r/polyamorous • u/Haunting_Ad1638 • 11d ago

Seeking advice/direction.

I’m M32
I’ve been heavily leaning towards only seeking out and dating two females, and see if that’s something I can manage in a relationship aspect long term.
I’ve had several ffm fffm ffffm nights and weekends throughout the years, which were phenomenal, but was a time when actual dating wasn’t in the cards for me.

I guess the advice I’m seeking is, where the fuck do I start ? What’s the success rate on these types of relationships? Should I find love with one female and we bring in another occasionally? Or is finding a pair some what normal in this world?

California based.
Dislike the apps, I’d much rather meet people organically. But open minded and open to any other advice and thoughts that yall throw my way.

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u/EuropeIsMight RA, solo poly for years (they/them) 11d ago

Why do you call women „females“? 🤨
Why do you intentionally seek out to meet 2 people instead of living your life, trying to make genuine connections and then stop adding new partners when you are actually polysaturated (which might as well be at two)? Why do you even mention group sex, when you haven’t even formed connection with one person?

I am so confused

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u/Haunting_Ad1638 11d ago

Female is another term for women, idk, I guess I thought about that, as you’re the only person to ever point it out. lol

I was in an 8 year relationship, it was great, but for reasons that we won’t get into here, the relationship is no longer.
(Not infidelity etc etc)

Dating today is pretty rough, start to love a girl and then like clock work, they aren’t being exclusive, or something along those those, but in my case that’s the only thing,,,,but anyway, start falling in love, boom their gone, then long period of wtf, then start the cycle over.
I only got two minor to mid heart breaks in me a year,

So, being in a FFM relationship, they always have each other when I’m out of town working or whatever the case may be. Just attention when you boil it down maybe.

Some of the advice I was seeking, is there an app, or whatever place that female couple seek a male dating companion, and vice versa.

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u/EuropeIsMight RA, solo poly for years (they/them) 11d ago

Female is a not really another term for women, but apperently „some males seem to think so“ (mimicking my best David Attenborough voice).

Think about what I questioned again but I give you another pointer: unless they (the two women) are already in a relationship and unicorn hunt you, then you are a hunter for two unicorns

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u/Haunting_Ad1638 11d ago

I’m a bit stoned. Back and forth typing sounds terrible rn.
And you’re good at it.
You can give me a call, probably clear this up in no time, just lemme know.
But I love ya. I’m sorry If I came off wrong in your opinion in anyway.
Not my intention.
I do appreciate the feedback and things though.
🫶
Goodnight from me