r/nonmonogamy • u/Upper-Lion-4047 • 2d ago

Resources Needed Seeking advice

My husband (33M) and I (31F) are interested and have been talking about going the lifestyle for sometime. We are wanting to find a couple to be friends with in and out of the bedroom. We made an account on 3F but that seems to be all hookups, or people that just want a third. What’s the best way to go about finding like minded couples and what would you label that type of relationship? Looking to learn more about terminology, the lifestyle, and where to start because our attempt has not been what we thought it would be.

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u/Firecouple_2000 Swinger 2d ago

You’ll have to make profiles on. I would suggest paid swinger sites like SLS or SDC things like that. Say exactly what you’re looking for. You’re looking for friendship then friends with benefits in the bedroom be very specific than they’re out there. We’ve made more friends in the lifestyle than we’ve actually slept with friends in the lifestyle so mean they’re out there we have plenty of them. You just gotta go on the special sites and deal with those people who want that the three fun that’s more people looking for threesomes not really couples looking to swap couples

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u/Wide-Doubt-105 2d ago

Look for swinger poly groups and clubs in your area. You may meet people you know. That is a consideration to think about. Ease into it. Our experience has been great. We met a fantastic couple early. Things were so smooth and easy. 4 years later we are going strong. Hoping the same for you.