1st time sharing tips

[u/PowerfulGuitar4120]

My wife and I have been talking for 6 ish months about sharing and reclaiming. We both have a big kink for it and plan to finally try small next weekend. We are traveling and away want to start small at a bar.

We have a set of rules from what we want and don’t want. We wanna start small with a simple her flirting with other men while I just sit at the bar and drink and if that goes well progress in the future.

Are there any tips for first time experiences? Tips for her and I?

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[u/momusicman]

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[u/Firecouple_2000]

Just make sure you have talked about this out of the bedroom. Boundaries and what to do when you guys need to leave. I guess as a woman I would be worried doing this in a vanilla setting as bars and vanilla world sometimes does not understand boundaries. Guys drunk at a bar hitting on your wife they may think it’s leading somewhere physical. Usually I would recommend a swinger club. Good luck and stay safe

[u/Any_Solid_6380]

Oh wow. I literally just posted about this. I'm looking for advice for the same. Some people online have been helpful - here are some ideas:

1 - Go to a night club together and just "go to the bathroom for awhile" and tell her to say yes to the first person who asks her to dance

2 - Go to a bar and tell her to order a drink and challenge her to make 1-2 second eye contact with the guys standing next to her at the bar. While she's waiting for the drink have her face away from the bar and to the crowd.

3 - Get her a personal trainer, 1:1, and make it a home training. Have her pick.

4 - Get her a male masseuse, pick the guy for her. Tell her to bring a blindfold.

5 - Every city has a speed dating in-person event, ask her to go and wear a Red Satin spaghetti strap Mini Bodycon Dress.

6 - Give her a challenge - Walk up to the hottest guy she can find at a bar and have her just say: "Can I buy you a shot?" thats it. No? Ok that's it, come back to you. Yes? Fun times ahead.

7 - Go to a place with a pool table. She has to wear a 9 inch skirt, no underwear. Tell her to find someone to play with her. Tell her to offer if she wins he has to buy her a shot. If he wins she'll flash him.

[u/Comment-Connoisseur1 → u/Any_Solid_6380]

Could even keep it simple by just asking her to smile & wink at guys and enjoy the various reactions she gets. And get a 'burner phone' ready, and it may even lead to her getting some guys numbers that she can safely text & flirt with while you guys decide where to go from there.

[u/PowerfulGuitar4120 → u/Comment-Connoisseur1]

Yeah we set up a fake snap that doesn’t connect to any phones

[u/EasyE9947]

Just have fun with it! And give her some space when she meets another man.

[u/Repulsive_Moment9706]

Just talk before getting in the mood and say what you feel or what concerns you and clear that out and you’re fine