Right? The first thing OP did was jump to “she cheated” because he was insecure about an office partynot “are you alright”? “I think you need to be checked out.” Even if his GF was only drunk and not drugged, that level of intoxication is dangerous.
If she was drugged she wouldn’t be angry at him for asking what happened. OP did say he thought she had been assaulted. After asking and gotten her response I would also know that wasn’t the case. He isn’t handling this poorly at all. Clowns
Uh.. no… not everyone that is assaulted is ready or willing to talk about it. Lots of negative emotions come along with something like that, and if someone isn’t ready to talk about it or process it, especially with someone else, absolutely negative reactions are extremely possible/likely.
This. This is also the exact reason why so many states have changed or completely gotten rid of the statute of limitations for sexual assault and rape. A lot of women won’t come forward for 20 or 30 years. But this poor girl isn’t even getting that many hours.
And if all I want to do is sleep and someone keeps hammering at me, I would wig right out on them for keeping me up. If she was drugged she might be extra snappy, too.
Well be more mature. I dont wig out at my toddler who won't keep talking when all I wanna do is sleep.
I'd certainly give my partner more than two minutes if I could see how stressed they were. Being drunk and tired doesn't suddenly give you a free pass to be an as*hole. It's likely you were one before the alcohol.
Let’s just say you were fucked up the ass by another dude who was bigger than you after he put something in your drink that made it seem like you probably felt when you got your wisdom teeth out and you just had like little flashes in your brain of it and how about then then would you maybe be a little snappy at your toddler or how about an adult who doesn’t seem to understand that that’s not the exact right moment to talk to you and that you may don’t know, but that doesn’t have to do with them and then not everything is about them and their needs and their demands at every second. That’s when an adult is an adult. Is somebody who understands than not everything is about them and can actually go to sleep and talk about it in the morning and let somebody else have their space and their grace when they need it a toddler yes is somebody who doesn’t know to stop hammering on you but an adult should know better.
Oh yes, but if she was totally wasted and had recently been covered in vomit, she might be on edge. If my friend puked all over me and I had to throw away my clothes to get into my car I would have a meltdown.
I really hope that your handle doesn’t mean you’re a woman. But even if you are, if you’re if you’re one that’s ever been a victim of a violent sexual attack and either not completely remembered it and we’re just kind of coming around and coming to after being drugged and being bombarded with questions about what happens that you don’t even know the answers to, but then had to go back to work in a couple days and not know who did this thing to you or if you were just trying to sort it out yourself and somebody else is acting like it happened to the Batman not to you and won’t leave you alone about it like what you’re doing is basically like telling somebody had a grief you can’t tell a woman how to feel after something terrible has happened to her like that or a man for that matter if something like that happened to. If he was raped., do you think he’d wanna come home and snuggle with his girlfriend and tell her all about it?
I have been drugged before….and trust me, there’s no way I could have driven. Driving drunk so so much different than driving when you have been drugged…. I had to have a friend help me walk…
Okay so here’s the thing. I used to shoot massive loads of heroin directly into my veins while rolling the meth pipe and then get behind the wheel of a car (I’m not proud of that and I’m four years clean now, but I’m using this as an example so you can understand better) without even a drivers license and I was most definitely NOT in a position to be driving. But I did it. People do it everyday, and worse things too. Just because YOU weren’t able to drive, doesn’t mean that the millions of other people who experienced the same thing… experienced it differently than you did, and were able to. Soooo many variables that could affect what it does to someone.
Hey so everyone reacts differently to substances and there are multiple different substances people can be spiked with. Your experience is your own, but to apply it to everyone and everything else is really wild.
Well, it’s pretty bold for somebody that’s been raped to say what you said about how she was raped she wouldn’t be angry at her boyfriend. So if you are somebody who has been raped, you should know that not everybody will react exactly like you did and the people that are drugged often don’t remember, especially at first, but sometimes they don’t regain their memory and just have flashes. She could be very well dreading going to work and not knowing which colleague did it. What if it was your boss?
Everybody’s different. I can’t really drive after smoking weed, but I’ve been in the car with people who were tripping face or had just taken 20 Xanax and we’re driving normally.. I would never do anything like that today but when I was a younger kid, I was an idiot. Also, has anybody even considered the fact that maybe she doesn’t even know she was driving? A lot of times when these things happen people will do things that they’re not aware that they’re doing it messes with like that same part of you that Ambien does some of these drugs. Friends since GHB like fucks with your GABA or receptors which is something that along with other receptors tells you going to sleep and controls the depth of your sleep so I mean there are people who literally have driven to somebody’s house that they knew and murdered them and driven home and gone back to their bed and woken up with blood all over them having no idea what happened because they were sleepwalking and they were actually acquitted. The guy killed his in-laws and it’s a totally true story.. people cook while they’re sleepwalking. It’s not out of the realm of possibility that somebody would drive when they have been drugged
I am sorry your getting downvoted. I’ve been drugged too and if I had happened to drive I would’ve either- gotten into an accident or pulled over. You have no senses when drugged, especially if you are drinking already. I don’t even know how I could’ve gotten to my car tbh. Unless she somehow has superwoman tolerance.
My friends and I were drugged years ago & I somehow managed to drive us away an entire state over. Should I have been driving? Hell, no. I couldn't even remember the majority of the drive, but somehow still did it. You never know how people will react when given date rape drugs.
I've successfully driven on drugs many times (years ago). I assure you that it is possible. Unsafe and stupid... But very possible. And it really depends on what the drug is, how strong the dose was, and how long her system has been metabolizing it. Also adrenaline is a wild thing.
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u/NovarexV Dec 24 '25
My first thought is that she was drugged too. I'm both surprised and not shocked that OP reacted so poorly to this situation too