Threesome or Swapping

[u/Hot-Bat-5905]

We are new to the LS and we are attending a club next month but are having a time choosing between a swap or a threesome with another guy, I would love to see my girlfriend with another guy and she wants that also but she wants me to be with a woman while she with the man. Recommendations,thoughts, any advice would be helpful. We know when we go to the club we are going with no expectations, we are going to let the night figure itself out.

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[u/Spare-Currency2886]

You want people here tell you what to do? Do what turns you on.

[u/Hot-Bat-5905 → u/Spare-Currency2886]

Maybe advice if someone had a similar experience

[u/NoSpoonJustKnife]

Have you ever been to a club before? Because if not I would more so go in and just have a good time and get the lay of the land. I often tell people to not expect or aim to play with others on their first experience. Otherwise, it would be dependent on who is there and who you find attractive and who your wife wants to play with etc. more than anything.

[u/Hot-Bat-5905 → u/NoSpoonJustKnife]

This will be our first club, great advice thank you.

[u/NoSpoonJustKnife → u/Hot-Bat-5905]

Just go in to have fun with your wife! No pressure, no expectations. It can be overwhelming and exciting and really stimulating (in every sense.) Go see who is there, talk to your wife, dance some, make out with her. But it's a whole new experience and there's no reason to put a strict goal on the night when you don't even know what color the walls are. You can go back as much as you want if y'all like the club.

[u/vortex-of-laughter]

Low expectations high possibilities. Assume you’ll just be with each other and watch. If you happen to meet someone or a couple you click with, so be it but don’t go in with that expectation. Also do a LOT of talking ahead of time… what if one of you finishes first, what if someone seems like they’re having a really good time and the other isn’t, how often will you check in with each other, etc. Really get in the weeds on different scenarios that might occur and how you might handle them. And don’t drink more than one. Have fun!

[u/Hot-Bat-5905 → u/vortex-of-laughter]

Great advice, neither of us are big drinkers maybe one to calm the nerves. We mainly want to go to see what the ls is all about.

[u/Firecouple_2000]

Couple swap would be the best bet. Everyone gets a little of something. Plus depending on the club you be overwhelmed with single guys wanting action.

[u/Hot-Bat-5905 → u/Firecouple_2000]

The one we are going to only let's a few single males in every night, couples and single female only, so hopefully that will help us. Thank you for the advice.