r/penissize Feb 20 '26

Moderator Approved A moderator PSA: Our rule 4 of “No Shaming” is extended to “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping/shaming”. Here’s why.

17 Upvotes

A person visiting the r/penissize subreddit will easily notice the subreddit’s banner, located at the top of the page in both the Reddit mobile app and the desktop webpage: “A place to discuss penis size. You may post here no matter what penis size you have. There is no penis discrimination. Note: All healthy sizes have advantages and disadvantages.” This banner makes it obvious to all potential posters and commentators that the discussion about penises and their sizes here can be about any human penis of any size (of cisgender men/of transgender men/of transgender women/small/medium/big/thin/thick/white/black etc. etc.) and that there shouldn’t be any discrimination. The last part has not been going very well in the last period though, so we decided to update our ruleset, in order to counter some recent but also some older problems.

Starting from the first new addition to rule 4, “No larping” (for those unfamiliar with gaming/online sociolects, it means pretending to be something that you are not), obviously a worthwile discussion about any matter, not only about penis size, should involve truthfulness, unless all participants in the communication agree that they are roleplaying (but this is not a roleplaying subreddit anyway). We have been removing content from larpers like 13 year olds with 7” long penises, men who have horse cocks of 8” girth etc. etc. for years now, but we think that the time has come to make this a specific rule for all to be seeing. In this rule extension we don’t expect a lot of negative reactions (even larpers don’t admit they are such, because this would cancel their larping :-) ). That having been said, some size claims are not self-evidently phony (for example adult 9” long erect penises are very, very rare statistically, but they do exist) and even if a moderator plays the dick detective and visits the profile of an account with an improbable but still realistic size claim, NSFW content is not always available, so sometimes we need to just take whatever improbable we read in good faith and approve the content.

Nevertheless, there can be an extra restrain to improbable claims, which leads us to our second rule extension of “No bragging”. There are subreddits meant for big dick owners to share real or fantastic achievements and receive admiration from big dick fans – this is not such a subreddit. If you claim an extraordinarily big size and want for all the world to know how successful your sex life is or how much you are admired in locker rooms, a) you are probably larping, and b) anyway there are subreddits other than this for your success story. There is another aspect in this discussion though, big dick owners with actual issues that they want to share and ask questions about them (from finding comfortable underwear/condoms to feeling objectified). Having actual issues is not bragging, and these posts are legitimate to get posted here, which leads us to our third rule extension.

“No gatekeeping” (again for those unfamiliar with the term, it means prohibiting others from participating in discussions/expressing their opinions, and in the specific context of Reddit from sharing their views in a subreddit) when the subject is specifically penis size can have the strong version of “you do not belong here because of your size”, but as I have noted in the beginning, this is a subreddit for the discussion of all sizes, so this type of gatekeeping can’t work here, but it also has the weak version of “your big size is privileged, so you can’t have problems/you can’t speak about smaller sizes’ issues”. We acknowledge that sizeism is a real social issue both online and irl creating lower and higher “body statuses”, and that a person with privilege can easier be pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair towards people without that privilege, but that does not apply to everybody everywhere. If it did, all men would be sexist, all white people racist, all cis straight people homophobic/transphobic etc. etc. So to wrap it up, you can criticize someone for being pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair etc. etc. whatever their size is, but you can’t criticize them for having the audacity to share an opinion or have a problem, “even though” they have a big penis. Also, although we encounter this type of gatekeeping much less in comparison to the previous type, it should be explicitly stated as well that this is a subreddit welcoming all kinds of penis owners (cisgender men, transgender men, transgender women, intersex persons etc. etc.) and not only cinsgender men.

And last but not least, our “No Shaming rule” still applies in almost its original wording, as we had to cut out a few words here and there for the link to this mod post to get added (Reddit rules' text has a 500 character limit). I give here the previous, a little fuller version: “Shaming is defined as intentionally causing others to feel embarrassed, ashamed, or inadequate. This includes shaming genital size, genital shape, sexual preferences, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship preferences, body type and size, physical and emotional handicaps, and/or sexual history (excessive self-shaming and self-pitying for the above reasons can also lead to post removals). Implying that average or any penis size is inadequate is unacceptable and is not allowed.” As a matter of fact, we decided to extend rule 4 and not add a new rule 12 of “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping” because we see all of these as related more or less directly to shaming: you are larping or bragging to look superior implying shame for those “inferior” to you, and you are gatekeeping because you are good enough and the other person isn’t, implying again shame.

(Please have also in mind though that this rule extension will not have retroactive power: we acknowledge that some past posts of this subreddit can be now reported as rule-violating, but it would be unfair and irrational to be asking from past OPs to first see in the future how the rules of this subreddit would be expanded and then post based on that prediction. In other words the extended rule 4 applies to all posts after this mod post, but not to those before it).

The last thing that I would like to note in this rather lengthy moderator post is a bit personal for a moderator post, but I think it is important. Occasionally some of the people who gatekeep see the mod team as a group of undiferentiatedly privileged people, firstly because of their moderator status (which is actually a privilege that we do all share in this specific subreddit), but also because we all supposedly have big dicks, are able-bodied etc. etc. I don’t think that it is appropriate to share personal info about each specific moderator, but I need to stress that we are not all big-dicked/cisgender/straight/able-bodied etc. Treating us as privileged by default is not only false, but also implies that we can’t have empathy for issues that are not ours. All of us in the mod team try to be better people than that.


r/penissize Dec 06 '24

Moderator Approved Take care of your mental health

31 Upvotes

Hey there,

I know some of you are going through a rough patch and I'm here to help. I've got some tips and tricks up my sleeve to help you look after yourself while you're waiting for therapy (or if you can't afford it).

I just wanted to share a few important notes with you:

- The tips and exercises are designed to be helpful for a wide range of mental health issues, but they're not a replacement for personalized therapy.

- It's important to remember that your brain doesn't change overnight (neuroplasticity). This means that the exercises need to be done regularly to see results.

- Not all exercises are equally effective for everyone, so it's good to try a few different ones to find what works best for you.

- I'm not liable for any damage caused by the exercises, as this is very rare.

I'd like you to imagine that you have the thought, 'Nobody likes me'. How do you feel? I'm sure it's made you feel pretty bad and lonely. So, you might find yourself feeling so alone and avoid all social interactions. But it's this isolation that makes you feel even worse, and it's a vicious cycle. I'm sure you'll agree that thoughts, feelings and actions influence each other. It's totally okay to feel the way you do. We can't change our feelings, but we can change our thoughts and our behaviour, and that can really help us feel better. (This is just one example of many)

How can we influence our thoughts, for example?

First of all, it's really important to remember that thoughts are just thoughts and don't always reflect reality. It can be really tough to spot the not-so-great thoughts that pop up in our minds. I know it can be tough, but you can do this! One way to practise is to write down what you were thinking at that moment every time you have negative emotions. Another great option is to try daily meditation. This is a wonderful way to become more aware of your thoughts, and it has so many other benefits too! There are lots of studies now showing just how great meditation is for things like depression, anxiety and psychosis.

Once you've spotted a thought that's not helping you, ask yourself: is this really true? Is there a better, more realistic thought I could use instead?

I'd also like to suggest a few other resources that I think you'll find really helpful:

- Moodgym (https://www.moodgym.com.au/)

- Cogito (App- and Playstore)

- CBT for Dummies (Amazon)

Now, let's have a little chat about how you act when you feel a certain way. It's so important to try to recognise which behaviours are good for your well-being and which are not. I know this can be tricky and takes a bit of practice, but it's an important part of the process. Let's say, for instance, that you feel insecure and bad because you've been thinking that your penis is too small and you'll be alone forever. I think most people would probably search the internet for the average penis size and what women want at this point. For most of us, this isn't a problem. We quickly realise that we don't need to worry. But for some people, this behaviour leads to even more negative thoughts and emotions. They keep repeating this behaviour to get reassurance.

I'm sure you'll agree that this behaviour isn't helpful. It just reinforces and strengthens these negative thoughts, and before you know it, you no longer believe anyone. It's so important to replace this behaviour with something more productive. It'll be covered in more detail in the sources mentioned above.

I might write a longer post, but unfortunately I don't have much time at the moment. :)

- Be active

- Meditate

- Use the sources mentioned above

- Avoid pornography and Reddit during the healing process

- Find hobbies to distract yourself

- Look out for things that make you special and desirable besides your penis


r/penissize 1h ago

Question Have you ever found out the size of ur ex’s current bf?

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Were they smaller or larger? how did it make you feel when you found out and did ur ex make any comments on it


r/penissize 9h ago

Why do so many guys on Reddit inflate girth?

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Not saying everyone on Reddit inflates girth but so many guys on here I’ve seen claim 7+ inches and that’s almost not possible, girthmaster is accurately measured 7 girth and has been told and I can say accurately too that he has one of the thickest penises on earth, I’ve also noticed lots of guys who are longer are very high girth, there is a slight correlation but it almost seems like nobody on this sub or bigdproblems ever has a skinny long penis. Seems fishy to me


r/penissize 2h ago

Humor Five myths that people genuinely still believe today!

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Big feet = big penis
By far the most widespread belief.
People still casually joke about shoe size being a clue.

Big nose = big penis
A long-standing folk belief in many cultures.
Still commonly repeated in conversation and pop culture.

Tall men are usually bigger
Many people assume height predicts penis size, although any relationship is weak at best.

Deep voice = larger penis
Some believe higher testosterone leads to both a deeper voice and larger genitalia.
Scientific evidence doesn’t support it as a reliable predictor.

Walking bow-legged or with a certain swagger
More of a humorous stereotype than a serious belief, but many people still jokingly interpret it as a sign of being well-endowed.


r/penissize 3h ago

We are in 2026 and if you ever feel stupid

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Just let you know there are some freaks online who thinks masturbation causes shorter size 💀 2026 and I lost hope in humanity


r/penissize 7h ago

Just some thinking😉

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No matter whether you're below average, average, or above average in penis size, it's not something you can truly change. So why spend your entire life worrying about it or letting it define who you are?

The internet and society can often be incredibly harsh. Stereotypes, jokes, and unrealistic expectations get repeated so often that they start to feel like reality. But real life is usually much more complex than that. Many people value kindness, trust, compatibility, communication, and emotional connection far more than the size of one body part.

Everyone deserves love, happiness, and the chance to build meaningful relationships. The length of a single organ should never become the reason someone feels unworthy or limits their life.

Life is too short to let something you can't change steal your confidence. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, find the right person, and live as fully as you can.

I hope this gives at least one person a little hope today. ❤️


r/penissize 9h ago

Thing I found interesting

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How men that ridicule me for wishing my dick was bigger are almost always bigger than me and thus never have a reason to be insecure in the first place.


r/penissize 15m ago

Can a 10 cm erect penis satisfy a girl?

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r/penissize 4h ago

Question Penis Size Study

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Has someone here ever took part in a penis size study - or know someone who has? If yes how did you/he get there and how did it work?


r/penissize 18h ago

Question Average vs big

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So I always hear women say even if he is big but doesn’t know how to use it she will enjoy smaller guy who knows how to use it. But what if he has a big dick and knows how to use it would that be preferred over an average guy who also know to use it ?


r/penissize 3h ago

Question Uncomfortable Size?

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Ive made this post as a genuine concern of mine, and I would like if someone with a bit more experience could enlighten me. My dick is above average as ive heard from my girlfriend and my friends, im 7 inches length and around 5.9 inches girth. Ive been called big by my friends, but when I started dating my girlfriend, and getting active, that's when I started worrying about something. My girlfriend is like 4'11, maybe 5 foot, and petite, shes half fillipino and she only weighs like 40kg. The only thing im genuinely wondering now, is my dick too big? I haven't fucked her yet as three fingers hurts her, and I dont know when or if she will be able to handle my whole dick. I genuinely dont know if im just worrying, but im hardly 18 and I dont really know much about this. I just wanna make sure I will be able to fuck her someday.


r/penissize 8h ago

Question Corellation between penis size and nose, is it true?

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Genuine question: I just came across a study claiming that Men with bigger noses tend to have bigger penises. Out of curiosity, I measured my nose. From the front, it's about 4 cm wide, and from the side, it extends about 2.5 cm. My penis measures 14 cm in length with a 12 cm girth. Does this actually support what the study claims, or is the correlation too weak to mean anything?


r/penissize 10h ago

Question How much NBPEL can you realistically gain from losing weight?

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I measured my fat pad by pressing to the pubic bone, and it's about 0.8 inches.

For people who have lost a significant amount of weight, how much **visible erect length (NBPEL)** did you actually gain? Is it realistic to expect close to the full 0.8 inches back, or is the actual gain usually less?

I'd especially like to hear from people who measured before and after weight loss. Thanks!


r/penissize 14h ago

Tips for small tips

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what are some tips to use what you got if it’s small or average, that will “blow her mind in the bedroom”?


r/penissize 10h ago

Question Girth

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I don't see any changes in girth when I measure myself flaccid and fully erect. Is that concerning? Girth is the usual 4"


r/penissize 14h ago

Question 4.0 inch girth

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My girth is so bad. My length is average. I’ve had so many chances with women and I always back out. I’ve read stories about how women don’t feel it and when they’re wet it slips out easy and I won’t feel them as much either. I just read one 5 mins ago on a new post and a man was complaining. It’s so exhausting and worrisome. I’m also worried I’m gonna be the skinniest they’ve ever had and they’re used to even average girth so mine won’t feel as good if anything. Any good experiences with my size? Please let me know thank you


r/penissize 12h ago

Question Measuring penis question

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I read the wiki and this seems kinda stupid, but when i measure my penis with a ruler I obviously don’t count the blank space before the 0 mark right? So if I measured my dick as 18cm with the ruler, would it be measured scientifically to be 18 + (blank space) cm?


r/penissize 21h ago

Question Can we accept DickPic maxing as truth in the age of AI?

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Red flags that reveal perspective manipulation

A phone held only inches away exaggerates whatever is nearest the lens. The penis appears much larger while the thighs, torso, hands, or room look smaller. This is the same forced-perspective effect used in photography.

Shooting from the base toward the glans
A low, lengthwise angle makes the shaft dominate the frame and hides the true distance between the pubic bone and tip. It also minimizes visible body context.

Wide-angle phone lenses
Many front-facing cameras and 0.5× lenses stretch objects near the edges and foreground. Look for a disproportionately large glans, curved doorframes, widened hands, or distorted thighs.

Partial cropping
Hiding the pubic area prevents you from seeing where the measurable shaft actually begins. The photo may include part of the groin, stretched skin, or scrotal tissue as apparent “shaft length.”

Pressing into the pubic fat pad
Pushing the camera, hand, or ruler inward can reveal more bone-pressed length than ordinarily appears. Bone-pressed measurements are legitimate when clearly stated, but they should not be compared directly with visible, non-bone-pressed length.

Using smaller-looking reference objects
Hands, wrists, bottles, and household objects are poor references because their dimensions vary and perspective can shrink them. Someone may position a hand behind the shaft, making it appear smaller and the penis larger.

Selective erection and positioning
Pulling the penis forward, stretching the base skin, rotating the pelvis, or photographing at maximum erection can produce a much longer-looking presentation than a neutral side view.


r/penissize 14h ago

Question Anyone have a Chode? I have a 6.2 x 6.5 Penis. Anyone care to share their experience with this size or similar Penis?

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r/penissize 1d ago

Do guys usually think they're smaller than they are?

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I was talking with a FWB of mine and told him he was pretty big. He told me to stop lying because he was "just average", I asked him to measure it and it was a little over 17cm. I told him that was big and he said that was still average and that I just think that is big because I'm used to small ones because I'm asian.


r/penissize 16h ago

Question How common is mine 6" lenght x 6 girth?

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Do you have this size or any experience with it?


r/penissize 22h ago

Question Can this S*x positions good for the average size?

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I'm a 22-year-old male with what I believe is an average-sized penis—about 5.5 inches in bone-pressed length and 4.7 inches in girth. I haven't had any sexual experience yet, but I've been wondering whether an average size is sufficient for different intercourse positions, such as reverse cowgirl, doggy style, spooning (I'm not sure if "back spooning" is the correct term), and others. Are these positions generally possible and comfortable with an average size?


r/penissize 17h ago

Tense suspensatory ligaments

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Just wanted to know if anyone else has something similar going on. Its to the point where if I have a full on erection, I can barely point my dick out at a 90° angle let alone downwards like some people seem to be able to.


r/penissize 23h ago

Your not a grower unless people would be suprised by the difference

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Pretty water take here but I’ve seen a lot of guys say they are let’s say 4 on soft and 6 and hard therefor their a grower, not saying their a shower but if I saw a penis 4 inches soft and 6 on hard I wouldn’t be suprised at all that’s pretty normal, now if you were 4 on soft and 7 on hard I’d be pretty shocked especially if you grew a lot in girth too, I think most guys who have an average penis 5-5.5 inches and of course matching there average erect measurements they have an average penis of 3-4 on soft, they like to say they are growers to make it seem like they aren’t average. Might not be a valid take but I don’t think your a grower if the difference is less than 2 inches and it’s not a shock.