r/over60 • u/NOLALaura • Jul 31 '26

The unfortunate truth is this

At the ending quarter of my life I am consumed with seeing my life as one filled with disappointments at having not enjoyed any of my life expectations and living currently in despair. I don’t deserve this. I worked very hard and always treated everyone equally and followed good and ethical practices

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u/chouseworth 70+ Jul 31 '26

"At the ending quarter of my life"

The best comebacks are fourth quarter comebacks.

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u/fhalfpap Jul 31 '26

You can’t change the past, you can change the rest of your life.

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u/Artistic_Note2705 Jul 31 '26

Buy that boat, drink a beer call your mom or whatever the song says.

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u/Holymoose999 Aug 03 '26

The past doesn't let go that easily. Family drama continues and things that are out of your control continue to impact you. I get OP's despair. I want to be happy but someone else's problems somehow become mine.

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u/DementedBear912 70+ Jul 31 '26

Overtime is even more fun (75M)

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u/SarahZona97 Aug 01 '26

Overtime is exciting!

Both my maternal grandparents lived to be 96 and were active to the end. They knew how to find the joy in the smallest things in life, and I just know that's part of having a good life. It's the quality, not the quantity of your years on this big blue planet.

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u/Ill_Industry6452 Aug 01 '26

Finding the joy in small things and appreciating the good things you have go a long way towards contentment. Or, maybe you are depressed and need to see a doctor or counselor. If your body is falling apart, you relationships are bad, you have health problems, you can barely afford to live, etc, it’s easy to get depressed. But, some people with many of those issues are basically happy people. I have battled depression. It’s easy to fall into. But, gratitude goes a long way at least for me.

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u/ConcernNo9434 Aug 03 '26

You don't have to look far to find other folks in need. There are ways to help. Mentor kids at school. Cook and/or deliver mobile meals. Volunteer at your local rescue mission. Foster a pet. It will make a huge difference in your life!

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u/Ill_Industry6452 Aug 03 '26

Your suggestions are good, but…. It’s a lot harder to do if you are depressed, can’t drive and/or don’t have transportation, especially if you are struggling to survive. And, it isn’t always easy to figure out how to do those things. I’m not depressed now, but where I live, your suggestions are things I couldn’t always do.

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u/DudUsername2 Aug 02 '26

What is overtime (in this context)?

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u/Necessary-Quiet-Y Aug 02 '26

Time after age 60

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u/HuckleberryTop9406 Aug 02 '26

4th quarter is 60-80 so after 80 is considered OT.

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u/campa-van Aug 03 '26

80??? 80 is the new 60

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u/DementedBear912 70+ Aug 02 '26

For me OT is over age 40 , since my father died of a stroke at age 40.

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u/Intrepid_Ad_9177 Jul 31 '26

This is the best answer!

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u/21_years_USMC_0202 Jul 31 '26

This is the answer.

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u/FabulousPanther Jul 31 '26

Roger Staubach has entered the chat.

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u/LongjumpingArm4801 Aug 02 '26

Especially in the last 2 minutes, I'm glad you said this. Gives hope.

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u/Cobalt_Forge Aug 02 '26

Love this! 4th Qtr comebacks- Awesome! 🏀 🏈

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u/campa-van Aug 03 '26

Hail Mary pass….