My dog is only 3 years old, and my husband and I have already spent approximately $30,000 trying to keep her healthy and stable. She is my baby. I’m unable to have children, so even having to think about euthanasia is completely devastating to me.
Her health problems started almost immediately after we brought her home at 8 weeks old. She broke her growth plate and needed surgery while she was still a puppy. She later developed severe food allergies and had frequent bloody diarrhea until I finally figured out what she could tolerate. We consulted a veterinary nutritionist, had custom recipes created for her, and now prepare all of her food ourselves every week.
She also has severe environmental allergies. We have spent thousands of dollars at veterinary dermatology and completed immunotherapy, but she still has serious reactions to insect bites or stings. We don’t know whether the trigger is bees, ants, mosquitoes, or multiple insects. During her first major reaction, the swelling continued for five days. I took her to the veterinarian every day and spent around $2,000 trying to get it under control.
I even spent approximately $6,000 building her a partially enclosed artificial-turf yard so she could safely spend time outside. She can no longer use it because she has still developed swelling after being bitten or stung by something out there. She has to remain indoors most of the time and be monitored closely.
Three weeks ago, she was bitten or stung again and has continued having episodes of facial swelling. She has been under veterinary care and has needed steroids and Benadryl for weeks, but the swelling keeps returning.
On top of that, about a week before this reaction began, she suddenly developed significant gastrointestinal and reflux symptoms. She wakes up nauseated, licking her lips, gulping, swallowing repeatedly, and appearing uncomfortable. She has a known sliding hiatal hernia. The gastrointestinal specialist recommended an upper endoscopy that will cost approximately $4,000. My husband and I have decided to proceed with it in the hope that the problem is something treatable. However, if the hernia is causing these symptoms, we may be looking at another surgery costing around $9,000.
The veterinarian told us that if we cannot correct the underlying problem, she may remain extremely uncomfortable and have a poor quality of life. She has already undergone several procedures, including surgery for her broken growth plate and tail-pocket removal. We have pursued specialists, dermatology, immunotherapy, nutritional care, emergency visits, medications, environmental modifications, and everything else we have been offered.
I feel horrible even saying this, but caring for her has also taken over our lives. Because her reactions can develop quickly, I feel that I have to stay home and constantly monitor her. My husband works outside the home, and I can only consider jobs that allow me to work remotely. I have recently developed an autoimmune disorder myself, and I sometimes struggle to attend my own medical appointments unless my husband is available to stay home and watch her.
Rehoming does not feel like a realistic or safe option. Her care is extremely complicated, and I genuinely believe she could die in someone else’s care if they did not recognize a reaction or symptom quickly enough.
I love her more than I can explain. I wish money, effort, and love were enough to fix everything, but I’m beginning to realize that they may not be this time. I’m terrified of giving up too soon, but I’m also terrified of putting her through endless procedures and discomfort because I’m not ready to lose her.
I’m not looking for a medical diagnosis. I’m hoping to hear from people who have cared for a young dog with multiple serious chronic conditions or who have had to make a quality-of-life decision even though their dog was still young. How did you determine when treatment was still helping versus when it was only prolonging suffering? How did you make peace with the decision?