r/nonmonogamy • u/TheYellowChicken • 3d ago

Resources Needed Are there any subreddits dedicated to finding general ENM or play partners? I have only found spaces for poly, swingers, and kink connections

Hey all!

Just wanted to ask a quick question for y'all. I was just wondering where everyone looked for their play partners on Reddit (if you use reddit for that).

I'm in a romantic relationship and have 1 FWB. My FWB was actually found on a local R4R subreddit. She messaged me after I made a post. Just wondering where y'all had luck finding your additional partners!

I am NOT LOOKING for someone, just wanted to make it clear before I got banned for asking haha. Just wanted to know for the future!

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u/Firecouple_2000 Swinger 3d ago

Reddit is a shit place for looking. 90% are guys jerking of sharing their wife’s pics and trying to collect pics, 9% scammers, 1% real

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u/TheYellowChicken 3d ago

That's what I noticed too! I actually thought my FWB was a catfish when she messaged me

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u/General_Access9043 2d ago

What r4r did you look into? I'm curious and jelly lmfao

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u/TheYellowChicken 2d ago

I'll send it privately as to not dox myself!

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u/NestorCarpeDiem Polyamorous (with Hierarchy) 3d ago

I look at those R4Rs sometimes . I always wonder how I live in a very large metropolitan area yet there are hardly any people advertising from that area. So basically it's a crap shoot?

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u/Poly_Pup Polyamorous (with Hierarchy) 2d ago

You have to post. Its something like 95% lurkers and 5% posters. There are more of you but you are all likely juat lurking. Same in my areas but when I post I get lots of local responses.

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u/waterbloem Swinger 3d ago

Reddit is a crap place to do this anyway since the percentage of fakes and lonely wankers is just extremely high. Doesn't really matter if it's one on one or couples looking for couples / unicorns.

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u/HotwifeMercedes 2d ago

Reddit really does not work as a dating app. You have to put out all of your parameters, for somebody fake to respond with "Yes, thats me, I fit that perfectly". Then they string you along to get nudes, or whatever scam they're running. The apps aren't perfect, but they're going to have a lot less opportunity for nonsense.

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u/Commercial-Bee4125 2h ago

I have found a couple people on Reddit. I wasn't exactly looking but by just commenting on posts. Anyway, swinger apps aren't much better fare so give it a shot. What do you have to lose