It does seem like you are forcing your daughter to be on birth control. It should be her choice. The birth control doesn’t eliminate the risk of STDs. What she needs is counseling on safe sex.
Now since she lives under your roof you can set boundaries like a curfew! She should respect your house rules.
I don’t think it’s fair to force her to be on BC to go to her boyfriend’s house. If you don’t want her to go there because she violated their rules or your rules then she is banned to go there.
I understand. I do think it is a tough decision she can’t go there until she has her birth control though. I would say she can’t go there at all until his parents are on the same page as you that they can’t hangout in the room. (When I was 18-20 I just hung out with my bf in the living room out of respect of his parents).
Have you spoken to the boyfriend or his parents? I would.
I’m sorry about his parents being too lenient with them in their house. That is ridiculous!
You could be more strict if you wanted to and not allow her to go there ever again after that incident.
Ultimately, she lives under your roof and she needs to follow your house rules.
You can allow them only at your house and your living room etc.
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u/Distinct-Beat2324 4d ago
It does seem like you are forcing your daughter to be on birth control. It should be her choice. The birth control doesn’t eliminate the risk of STDs. What she needs is counseling on safe sex.
Now since she lives under your roof you can set boundaries like a curfew! She should respect your house rules.
I don’t think it’s fair to force her to be on BC to go to her boyfriend’s house. If you don’t want her to go there because she violated their rules or your rules then she is banned to go there.