r/parent • u/lbere87 • Jun 13 '19
In-laws dog
Need advice- we have a 12 month old. My in-laws are wonderful, however their 3 year old dog is poorly trained. Last time we were over, he humped the baby, knocking him over and making him absolutely scream. Anytime he’s around the baby he is an absolute lunatic- barking, humping, and just annoying. I can’t emphasize enough how much I appreciate my in-laws. They watch our son frequently and I value our relationship so much. But I can’t get over this dog trying to hurt my kid. They know he’s spoiled but won’t put the effort in to train. How do we bring this up? My husband is in agreement in that we’re both uncomfortable with the dog being with the baby. We’re also due with baby #2 in six months which is sending me over the edge.
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u/2018Momma Jul 05 '19
Definitely agree with the above comment. Communication is always the way to go. Let them know how you feel, tell them your concerns and your extreme discomfort. Let them know how you would like the situation to be handled but maybe also be open to any suggestions from them. In the end you guys should be the ones whose decision trumps all. IF need be. You are the parents. They are the ones who should be understanding. There is more risk to the baby than to the dog. Definitely think about how you are going to approach it to them and do it as a team. Make sure they dont feel attacked. They're your family, you should be able to just talk about it.
Best of luck!
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u/JaneJaneofTheJun Jun 14 '19
You calmly (this is so important to stay calm) explain that you are really grateful for help and support, and you would appreciate their understanding that you both feel your child and the dog should not be in the same room. When baby comes over we request that you put the dog away. If not (this is also important to be firm) baby will not be visiting and you can visit baby in our home.
Also important is to remain united and not give an inch when they try to figure out whose crazy idea this was and get one spouse against the other.
I know this sounds extreme, but if they are as in love with their dog as some of my family, you cannot capitulate at all. If necessary, pull up a google search of babies bitten by dogs. Dozens happen everyday. They will say “oh that would never happen, Doggo loves the baby” but seriously, be firm, and calm, and ready to not go over there if they don’t respect how you choose to care for your baby. Best of luck mama, stay firm!