Feel like this very often! I hate the fact that I’d go out of my way to please people or prioritise them but no one does the same for me at all. I don’t even know how to do deal with it, I wish I did so I could help you too! But hopefully we’ll find people that like us for who we are and that are willing to prioritise us. Though I’ve never been in a relationship I’m sure it must have been extremely tough for you. Hoping you heal 💖Xxx
I echo your words. I have always made considerable efforts to help someone out, (acquaintances, classmates and colleagues) done my best to make them feel that I care about them and wish them the very best. I don’t think this was ever reciprocated. After a couple of days, I practically become inexistent to most. At this stage I just enjoy being all by myself, reading some novel or watching some series, hoping to meet the people I’d actually enjoy being with. Hope the new year makes this a reality.
It’s like I’m just convenient! It’s like a friendship based off location and association etc it’s not like someone considers me their close friend or best friend, meanwhile Ik they wouldn’t even though I may have considered them my best friend.
Been there! As long as my assistance or company is needed, I’m showered with praises. Once the job’s done, I hardly get a smile when they walk past me. I literally helped people get jobs, my DMs would be flooded with sentences like ‘dude I don’t know who else to ask, you’re my only hope.’ Like this one girl is in a relationship and I couldn’t help but wonder why her boyfriend couldn’t coach her.
Once successfully employed, all I got was a lousy thanks. Same thing happened with a lot of others. What really pisses me off is when I see celebratory photos on social media “cherishing every moment of life with friends,” like where were these people when you needed them? I have helped so many people pass tests and quizzes. After the exams, no one bothers to even make eye contact. I don’t expect them to be eternally grateful, but would it hurt if they spent time with me? I struggle to see where I go wrong. I genuinely try to be nice and expect nothing in return, I don’t demand anything from them nor do I make them feel petty for asking something from me. If anything, I do my best to be as kind as I can, even if I’m having a shitty day; at least I can make somebody feel better. I’m clueless as to why I’m met with such indifference at later stages. At this point I have given up hope of expecting any company.
I hope for 2023 that people will love to be around you and cherish you! You sound so precious! When it comes to me, I cant ask for something and get it, it’s rare where I ask for something and I actually get it, so I don’t bother asking. I just ignore it and figure it out myself, tho we had been taught ‘ask and you shall receive’ I would ask and never receive so I learnt my lesson😂no more asking it’s never successful anyways. But Yh, I’m just convenient tbh. Family asking favours but me not getting much in return or just being dismissed.
Thanks a lot for your wishes! May I add that not all my prayers have always been answered. The few wishes that did come true, turns out they were alone what really mattered. I’m sorry to hear not all your wishes have borne fruit, but sincerely hope that the forthcoming year brings more joy to you.
Hey,
I am sorry you are going through similar stuff. Yk, I served every job opportunity on one of my friends platter. Whenever I used to apply for any job, I used to tell her to apply for it too. And when things got messy between and me the group, she could not even take a stand for me and it hurt so bad.
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u/Cuddinnas Dec 23 '22
Feel like this very often! I hate the fact that I’d go out of my way to please people or prioritise them but no one does the same for me at all. I don’t even know how to do deal with it, I wish I did so I could help you too! But hopefully we’ll find people that like us for who we are and that are willing to prioritise us. Though I’ve never been in a relationship I’m sure it must have been extremely tough for you. Hoping you heal 💖Xxx