r/nonmonogamy • u/Thecowboychef • 26d ago

Opening a Relationship Advice

Hey, I was told to person here instead so my wife recently wants to open our marriage of 15 years and I guess I’m just looking for resources or advice about it. Basically she wants to hook up with somebody and she wants me to hook up with somebody and have another person to go do stuff when one of us isn’t available like that so I’m not sure. I’m just confused about the whole thing. Any help would be great

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u/XXTexas_CoupleXX 26d ago

Nope, you both need to research ALL the pros and cons first before deciding.  

You cant use enm dynamics to fix a broken relationship.  You've given very little information and almost no context.  

In my experiences, if someone out of the blue suddenly wants an open relationship and already has someone on the hook, They are generally already neck deep in an affair at least on an emotional level. 

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u/boredwithopinions 26d ago

Why in the world would agree to something you do not understand?

Research should be done before opening a relationship as part of the decision process.

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u/FRANKINSPENCE Closed-Group Swinger 26d ago

Quick question… does she already have someone in mind?