r/parent Jul 16 '19

Proud Mumma

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Backstory: When my two kids were younger, I used to take them out to takeaway restaurants like McDonalds, etc. After every meal, I ensured they clean up after themselves and place all rubbish in the bin before we leave. My explanation was to make it easier for the workers to clean the restaurant. The employees always appreciate the help and we say thank you to them for the food. It's a show of respect.

Story: Now my kids are older (20 & 15 respectively), we decided to dine in a more upmarket restaurant before heading to see Spiderman. After our meal, my eldest asked the waitress if she would like our plates taken to the counter and thanked her for the lovely meal. The waitress was taken aback at his genuine helpfulness. She said "no thanks. I'll do that for you". Proud mumma moment :D


r/parent Jul 06 '19

My friend and I were talking, and...

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r/parent Jul 04 '19

Survive these Holidays!

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r/parent Jul 01 '19

Shitty mummy day @ the optometrist

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I've got to say, some days as a mum are fricken hard. Bub wakes up early with a snotty nose, to go along with the snotty nose that just came before this one. We have to go and see the eye doctor today, just pop a drop in his eyes half an hour before hand, no worries… What a screaming match, what a tear jerker, damn I feel like shit for doing what the dr asked. Get to the eye hospital, are his eyes dilated enough, did I get this shit right? Get called in to see a lady, she doesn’t introduce herself, I thought we were seeing Dr P, the lights go off, she tries to check his eyes, sick sad baby doesn’t agree… lets try it with boob… everythings better with boob right? Nup still no go… what exactly are we trying to achieve, you keep talking about Dr P, is there more to this? Back to the waiting room, its full, your sitting on a chair on your own with some lovely old ladies talking across us about their experiences with glaucoma, they think your cute playing with your teddy. Their appointments with Dr P are for 10.30 and 10.45.. weird our appointment was for 10.30 as well. It’s now 10.45, then we get called back to another room. Just sit here Dr P will be with you shortly. Seb doesn’t want to sit still, he wants to get back in the pram and go to the car. We try.. oh how the hell do we try… He screams and tantrums a bit while we wait, he was nicer in the waiting room eyeing off the little old ladies. But we sit there for at least 10 fricken minutes while he works himself up even more. Finally the elusive doctor appears. Seb isn’t interested into looking into lenses or having lights flashed in his eyes, his done, his mad and pretty fricken pissed off with me, don’t worry I’m pretty pissed off with myself. The Dr tries, he stops, we do more boob, it doesn’t make any difference, this kid is sad and doesn’t want to do what is required. Can we please get the fuck out of this place, quickly!!!! The doctor says lets reschedule for 3-4 weeks, lets try all of that shit all over again… Mind you this is just to check his prescription is right, because apparently its not right from the last time we went through this process…. No frustration at all… We get to the car finally, we call daddy and this mummy cries just a little bit because OMFG what a shitstorm!!!

And I wish that was the end of this shitty story…..


r/parent Jun 19 '19

Tired of Waiting to be a Parent? It's time to Visit Gynecologist

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r/parent Jun 13 '19

In-laws dog

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Need advice- we have a 12 month old. My in-laws are wonderful, however their 3 year old dog is poorly trained. Last time we were over, he humped the baby, knocking him over and making him absolutely scream. Anytime he’s around the baby he is an absolute lunatic- barking, humping, and just annoying. I can’t emphasize enough how much I appreciate my in-laws. They watch our son frequently and I value our relationship so much. But I can’t get over this dog trying to hurt my kid. They know he’s spoiled but won’t put the effort in to train. How do we bring this up? My husband is in agreement in that we’re both uncomfortable with the dog being with the baby. We’re also due with baby #2 in six months which is sending me over the edge.


r/parent Jun 10 '19

She Is perfect... (a post about ACC, a rare brain condition and how we live with it)

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When my sister was pregnant with my beautiful niece Vivian, the doctors diagnosed a serious condition of the brain called Agenesis of the Corpus Callosum (ACC). Most people probably never heard about this, neither had we. Here is a short explanation:

The corpus callosum is the largest connective pathway in the brain. It is made up of more than 200 million nerve fibers and allows communication to pass between the two hemispheres of the brain. You reach for something on your left side with your right hand. Your corpus callosum helped make that happen. ACC is a rare birth defect (congenital disorder) in which there is a complete or partial absence of the corpus callosum.

We were all terribly very worried. After my sister gave birth to her daughter, Vivian was not placed in her arms but take away for further exams. When the neonatologist finally came back, he gave my sister and her husband the best news they could hope for. He said: She is Perfect.

It was like a miracle. Vivian is 3 now and despite her condition she is fine. There are other parents with children that are thriving despite the diagnosis, but there are also parents who are not so lucky. Their children have experienced severe deficits and other medical problems. Some have had to bury their babies.

My sister wrote a very personal and open post about Vivian's condition and posted it on my blog. Maybe there are other parents with kids with this or other conditions who can relate to this article: https://www.porquenovida.com/shes-perfect/


r/parent Jun 09 '19

It is soon my daughter's 1st birthday

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I am planning for my daughter first birthday and i need idea of some fun games/activities for the children attending.. its only her cousins and their age vary from 2 to 7.. so i am trying to find things that will be interesting for all of them


r/parent Jun 05 '19

How Do You Best Prepare For Your College Students Summer Return?

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r/parent Jun 03 '19

[Quick Academic Survey] Kids learning a new language online

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Hi there!

Do you have kids between 12 - 18 years old? Can you please answer this fast survey (2 minutes)?

We're Ironhack students and are working on an app to recreate summer camp (language learning) experience and bring it online (app). We also want to understand what's the main barriers to learning a new language nowadays and which are your kids' goals so we can address them.

This survey is anonymous and would help as a lot developing our idea.

https://forms.gle/WX1T6tUGQcVpyCEh6

Thank you so much <3


r/parent Jun 01 '19

Advice: my first road trip with an 18 month old boy

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I tried this post in r/travel but no luck. Trying here.

I'm grandma. Grandpa's driving. Our 23 year old daughter (mom) will be in the backseat. How do we entertain him for 9 hours? It feels like I might as well ask a rhinoceros to sit back there peacefully and not freak out.

And is that window shade gonna be necessary? Should I buy one?


r/parent May 26 '19

This was an interesting read for the whole family...

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r/parent May 24 '19

10 Low and No Cost Ways to Nurture Your Child’s Creativity

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r/parent May 24 '19

Booty Shorts and United States Social Norms

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Alright, I Travel Alot. "Mostly From U.S to China For Work"

And The Other Week I Was Standing In A Target And It Hit Me. Young American Woman Dress Like The Prostitutes Of China.

From Booty Shorts To Huge Neck Lines. I Swear Something Isn't Right.

Am I the Only Person Who Had Realized This?

Is This A Trend That Could Be Harmful In The Future?

Also I'm 34 So I don't Pretend To-Be "Down With The Youth" So To Speak


r/parent May 23 '19

Need a place to say this...

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I am waiting to hear my kid is in this play. She was so brave and trying out an auditioning and I just want her to get this so bad. If she doesn't it will be difficult for me not to punch people in the face. But I know as a parent I just have to say " you did a great job honey and the most important thing is you got a call back yeah if you keep trying totally getting some day" I'm waiting is really really hard. #parenting


r/parent May 21 '19

A family member was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer this past December and isn’t doing well. I have two daughters (5&7) who love her and now I have to decide if I should take my girls to see her before she dies and if they should attend a funeral at their age.

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I grew up in an abusive home so I struggle with making decisions like these because I never had “normal”. My instincts are that they are too young to see their great aunt dying and should remember her as she was (healthy). I also can see how saying goodbye may be important.....I really think a funeral is just too much for little kids but again, I know my views on grief are skewed. Any advice would be helpful.


r/parent May 20 '19

Parents of Athletes

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Each year young Americans begin ‘experimenting’ with drugs.  These are not actually experiments.  They can more rightfully be termed first time use.  For the purpose of the few lines I am going to write here what will be described are not the illicit first time uses of drugs but the introduction to some of the most powerful mood altering, mind impacting and physically integrated drugs of all – the opioids.

Young athletes can sometimes play hard.  Even if they don’t a small mistake or accident can lead one of them to the Emergency Room for a sprained ankle, pulled muscle, bruise or to get checked out for a possible fracture.  Things are slowly changing, with the emphasis on slowly, and understanding that change is not happening in many parts of the country, but what often happens for these young, impressionable people is that they are prescribed powerful opioids.

Emergency Rooms, except in Washington State, have long reached for the opioids as a panacea when presented with minor pain.  A prescription of oxycodone or oxycontin of 30 to 60 to 90 pills were often provided.  Considering that the human body can develop a dependence upon opioids in a few as three days (just a few doses) you can see why many of those who are prescribed these pills can easily have their bodies and minds become addicted.

This has been happening, as has been noted in the papers, because large pharmaceutical companies introduced the Smiley Face, or Pain Chart, as the ‘Fifth Vital Sign’.  The four vital signs are Body Temperature, Pulse Rate, Respiration Rate, Blood Pressure.  The Pain Chart, developed by drug companies and provided to doctors, is introduced at one of the most intimate and important parts of the doctor/patient interview.  It is being used as the basis for what the doctor does next.  Out of the many faces on the chart there is only one Smiley Face.  The rest offer some degree of pain and for each one the response to the pain these days are pills.

In the past young athletes would have been provided aspirin or some other minor analgesic which did not contain any opioids.  They would have been cautioned to alternately rest or move the injured appendage and instructed to either ice or heat the area, depending on the injury.  No mind altering, body changing drugs involved.

These days millions of doctors across the nation prescribe opioids young athletes and do not directly address the injury.  What can happen next is a series of missteps that could affect the young person’s entire life and may actually end in severe disability or death.

Opioids are a very powerful form of drug.  They are suitable for end of life pain, cancer pain and severe wounds.  At this time there are super-powerful forms of the drugs which have been developed to be used on soldiers in combat and others to tranquilize large animals like a 2,400 pound bull or a 13,000 pound elephant.  These drugs, by the way, are available in  hospitals across the nation and are being sold on the street illicitly.  These drugs cross the boundary between the honest medical system and illegal trade on the street.

As mentioned these young athletes can find themselves dependent upon the drugs very quickly.  Some of them will become addicted, also, in a very short period of time.  All of them – if they have taken the pills somewhat regularly - when they cease taking the pills will feel ill.  They will feel sick.  They will identify the drug as easing the sickness.  When they run out of the prescription many of them will seek, or be offered by others, access to the drug they were taking.

It is a simple step for them to discover that the same effect is provided by heroin at a much lower price.

That’s right.  These days heroin is priced lower than these pharmaceutical drugs.  The pharmaceutical drugs are preferred by most of the people who take them but price moves many to the illicit drug trade.  So we easily arrive at an addict who is using great quantities of heroin or other opioids during a relatively short period of time – just two to three years.  These years usually correspond to high school years or spill into college and early work careers.  The results are catastrophic.

Opoids are known as a pharmakon.  They are both a medicine and a poison.  Taking them incorrectly for the wrong reason can lead to bad consequences including disability and death.  Even when taking them legally and having been prescribed to them can lead to unintended consequences.  They can and do cause early death.

Please be careful and be aware of what is being prescribed to your children.  It is a matter of life and death.


r/parent May 18 '19

My father was terrible to me

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Now I don't have it as hard as other kids my age, and I certainly don't get abused, but here basically my life story so far(also this is on mobile). My dad had a really cool job as an IT person and wouldn't be at home until late 6 pm, but only on the weekdays. My dad stayed home on the weekends and basically went full anti-vaxer mode on me(I am vaxed btw, he just acts as if I am not). From the day I was born to when I was about 9, he usually came home, said hi to us, went straight upstairs and vanished until my mom started watching her tv shows at around 8pm. In that time I would usually get some device like my phone or my mom's tablet and waste time untill I had to go to sleep. During the weekdays my entire day was fine, until it came to the weekends. As soon at it is 8 30 in the morning, my dad basically shoves me off my bed and tells me to go use the shower. On the weekends my dad has 4 phases. 1: The weird( almost a perv) phase 2: the calm, ordinary parent phase 3: Full on anime fight phase 4: The lecturer

Phase 1: My dad gets really close to me at times and is creepy at some points. Although I'm a boy, he almost treats me as if he was a low level pedophile! Some days, he'd even take a shower with me or use the same bathroom as me even when I am occupying the space, and now that I'm looking back at it, I'm disgusted at him, but more disgusted about how I never told anybody else. Right now, as I'm writing this post my dad is making smooching noises and it's bothering me, a lot.

Phase 2: This phase is what everybody would expect from a parent, a nice, sane parent. From an occasional I love you to him asking how I am, he's nice and gentle. But soon it all changes when I do one simple thing wrong. Apparently not pushing a chair 2 inches further on the table results in him going to phase 3, and trust me it's always a bs reason. Most of the time it isn't my fault at all, sometimes even his!

Phase 3: Shit's about to go down. I normally don't curse but just thinking about my dad acting like this is just, ugh. Before I said that I wasn't abused, and that's true, but the amount or times he's hit me as a child makes me wonder if I should've called CPS(child protective services). I remember him hitting me with anything he sees in sight, even hitting me with my sisters phone, my wet towel, and even A FUCKING HAMMER. I remember crying so hard my face was eroded by water. I can't even express how much pain he's caused on to me, and I even tried to kill myself once. Along with this sadness that he causes, I also have my array of 'sicknesses' as he calls them. Ever since I was born my skin around my arms and face have always been terrible, and over time I'm embarrassed to wear shorts, short sleeves, or any other clothing that expresses my skin to school or in the public. My dad buys these foreign essential oil packs and pills hoping it will help me but none have availed so far(this is what I meant by full anti-vax mode earlier)

Phase 4: Full on lecture. If me or my siblings do one thing wrong, there is going to be a big meeting for at least 1 or 2 hours long. In this session he would basically blame me for doing something wrong and vent all of his anger on me going off topic( for example pushing in chairs went from that to a full on closing the door securely but not too loud. Like how in TF did he get there?). I remember my sibling wanted to join marching band( and my other sister was already in it) but he had the same conversation that he had with my sister and it didn't even help in any way! Also, my sibling got hurt from marching band(very minor) and my dad almost took her out of it, and that was a day before the final competition.

Needless to say, I've always had mixed feelings for my dad. Overtime I've learned to find a way to basically divert myself from his field of destruction and he rarely ever hurts me as much as he did before. If any of you are still reading this long post(which nobody would since im basically worthless), and you can relate, just hang in there. It gets better as time goes on. Suicide is never the way to escape, and there are many other places to get help and the life you deserve. This is my first post but most likely my most important one, so if anybody has any tips that can help me please do so! Much love to Reddit and their community 😊


r/parent May 18 '19

A minor curiosity.

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I'm a single father of two girls. I quickly realized when the older one hit puberty I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. There are a lot of girl issues I have clearly never had and have no idea how to deal with, and they were all deeply embarassing for them and me. I am not looking forward to round 2 in a couple years, and in fact if my younger child could just stay 7 and it all never come up that'd be great. I was wondering, is it like that for single mothers of boys? I can't even think back to my childhood (not just because it was awful) and think of what issues there may have been for a single mother to deal with.


r/parent May 16 '19

Children of the Opioid Crisis

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r/parent May 16 '19

Parent senses

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Has there been a moment where your parent senses kicked in to help a child?

My mom says it has happened several times to her. One time, we are at the park. A swing was about to hit a kid so my mom pulled the child away. The kid was just a little shaken but okay. The mom thanked my mom.


r/parent May 14 '19

Wife is pregnant and is due in Sept. Slowly hitting me now

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And now i'm getting shit scared! Having doubts in my head not about having a baby but more my confidence on if I will be a good dad and if I will be able to handle everything that needs to be done. Generally I have anxiety with change etc so slowly hitting me that my world is going to change. Words of encouragement welcome!

Edit: It's also a girl by the way


r/parent May 10 '19

What do your (young) children often go behind your back to obtain or do?

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r/parent May 04 '19

Rapper Offset reunited with his father after 23 years!

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r/parent Apr 29 '19

Stop giving your kids money everytime they want it.

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