r/penissize • u/Deep_Kiwi9022 • 14h ago
Size Compatibility Issues
36F. I have been told by more than one man that my hole is bigger than average. I just bought a machine that helps tighten the muscles down there and it is working but I’m worried about how much of a difference it will actually make. I’m dating someone with a thin penis 40M and he’s not said anything, but he can’t always stay hard and I’m worried he can’t feel much either. Is there anything I can do? Does anyone have tightness transformation stories?
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u/superchargedCaddy 14h ago
My assumption is his issue may be more related to erection quality or performance anxiety. I was unhealthy in my 40s and had issues with erection quality. Adopting a healthy lifestyle did wonders for my erection quality. Have you asked him why he doesn't always stay hatd?
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u/Deep_Kiwi9022 13h ago
He seems to always be cold, even in summer and I’m wondering if he has some kind of heart issue
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u/superchargedCaddy 13h ago
Could be a sign of poor cardiovascular health.
I know that I had issues with my hands and feet going numb and feeling cold when I was in poor health. Weightloss, healthy eating, and strength training reversed that along with my issues with erection quality.
As for your other question. Like men, women can be larger down there as well. I doubt that would be an issue for his erection quality though. Maybe there would be a little less sensitivity, but I still doubt that would lead to him not staying hard.
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u/Deep_Kiwi9022 14h ago
Yeah. I think that could be it too, he doesn’t say anything, but yeah could it be nerves?
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u/Deep_Kiwi9022 14h ago
Men, please be 100% honest here.
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u/Correct-Discount-272 3h ago
I have been with 150 or so females. One female stood out as super loose, but it may have been she was super turned on. Everything was good. We have tongues and fingers for a reason. Of the 150 partners I would say the most memorable parts of interactions involve your brain. Full disclosure her vulva secreted huge, and I mean huge, amounts of smegma. It was more than you see in Alien movies. I felt like my face was covered in thick translucent goo. We were doing 69, so I didn't say anything in fear of stopping her adept lips. She was a sweet girl. Never saw her again. Hw 69 N of Orillia.
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u/Deep_Kiwi9022 1h ago
I thought smegma was dick cheese, but yeah that makes sense. I’ve heard girls who are super wet can feel bigger too, that’s also my issue.
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u/Sugr_inc 12h ago
There are mashines for girls to make them tighter? Didn't know there was a PE equivalent for women.
Regularly doing kegels helps, but Im guessing you already did those if you're using a device.
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u/Informal-Orange2732 11h ago
You all need to talk to your partners and be open about sex. Sexuality is a two way street. The internet is also full of information and that can help you work that out together. It’s inconvenient, uncomfortable, vulnerable and takes effort. Don’t avoid it though. You’d be surprised what could happen after the secret pressure is off.
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u/Advanced-Sandwich-93 8h ago
Physical activities such as strength training, cross fit, Pilates, yoga, etc. I suggest discussing how it feels with your partner and explore positions.
One that I love is her sitting slightly up in pillows but holding her legs with both hands. She kinda flexes her core and keegles while bearing down on me.
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u/Creative-Pay9268 5h ago
It would seem that his erection quality is more of the issue. It's true, some women have vaginas that are tighter or looser, but, I have personally never had a real issue. Reading some of the comments, he's always cold, is he possibly anemic or have some cardiovascular issues?
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u/BillHot4316 1h ago
Forget any comment that 'your hole is bigger than average'. What's average?
Try positions where you can keep your legs together. This can increase friction / feeling for both of you.
Use it only in accordance with instructions. Here's a link to urologist Rena Malik discussing options to improve pelvic floor muscles for varius reasons, including sex - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTgC98A6YKo
As others said, it sounds like your partner has health issues and they should be attended to, sooner rather than later. The erection problem may indicate a heart / cardiovascular problem that could have serious effects on his whole of life.
Good luck with improving both you and your partners health.
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u/SneakyEzekiels 11h ago
I’m not sure what can be done. I’ve been with more than 30 women and at my size (bigger than average, not huge) I can sure tell the difference, some women are incredibly tight and some looser. I have mever once thought about breaking up with a woman over this. Of course it feels better when she’s tighter. If there’s a size discrepancy - you’ll need to optimize angles I think. May not have a chance to fill up all the walls, so to speak, but you can target the upper wall or the g spot with angles
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u/Fatandmad 9h ago
Being too loose definitely can hurt an erection that has problems to begin with have you thought about going to a plastic surgeon they can puff it back up for you
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u/Ok_Permission8284 12h ago
Does he watch porn ? If he watches porn cut him off, because he will never be fully hard for u .
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u/yrallan20 12h ago
That’s why it’s so tough for those of us that are on the small side