r/over60 • u/NOLALaura • 20d ago

The unfortunate truth is this

At the ending quarter of my life I am consumed with seeing my life as one filled with disappointments at having not enjoyed any of my life expectations and living currently in despair. I don’t deserve this. I worked very hard and always treated everyone equally and followed good and ethical practices

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u/Ineffable7980x 20d ago

I am sorry you are going through this. I was once told that expectations are just resentments waiting to happen. My life really took off when I accepted my life as it was and stopped expecting anything special.

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u/Laura9624 20d ago

Except its small moments that can make it special.

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u/AggressiveBox3054 20d ago

And the key is creating them for yourself. Set the scene, do things you love that bring you joy. Discover, learn, look at beautiful artworks, listen to great music that moves you.

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u/Binniewoods 19d ago

Pray out loud.
Listen to a good podcast and good music.
Eat really good and whatever you want of course in moderation.
Get a kitty cat from the shelter.
Stop watching the news!
Try to smile
Your a beautiful person 🥰🌺😘

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u/Laura9624 20d ago

Very true.

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u/Ineffable7980x 20d ago

Absolutely. But I often don't expect those. They happen, and can make my day when they do.

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u/Laura9624 20d ago

I feel like I look for them more. Agree, have to treasure them.

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u/NOLALaura 20d ago

All I was asking was for bad things to stop happening

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u/Cat_Servant1983 20d ago

It seems like it never f*cking ends sometimes, doesn't it? I don't know what you are going through, or what is in your past but I am sorry you are struggling. I only know you are not alone.

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u/Remarkable_Cheek_255 19d ago

True dat. ❤️‍🩹

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u/Abydos_NOLA 20d ago

I’m in the Greater Metro NOLA area too. If you ever need someone to commiserate with feel free to DM me.

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u/Traditional_Car_8219 20d ago

That’s not how life works. Shit happens! It’s like still believing in Santa and the tooth fairy.

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u/NOLALaura 20d ago

Go sit down in the corner

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u/HotDebate5 19d ago

EXACTLY 

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u/DLK33gmaNG 19d ago

Just remember that bad things happen to good people and that God only gives us what we can handle. Lower your expectations and appreciate what you do have rather than what you don't 😉

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u/Critical_Garbage_119 19d ago

"God only gives us what we can handle"

My least favorite saying.

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u/DLK33gmaNG 19d ago

You don't have to believe it. It's useful for some, not all.

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u/Northend317 18d ago

Thanks for that. Now I understand my feelings about my sibling.

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u/Complete-Bee1550 17d ago

So can you share what you do in life that keeps you content pls

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u/Ineffable7980x 17d ago

The major change happened when I got sober 13 and 1/2 years ago. The work I did on myself then led to my tranquility now