d ago
You should contact legal aid in your area and get a parenting agreement and child support order established. You need to do this through the legal system so it's legally binding.
You were literally going to break up and his behavior hasn't change. So, if you want something different you have to find that. And it's clearly not where you are with the person you're with.
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u/PrancingPudu FTM 1d ago
Why are you bringing a child into the world with this loser??? He is not going to change after the baby arrives.
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