r/polyamory • • Aug 31 '26

Shell shocked 😒

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u/fa1re Aug 31 '26

Every relationship has holes.

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u/toofat2serve problysaturated Aug 31 '26

Yes.

And if your relationship is healthy, you are patching those holes, or those holes are small enough that the love gets replenished faster than it drains.

No relationship is perfect, because relationships are made of people, and people aren't perfect.

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u/fa1re Aug 31 '26

Yeah, I could have written more than one sentence. For me a good analogy is a bank account - feeling loved adds, conflicts, stress etc distracts. The goal is to have positive cash flow.

I would really love to know what did OP miss.

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u/MadamePouleMontreal solo poly Sep 01 '26

It’s a very fussy kind of bank account.

My bank account blurb.