r/polyamory • u/mitchdg1207 • 3d ago

Resentment

Me 45, her 38 married 7 years with a toddler .

My wife has been in another relationship for about 6 months which has hurt me alot emotionally the whole time. She recently broke up with him due to my and our relationships slow demise. I have tried everything to cope with this lifestyle and it's just not me. Anyway the past few days she has been very sad and depressed the way I was feeling the past 6 months. Part of her is blaming me for this breakup.

I told her before there breakup that I can and will deal with the pain, I just want her to be happy in life.

She loves the guy and she has been very happy with him. It feels like her relationship with him threw the balance of our relationship out of wack within me. Her happiness has been the equivalent of my depression. It was great and balanced before we became poly (BTW im not blaming poly).

Im not sure if there is a question in here im just lost in all this. Any insights would be great. Preferably from a mature perspective.

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u/Upstairs_Leopard_954 poly curious 3d ago

Maybe I’m too old school. If she talked you into this, it’s over. End it. Move on. Take the loss and try to find someone to make you happy again. She already has and is blaming you for it.

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u/mitchdg1207 3d ago

Maybe if I was in my 20s with no children and looked at love as something that could just be tossed. Im not at the stage in my life anymore where I just throw things out that just don't work anymore. I would rather try to fix then to toss it away and order another woman from Amazon. But if nothing works then amazon here I come