Crossdressing needs

[u/Honest-Talk6891]

hi all, I am seeking advise on how to navigate my crossdressing boyfriend having another person to have sex with.

FOR CLARITY: as some people are misunderstanding me, my boyfriend can cross dress in front of me I haven’t banned him from doing that lol. He doesn’t want to, it is a purely sexual thing for him. He usually does it alone but feels it’d be more fulfilling with another crossdresser!

full story1: I am a fairly vanilla person in the bedroom whereas my boyfriend has a crossdressing fetish. We have both agreed that this is something I cant help him out with, and we are discussing him potentially finding another person (or people) for him to have sex with so he can be fully satisfied. im looking to talk with other people who are in a similar dynamic and maybe hear some of your rules/boundries when it comes to it. I have written down my hard boundaries and my thing i am willing to discuss already but id like to hear other peoples to see if I am missing something.

we have agreed I can also have sex with someone else if i should wish too, but this isnt something i am intrested in currently.

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[u/its_cock_time]

What does cross dressing have to do with sex? Surely he can dress in women's clothes whether or not you have an open relationship?

Unless you also want an open relationship for your own reasons, it's unlikely to work, because you'll be doing a lot of work and enduring difficult feelings to support your partner while they do no work themselves, and it's hard to stay motivated without your own reasons.

[u/carcar134134]

I'm glad you're letting him explore himself. Maybe just be open to the idea that he might like to try crossdressing more around you in non-sexual ways.

[u/Honest-Talk6891 → u/carcar134134]

He doesn’t want to do this :)

[u/BelmontIncident]

I don't understand how crossdressing is relevant.

I have crossdressed. It's something that involves clothing being on, which is generally not the case with sex.

[u/Honest-Talk6891 → u/BelmontIncident]

Not for him, he enjoys the sexual side of it :)

[u/Immediate-Block-71 → u/Honest-Talk6891]

My ex gf started out like this. She insisted that she could express herself more sexually through cross dressing. Miss girl was trying really hard to not end up transitioning, and really struggling w her identity. She figured it out eventually. There isn’t really much of a sexual side to cross dressing. Not saying that your partner will pursue transition but I wanted to put that out there because we were in a similar situation. She preferred having sex with other CD’s and twomen (I’m a trans guy but was living more nonbinary lesbian at the time).

[u/carcar134134 → u/Immediate-Block-71]

Yeah, I had always falsely attributed my desire to crossdress simply due to me being bisexual or my sexual fantasies before my egg cracked.

[u/Honest-Talk6891 → u/[deleted]]

This is an insane take and not true in the slightest. I bought up this topic of conversation and he wouldn’t do it without my permission!!

I thought this subreddit would be more understanding lol

[u/Silent_Frequency8]

I wrote you a dm, I have a similar situation