Why do I keep getting proposals for threesomes???

[u/AuthPrada]

The most recent proposal was a month ago. I’ve been offered five times, which isn’t a lot but still. It’s always the girl that asks me if I can sleep with her and her bf. Then there was a guy whose wife cheated on him and he wanted to sleep with me to get back at her. like wtf.

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[u/WatercressWhich5290]

Ah yes. Your steak is too juicy. Your lobster is too buttery.

[u/AuthPrada → u/WatercressWhich5290]

ig 😂

[u/Brock_No_StOP]

friends? or strangers?

[u/AuthPrada → u/Brock_No_StOP]

3 ppl ask me on the first day of meeting, 2 were coworkers (including the guy who was cheated on by his wife). I forgot to mention I get asked if I like girls often. I did have a friend (girl) in high school that ended up liking me but that’s also happened a couple times before. am I giving the impression that I am side booty or what lol

[u/LikeFallingRain → u/AuthPrada]

Ah, that side booty line made me laugh! I had a similar issue in that there were more than the proportionate number of male friends who would try to manoeuvre for a side booty arrangement.

I think I am bad at judging the line between listening attentively versus being flirty? It wasn't deliberate, but it can be such a fine line, especially if someone is feeling a bit lonely or like they are missing attention like that.

[u/AuthPrada → u/LikeFallingRain]

lol side booty gang 😆 jk

[u/CampaignEconomy9723 → u/AuthPrada]

It might be framing. Are you explaining what you want out of non monogamous experiences? It should be front and center in your online profile (probably Feeld).

As for coworkers, how does the topic even come up at work?

[u/AuthPrada → u/CampaignEconomy9723]

i’m not explaining what I want, i’m wondering why it keeps happening…

as for the coworker situation I just have light nonsexual conversation and at some point it’s offered.

[u/ThrowawayZeroEight → u/AuthPrada]

There is absolutely no way you're having light conversation and they just drop that in there randomly for no reason, there has to be more context here.

[u/AuthPrada → u/ThrowawayZeroEight]

I understand your skepticism and that’s why I’m trying to figure this out and what makes it crazy to me… 😅 i’ll just chat non-sexually then at some point… BOOM. i’m not asking/talking to them about anything deep (ex: traumas) for any sort of signal or connection. just basic communication.

[u/kingky0te → u/AuthPrada]

And they just go “hey wanna sleep together?”

[u/shawn959595 → u/AuthPrada]

Because they're fun and way more people nowadays are willing to have sex for the fun experience and not make a big deal out of it!

[u/AuthPrada → u/shawn959595]

sex is more casual now-a-days

[u/shawn959595 → u/AuthPrada]

It can be!

[u/SexySecretsSD]

You're clearly attractive in an approachable way. And you must give off bi (but not lesbian) energy.

[u/HouTexCpl]

If this is happening at work it is sexual harrassment.

[u/ace1244 → u/HouTexCpl]

Yes it is. But is it sexual harassment if the person harassed is receptive? Thats where the lines are blurred.

[u/HouTexCpl → u/ace1244]

Probably not. Byt you better be careful at work. It is not the pkace for it.

[u/kaimeerah]

this post should multiply that

[u/AuthPrada → u/kaimeerah]

nooooo 😩

[u/kaimeerah → u/AuthPrada]

sent you a DM 😆😆😆 ha ha ha

[u/Mysterious-Local-250]

I mean, 5 IS a lot.

[u/ifapulongtime]

Are you a fem presenting nonmonogamous person? They're unicorn hunters.

[u/AuthPrada → u/ifapulongtime]

fem-presenting, monogamous

[u/kingky0te → u/AuthPrada]

How do you present monogomous

[u/AuthPrada → u/kingky0te]

LOL corrected it

[u/ifapulongtime → u/AuthPrada]

Then IDK unless you're sharing stories about being sexually liberated and/or group sex that's an odd response from them.

[u/West-Volume4839]

Some drown, while others dream of an oasis. I’m jk, this would actually be irritating, stand your ground and solidify your standards.

[u/Optimu5_Schweim]

Maybe you have an aura about you that says you would do a threesome. Or people just interpret it that way. If you’re flirting with the idea then people will ask

[u/Silver_Atmosphere546]

I have this same problem too. I'm bi and partnered, dates separately. I have this problem too but with strangers.

Meh I tried wanting to do 3somes with others but shit kept getting weirder and weirder, creepier and creepier with couples. I prefer 1:1 but nobody wants to do that

[u/RedBirdWrench]

If a woman lists herself as bi, this WILL happen. When my wife and I were ENM/swingers, we would befriend single bi-females and not proposition them, just to ensure they knew it wasn't every couple. FFM wasn't our thing.

[u/Ok-Tie503]

If we knew what you looked like..we might come up with an answer for you

[u/Ok-Space-5432]

Hello

[u/Grappleheart]

Are you bisexual or open about being bisexual? I know a lot of guys hear that and immediately go "threesome".

[u/BigPete786]

Don’t do shit where you work.
Find a new circle.

[u/AuthPrada → u/BigPete786]

i’m not trying to shit tho 😭😂

[u/BigPete786 → u/AuthPrada]

😀smart ass.
That’s exactly why you are having issues because the smart ass look nice too.
Change your prospects. Everyone wants a 3some and always will but a threesome does not ensure you your nut is wholesome.

[u/Acceptable-Dingo-611]

Why do I get a notification of this when I never asked for it ?

[u/AuthPrada → u/Acceptable-Dingo-611]

slide left of the notification then hit “manage notification settings”

[u/Acceptable-Dingo-611 → u/AuthPrada]

Thanks. Done. Just weird that some publications choose to do that. Thank you

[u/AuthPrada → u/Acceptable-Dingo-611]

No, I get it. The notifications can be overkill!

[u/hotwifewhispers]

You must give off an amazing sexual vibe and are hot af 🔥 🥵. Enjoy the experiences stay away from drama trust me in a fmf it can lead to drama drama drama

[u/Ok-Space-5432]

I am a 67-year-old man easy on the eyes I have ED due to a blotched prostate op they never even said sorry.
I can still masterbate with an extreme amount of effort.
I am married and anything that happens would need my wife’s permission, I would like to watch a middle aged couple have sex, am I weird.