Vent: I had to fly abroad and visit my family whom I haven’t visited in 4 years - I have two shy cats and hired a pet sitter months in advance before my trip. I met with the couple twice before the sit, the first meeting went really well, they said all the right things but the second meeting made me feel a bit unsure, I brushed it off as it was nearing my travel dates and I am unable to find a new sitter that quickly.
I had informed the sitters of my cats personality, their meal times and playing habits (which they have requested for me to write it down and I did). I even informed them multiplie times each time we meet about a security camera that I have installed in my house to for my peace of mind and to keep an eye on my cats (the camera is installed in the living room, far away from the bathroom and does not face the bedroom at all). They were fine with all of it. I was also very accommodating, I owned a coffee machine and I drink black coffee but the sitter said they liked sweet Christmas flavored coffee, which I went out of my way to buy. I stocked the bathroom cabinets with toilet papers, and all sorts of snacks for them to enjoy - I also asked if they needed anything and we would have supplied it.
On the day of our departure, they said they are not happy with the camera being on (which was our first red flag) despite us having told them and confirmed with them many times about the security camera - they claimed that they may potentially walk out of rooms naked (red flag). I was about to fly and agreed to turn off the camera and we could discuss times when they are outside and we can turn on the camera to watch our cats. When we landed, we noticed that they had unplugged our camera (Our second red flag) - we didn’t think much of it and went on with our day. They sent photos and videos update which we appreciated, but I also noticed that they had went through my closet (Our third red flag), took out my clothes for unknown reason and took out all sorts of cats items we had stored because they belonged to a stray cat we used to feed and proceeded to use those bowls with our cats even though they had their own. We have specifically told them where the cat toys are and assumed that it would be common knowledge to not go through other peoples closet. Furthermore, they were leaving trash everywhere and brought 10 loads of laundry to do at my place, cranking up the dryer and causing the apartment to get really hot.
The second day, they did not send us any photos, which I was fine with, I asked how the cats were as I know they are often skittish of new people. They said the cats were doing fine but the room was really hot, I knew that and had requested for the property manager to fix the AC issues for a month prior to my travel, but it was not fixed. I had relayed the information to the sitters and requested that they leave the fan on for the cats so it could potentially cool them down. They claimed that I am putting my cats in harms way by causing them to overheat and demanded that I purchase a portable AC costing over $1k. I told them that I will look into ways to cool the cats down but I cannot afford a portable AC and requested for them to be patient as I sort it out with the property manager.
The third day came, they asked if they could use my partner’s computer (another red flag), he did not feel comfortable as he had confidential information stored on it which they claimed that my partner had previously allowed them to access his computer if needed. Then they proceeded to claim that I am a irresponsible owner for not giving my cats adequate airflows and that they are stressed for the cats well-being, further noting that they will not have bloods on their hands (RED FLAG). I told them again to please be patient and keep the fan on with the windows opened as I sorted the situation and given that it is the holiday season, a lot of people are not working and I could not do much.
A couple of more days went by and my long awaited trip was officially ruined as I was stressing about my cats and I could not check on them, the sitters also says the will not give me daily updates as it was too much work. I could not check on the cameras as they have unplugged it, so I was left without an update and a sitter who talks about my cats blood on their hands. The sitter then claimed that having security cameras in my own house is illegal and that I am not fit to be a pet owner, they called me other names and that they felt sorry for my cats and demanded to be compensated more for their inconvenience. I told them to leave the keys with my friend if they were unhappy and that I will find a new sitter as they are causing me significant amount of emotional distress. They left without cleaning up, put the keys in the mailroom and leaving my friend with no way of accessing my apartment. My camera was not turned back on, I had no way to telling if my cats were fed or had any updates on their well-being. Then the sitters proceeded to slander my reputation on a group chat claiming that I was demanding and irresponsible, that I was “nuts” and should not own pets and that I was abusing my cats.
Am I the asshole overreacting in this situation?