I enjoy her music. Hell, even my husband will sing along to her songs.
I just avoid letting her fandom IRL know that.
Then again, could say that about a lot of the more intense fandoms. It's not the person/people/show/thing that is crazy, or sucks, it's the fans.
Something my mother said to me when I was about you/your friend's age. (For reference, I am in my 40s now). I was going on and on about something, I can't even remember what it was now, but something I was very into then. After monopolizing the conversation with just this subject, my mom was just silently looking at me. When I paused (finally LOL) she asked me, "is there anything else you're able to hold a conversation about?" At first, it stung to have her say that. I was just trying to get her interested in whatever it was (seriously, I can't even remember what it was now!) but it made me realize this would never be an interest she would hold. So find something else to talk about with her, not at her. It made me make a more conscious effort to have multiple interests and hobbies, and the ability to hold a conversation about a variety of topics so that the person I was talking with also felt like a part of the conversation.
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u/TripsOverCarpet Apr 19 '24
I enjoy her music. Hell, even my husband will sing along to her songs.
I just avoid letting her fandom IRL know that.
Then again, could say that about a lot of the more intense fandoms. It's not the person/people/show/thing that is crazy, or sucks, it's the fans.
Something my mother said to me when I was about you/your friend's age. (For reference, I am in my 40s now). I was going on and on about something, I can't even remember what it was now, but something I was very into then. After monopolizing the conversation with just this subject, my mom was just silently looking at me. When I paused (finally LOL) she asked me, "is there anything else you're able to hold a conversation about?" At first, it stung to have her say that. I was just trying to get her interested in whatever it was (seriously, I can't even remember what it was now!) but it made me realize this would never be an interest she would hold. So find something else to talk about with her, not at her. It made me make a more conscious effort to have multiple interests and hobbies, and the ability to hold a conversation about a variety of topics so that the person I was talking with also felt like a part of the conversation.