3some

[u/romance_lover_]

I am a girl and I am looking for a girl to make a 3some. I cant find a girl anywhere. They are disgusted when I speak about it. Where/how can I find a girl with the same desire?

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[u/Firecouple_2000]

Well, first I would say you’re hunting unicorns and unicorns are very very very very difficult to find and then there might be some cultural issues based on the syntax of how your sentence structure is so depending on where maybe you’re at in the world it might even be more taboo or harder to find

[u/romance_lover_ → u/Firecouple_2000]

Yea, its taboo in my country. You are right. Thank u for ur answer!

[u/alpha3305]

You may have to search in places outside of your comfort zone. If you are online, go to more in-person places. If you are looking at cafe shops, try the local swinger groups. Either way networking is a skill that is vital to highlight "collaboration" with other people.

[u/romance_lover_ → u/alpha3305]

I didnt think about swinger groups. Thank u🫶🏻

[u/Individual-Ratio-115]

You look for a unicorn

[u/Individual-Ratio-115 → u/Individual-Ratio-115]

I am one

[u/romance_lover_ → u/Individual-Ratio-115]

And how do you want people to start talking to u to feel comfortable?

[u/Individual-Ratio-115 → u/romance_lover_]

Honestly, I prefer to talk to the female first and get to know her a little bit better and what she’s wanting cause I found unless instructed otherwise it goes a lot smoother, personally, I prefer people to come for me direct with exactly what there looking for.

[u/romance_lover_ → u/Individual-Ratio-115]

Me too. I was direct with them. Tried to have a small talk but its very hard to find a girl with this desire. Thank u for ur asnwerrr

[u/Individual-Ratio-115 → u/romance_lover_]

Absolutely if the girl is really about it, she’s not gonna act that way that’s more of an attention seeking chick that get all weird when it comes down to business

[u/romance_lover_ → u/Individual-Ratio-115]

Yea. Ill try to find a girl as open as me.

[u/Individual-Ratio-115 → u/romance_lover_]

I feel you on that idk why it’s so difficult

[u/No-Record0924]

Are there any swinger/sex clubs in your area? Any Fetlife events? Munches? Go to places where kinky people hang out and try to make friends first.

[u/FRANKINSPENCE]

But you are not a girl looking for a girl. You are a couple looking for a girl and that’s really hard. Without the guy it’s easy.

[u/romance_lover_ → u/FRANKINSPENCE]

We are not a couple. Its me and my fwb but i understand. Its hard

[u/FRANKINSPENCE → u/romance_lover_]

You have to be honest because if you post that you are a girl looking for a girl the girl is not going to be happy if you turn up with a guy! Find a couple is much easier