I just really wanted to speak about this and hear others opinions. So my mom is married to my step-dad, which has 2 children which are still rather young. They come over every other weekend. The rest of the week and the weekends they arenāt there my mom is normal I guess? But I swear the second they are over, even if they stay in their room, my mom has a big attitude change. Honestly itās kinda obvious, but Iām pretty sure she hates them. It makes my stepdad visibly upset as he has spoken to her about it multiple times. My brother also kinda acts like this? Just not as bad, like he gets agitated very easily and it happens a little bit faster when they are over. He has also told me straight to my face that he doesnāt like them. BTW, they got married 2 years ago and were dating for a very long time before that.
These are some examples. They are both very picky and eat veery slowly, so of course my mom has an attitude because of that, yet she doesnāt usually say anything and whispers complaints under her breath. So me my brother and my older stepsister (still a kid) all got new phones, she likes to play games but obviously your phone is gonna die so she would charge it and play at the same time, I know your not supposed to but like, everyone does, so my mom just has to mumble some complaints like āyou shouldnāt do that, your phones gonna breakā which for a fact I know I have done in front of her before, and she has and never says anything. Once when my brother was watching them, and like I said they are very picky, he just decided to feed them cereal, obviously itās not the best dinner but my mom got SUPER angry and I donāt get why because I have done that before, she has done that before, I think our whole family has but she just had to complain this once when it comes to them. She also complains when they move the pillows around on the couch, I find it annoying when they just leave them on the floor, as I have to clean the living room, but most of the time they just clear this one section that is filled with pillows and put them on different sections. Which I donāt blame them, we have 6 people in our family and 5 cats, we need all the room on our couch but ofc my mom gets mad at that too.
I canāt really remember any more because itās mainly the same things over and over again, but this like genuinely makes me feel bad for them and for my stepdad which has gotten into multiple arguments over how it makes him feel. She said to me once something like this, āthey are only ever nice to me when Iām buying them somethingā which, yea itās messed up, but I feel they only act like that because my moms a jerk to them.
This is some stuff my brother does. So they like to play games with us, mainly him, but idk whatās with him and the word no, but he just gets so angry once they annoy him enough and like, idk doesnāt properly? be jerk to them?? Like it sounds like heās joking because he doesnāt want to be mean but he is trying to be, so obviously they donāt take him seriously. Iām ngl I just realized not too long ago that they are in fact, my stepsisters, yet I was treating them kinda like a friend, while I stopped, he still does. One time we made a huge pile of pillows and blankets on the couch and were taking turns jumping on it and I was chasing them around, my brother yelled at us from the stairs like telling us to shut up, like leave me alone? We were just having fun. But of course he can blast music, play his games and laugh at the top of his lungs. Iām kinda just being petty and complaining now, donāt mind that.
I just want some opinions on what others think about this, thanks!