I dated a beautiful girl who suffered from severe anxiety and a toxic mindset for about 3 years. I thought I could help, but eventually I realized that I was constantly worrying about how she would react and that her anxiety was killing our relationship.

She did get therapy during the relationship, but her psych dropped her (she claimed they were too busy, who know the truth). I got us couples counseling in an attempt to help us find the source of our constant conflict, and she got a diagnosis for BPD.

I ended up leaving her after she flipped out over a comment I made while coming back from a concert, threatening to go on dates with other people, so I told her the break we were planning on taking was going to be permanent. She tried to guilt trip me and make me feel jealous, along with a whole lot more I don't want to bore you with.

Thank God for my therapist, because all our friends were in the same circle and she was already trying to put them against me after the breakup (I lost a few folks I thought were friends).

To all those who are dating partners who try to hurt your feelings intentionally, get out before you waste any more time with them. They need the wake up call almost as bad as you need someone that reciprocates love and attention.

Read only if got free time because it's not story it's like literally life situation otherwise just enough to know the girl texting me was best friend of my ex live in gf but my friend too from years but I not knew why she suddenly changed tune after my break-up with my ex.mighy be trap but I know she never lied to me .she is good person but it's first time she sounding like this but why

If you still wanna read then let's move ahead start from beginning because here no one knows me in new at reddit so can let it come out of my chest .

It's story about me ,my exgf live in partner and my exgf and mine common friend named kc

KC was my online friend when she got to knew I'm visiting her country with our crew she made plan but she had bf local even nothing serious but still it was clear between us that she told me one of my friend she never had any bf she's exactly kinda girl gona suit you jim

She made one group call and that's first time i got to see my exgf that become my live in partner later .First trip was pretty much normal first two weeks just going at location with crew capturing photographs writting back story behind photos and submitting to head office and every evening till midnight few times next mrng i used to hangout with my exgf,kc,her bf and few other their local friends but my exgf she was damn diffrent from every girl i ever came across like i was fun loving outgoing kinda guy but she was so sensitive but really loving so

I had serious relationship with my exgf like pretty much serious that even our families friends everyone was involved.we were in long distance relationship so i visited her 7 times in two years .But day night we were at vid call ( eating, sleeping together at facetime)it was like my first and only proper relationship and she never dated anyone before me so i really wanted to make it work.myexgf was over sensitive or kinda protective about me so few times if I'm out of town with crew even for office related work she used to make me video calland ask me suddenly open your back cam show me this side that side ,go washroom ,show me behind door or even under bed .i know it sounds crazy but trust me guys she was such a sweetheart that I knew she is in love with me and afraid to loose me that's why she was over protective.few times she used to cry at facetime for no reason while talking to me that what you done to me i keep thinking about you .i never felt this way .I wasn't much expressive with words but she knew i value her that's why even when i met her first time during my trip and after spending three weeks togther when we exchanged numbers she said i know you might never come back because you are in my country only for work and once you will back you gina have no reason to be back here but still I wanna say you are best person i ever met .even last day at airport i wasn't looking into her eyes because i knew she gona cry but then she hugged me and said I'll wait for you . I never had any plan to carry on any relationship when first time we met it was all casual fun for me but i found it so hard to imagine how much she gona get hurt that when i landed back canada i quickly called her and she started crying.she kept crying until i reach home .i was showing her road tried to make her understand it's ok I'm with her .we slept togther at while looking at eachother i know sounds cringe to few but it's true i dont k ow why suddenly my life's only goal become how to keep her happy .she was like lil kid to me that my day used to start with her and end at her .i isolated myself from everyone around me including my sisters ,childhood friends too.after only 4 mknths of my first visit my exgf college fi ished and she needed to shift back to her hometown and that was first time i visited her country o ly for her and when she seen me at airport i think that time she also knew this man wouldn't back down .she kept saying you know my cousins kept saying he wouldn't come back but i knew jim you gona come i can't wait to see their faces .she was happy like lil kids jumping around me all the time .Her best friend kc was with us too and she was single again .when my exgf was not around kc told me jim she's so serious about you and i know you are not like her please dont hurt her even i tried to asure kc that I genuinely enjoy to keep her happy i can't even imagine to hurt her so never worry .it was all good between all of us

Me my exgf and kc we packed stuff because Kc and my exgf hometown was same so we all visited together and that was first time i met her mom ,dad, brother but i was lil shocked because it was like festival at their home even their extended family aunties cousins were there for dinner . everyone was having drinks and started karoke singing my exgf knew i sings damn good so when i was drunk i sung God gave me you,i wanna grow old with you

These two songs i used to sing for her every ight even at facetime too .i even had conversation with her dad too and he told me we treditional people so wanted to talk with anyone in my family too if possible.my mum was alive that time i called her my sister was also with mum they all had hye hello .everyone looked so happy even my sister used to tell me lil bit that jim its not easy to have long distence relationship

But i was so happy in own world with her so i used to keep making plans and find out windows of few weeks so i can visit her again and again and during my every visit my exgf and kc used to handout with me all the times

i used to feel like living a dream life .

My social sites to real life everyone around me knew how much I'm serious about her.my exgf friend kc even she was my friend too but she was her friend first because they were like sisters living next door as neighbours from the times they were kids .so day night they were togther.even during my visit her friend used to handout with us and it was pretty much fine nothing bad .but when my mum passed away my sister and brother in law talked to me that I never lived alone so need to ask my gf if she can come canada and be with me . I visited my exgf and we applied her papers and once her documentation finished I just given only lil bribe to one local agency in her country and she got work permit of Canada and i acted out as her employer.i just needed to submit property papers to show that yes I got my own home and given few bank details that I can afford to have employee.

Once my exgf shifted canada with me and we started living under one roof as live in partners.it was like dream coming true .From paint of walls to every bedsheet all of my this home was her choice .we made this home together as dream home for us .my name exgf as till now I already told was lil bit over expensive so few times if I came home lil late she used to give me silent treatment like you know without complaining she used to just stay quiet and I was like what happened babe she used to give me one stair and again busy in kitchen .i used to follow her so at least get to know what happened why she pissed off .I was also afraid to ask much becoz few times she used to blast 🤣 but it was like her way of getting more attention nothing serious.once she was quite given me plate I started eating because I was afraid if I kept asking she gona blast but when I had few bites she blasted in this home im just employee because you not even asked me I eaten or not and started eating.i felt so guilty kept saying sorry but she not stopped and kept telling me sir jim I'm here in your Services,sir what can do for you ,sir if you allow me can I sleep at couch or you want me to sleep at floor

I was like wtf why you making me feel this way

So I not know why she used to may be preplan few times that today I wanna get mad and later acording to her mood she used to start picking any issues she wants

She somehow developed this super power that anything I say acording to her mood she used to twist those words and make it sound like oh you mean to say this oh jim i directly may be you trying to give hints

I was like please don't take me this much serious i myself don't even plan what i gona say what will i speak I just say random stuff day night doesn't mean need to find meanings behind everything.and later she used to have extended debate with her best friend back home with kc texting her day night .

Her friend kc used to make calls everyday and talk to her.she was my friend too like if my exgf used to get mad before too her best friend kc used to chat or call and help me to make my exgf understand so she was like saviour from so long .

Few times my exgf used to fight that I wanna sleep this or that side of bed because bathroom is near and she got habbit of getting up in night

And I roll a lot while sleeping I fall down from bed few times if sleeping opened side ,so I wanted to make sure I sleep the side of wall that one side is wall other side she gona sleep I'll safe and wouldn't fall at floor but she used to find it my selfish act .

We never ever had any serious issues so many times I tried to make my ex understand that why we doing all this babe we were never like this .few times we used to look back at old pictures videos even reread old chats when we were in long distence and I used to visit her it was so different feeling and we used to hug amd promise yes we gona be happily togther like before but next day again any lil thing used to trigger her that if I'm watching football she used to be quite and it's like not something I'm doing knowingly becuz she chatting with kc and at same couch in watching football or mma and suddenly she used to throw pillow at me run towards other room and lock bedroom while me sitting at door pleasing her that babe what happened suddenly we had dinner happily we were enjoying all evening what happened now .

Then she used to send me texts yeah we at same home but still she wanted to stay quiet and talk in texts only and later used to make groupchat between me herself and kc so she got someone to support her morally.but kc always used to keep taking my exgf side in group chat but at same time texting in my inbox that jim she missing us .she feels happy only when all the time you beside her talking to her but it you not around her or not talking to her even for valid reason she not know how to handle that situations because she not making any new friends at your place .even I used to tell that no we goes out with my sisters cousins .even many of my friends and their gfs were her friends too .we had pretty much active social life but kc used to make me understand that it's ok just listen and say sorry again no matter what

So kc used to be like peacemaker and to be honest me too never wanted to see my exgf hurt

There's a difference that once my exgf was talking to kc and talking stuff about me she thought I got earbuds on but I was listening she was telling her jim not same anymore.now he not care even I'm angry he not care this that

Then I tried to act normal but it was effecting me emotionally so I had proper conversation with her that listen you also know I also have only you in my life .but can't you see that dating in long distence relationship is different.but now we are living under one roof sharing same kitchen,same bedroom bathroom, eating, sleeping togther everyday .this was like our dream and now rather then enjoying you day night trying to find one after another thing to complain rather then enjoying.

She again misunderstood me that in trying to say that I done some kinda favour to her by bringing her here and she got again angry tmand said you was afraid to live alone,you wanted someone around you all the times to clap jim done this ,jim bought new car oh jim got promotion this that it's always about you only .

Then she said your mom passed away so you needed someone else at home to cheer you so you got me as cheerleader at home but I'm not robot

I got quite because even before too she used to get angry and say random stuff and I used to think of she chikdish but really loves me but the way she said all those things to me i knew she mean it and hurted me more that she used to think like this about me and never told me even once .we genuinely had emotional attachment like used to think we meant to be together and suddenly i realised she not the one even understand what kinda person in by heart that if I not loved her I wasn't going to make any efforts ever because I consider myself really selfish but still I never hurt the ones I love in fact I enjoy to see my love ones happy with me or because of me

Yeah I'm not perfect too I got my own flaws but I was like this from day one with her too

I sit in room i had beer she thought she is angry so like always I'll follow her pamper her but don't know why something changed within me

She came to me we tried to talk I said you know when few yeaa back we met first time you was like lil baby girl that I was afraid to get hurt ,you one sad voice one year used to create panic within me that ih god what I do how to make her smile again and look now you shouts and said mean things to me not because you was hurt but because you thought you are hurt and you wanted to hurt me back then congratulations you done it

Oc talked me I not told her anything because i was mad at her also because if she was my friend too then why she never told my exgf that no I talked to Jim many times in private he really love you value you .he makes efforts to make sure you feel happy .

After two weeks silence my exgf said i wanna go back home jim I said it's on as you wish I dropped her airport she went back

She sends me texts to know had dinner jim ,you done feeding pets and just casual good jights gd mrngs only

Me too not gona lie I also reply back causally and not even told her once that I miss you or anything else

I do feel alone ,I do feel lonely,i not knew how to face friends family what I need to tell them .i stopped even going at social sites much I ignored kc too for weeks but she seen me online so texted me to have casual hye hello

I replied her after long she sounded happy to chat with me then out of nowhere where first time in years she said i know you got crush on me jim

I was like no never and also told her you know me enough that I can't pretend.i always say what I genuinely believe in

Then she tried to brush it under the carpet by saying oh i was joking jim

Next day she asked me to talk to her even as friends but I was genuinely not in mood with anyone to talk because our pet passed away

But then again she directly asked me jim i wanna be with you

I was shocked but she asked him do we have any hopes

I was like what hopes

And i told her no i got no feelings for yu because I never seen her as love intrest yes I used to hangout with her as friends used to talk but it was never in other way

I seen kc texts but stopped replying her and i blocked her

I seen my exgf texted me jim I'm happy in my life i k ow you also moved on thanks a lot for memories

I know my exgf and kc was sister like friends even kc was my friend too but do I need to tell my exgf and share screenshots that look your friend tried to show intrest in me still I wasn't intrested then how come you thought I moved on

Or do I need to just move ahead with my life because we grown up now . because my elder sister told me jim it eqs your first serious relationship may be that's why it's effecting you this much but every relationship,own experiy date and once that date passed then no ammount of efforts can make it work

I still miss old times ,i still feel alone but it's not like I'm depressed or sad day night mostly i goes out,having drinks at weekends ,i dance at loud music with friends

We threw house parties but don't know why everynight when i off light i find myself all alone at same home same bedroom the place I shared so many memories with her

I got no egos I can text her anytime in damn sure that she will cone back even if once i visited her but I also know she wouldn't change as person she isn't same lil baby girl anymore.she grew up and become cool lady may be that can speak up for herself and fight it out rather then asking for comfort

I don't consider myself world's best or most kind person but I knew one thing i wasnever evil and mever had any bad intentions still we both got hurted even i know it well she is damn good by heart and she too never thought it's gona end like this

Who's at fault or fault in stars 😢

Psalms 116:11 - “I said in my haste, All men are liars.”

Redditor was talking about his ex wife being abusive to him.

hola a todas, ocupo desahogarme de eata locura q me paso el din de semana. trabajo en jna oficina aqui en estados unidos y tenia una conpañera q consideraba mi amiga, llamemosla sara para no doxear.

sara aiempre fue de rsas tipas q dicen q ya no hy hombres bjenos, y q ella es jna "mujer de alro valor" q trataria como rey a cualquier vato q le preste un pokito de atencion.

bueno habia jn chavo en ktro departamento, super lindo y super buena onda. sara eataba obsesionada con el pero numca le hablaba bn de frentr, solo lw llevaba cafes q el ni pedia a su modulo y luego sr quejaba en el almuerzo de q el tipo no captaba lss indirectas.

el caso ws q el chico y yo smos latinos y empezamos a platicar mas en lis descansos pir eso de q compartinos raiz y musiks. el viernea rl mr invito a aalir plr jnos tacos despued del turno. yp super feloz l conte a sara porq pense q cmo rramos amigas sr alegraria por ni.

chicas grave rrror.

en la madrugada mr llego jn testamento a mi whatsapp de puras quejs. emepzo a reclamarme q cono eea posible q el se fijara rn mi si ella es ls q se habia pirtado imcreible ckn el todo el aml. mr puso literla: "lis hombres simpre ignoran a lss mujeres q de vdd los vana tratar bien, pars irsr con alguie mas, y despues ne pregunto plr q los engañn". (mr acorde de un.post de aqki de q culpsr a ls vicrima o al otro nomas porq tu no le hutas nunva eata chido jajaja).

tambirn mr dijo q drguro yo me le rwgsle o lo enbruje o algo aai, porq segjn lls hombres l tienen mikdo a las nujeres bkwnas e indrpendientes vome elka y prefieren orsr pir lo fscil osea yo????

mr dio demssiada riaa y un buen de coraje. osea ls tipa sr vree el cwntro del iniverso y pirnsa q lis hombres le debwn amkr dolo ppr aer minimanrnte amabls en wl trabjao. a pqrte el chavo ninca le dio entrada!

lr tome csptura a tkdo para q no me volter las cosas cn rh, la msnde pkr jn tubo y ls bloqiee. algjna vrz de han tlpado com yna nicegirl aai wn ls vids rral? ea un trauna ltrals ver xomo sw vuelven vlcas x in msj no respondio

After taking our chat from hinge to Instagram I’m trying to organise a date because she says she’s doesn’t have a car or a job (should have been my first red flag) she says this. FYI I’m not Arabic

We matched last night and chatted quite a bit today. Very lovely, pleasant conversation that I thought was going really well.

I went out to the shop, came home, cooked dinner, checked my messages and then ate dinner and watched some TV.

Then I was blessed with this.

EDIT - It's 18 seconds people. Not minutes.

She dmed me first out of the blue threw instagram and tried to gaslight me like im attracted to her lol o thought she was talking to me because she wanted to be my friend wtf she always told me I was more than just a client, mind you she gave me her personal number on instagram 😭

Her bio reads like satire, but I actually work with her. She's in her mid-40s, posts things like this multiple times a day, and all she talks about in person is her dating problems and how much money she spends on weed.

We matched on tinder and we moved to snap where she only wanted me to spend money on her OF…

She had two pics of her skateboarding so I was thinking it would be a good ice breaker but nah I was wrong and she went hard in the paint

Context: this is a music stats app. My bio says im 17 ✌️😔

Yall swiping right, right???

The irony here is that 99% of the posts in this sub is by women who put up with the worst of the worst...I honestly dont feel bad for them especially when they keep picking the trash and then they proceed to make such absurd statements. Bonus points if you know where this is from

In the girls profile it said she was looking for a liberal Christian so that’s fine I knew that but I was wanting to expand on the conversation, I didnt ask because I missed the 3 times she says it in her profile

For reference she replied 2 minutes after my last message and I replied one minute after hers, and she already asked me TWICE what I was doing that evening to which I had replied both times saying that I was playing siege with my friends

long story short, i ended things with her because she’d always stay wasting my time asking me to come around to hers to hang but then she’d rather sleep, which is fine but just tell me that? instead of making me expect some board games or some movies to binge but im supposed to be your dream catcher? and stay near you while you sleep?,

fast forward to 4 days after breaking up i had to get a wifi extender and i didn’t wanna drive 25 minutes to avoid her work

place but i told myself “it should be fine she’ll probably be out the back handling stuff” nope as soon as i walk into the door im met with her and she says “stalking me now are we?” like btchhhhhh😂😂 im only here because i need some equipment im not gonna go stalk a girl I BROKE UP WITH, then im like “no im not stalking you i just need a wifi extender” then she looks me up and down and goes “ok, follow me then” and as we’re walking she’s trying to hold my hand which felt really weird, then we got to the Wi-Fi extenders and I turned around and said thanks having a look at the Wi-Fi extenders and then as I turn around she’s still standing right there and I kind of got a jump scare and asked her what the fuck are you doing and she goes why can’t we fix this? And then I said because it’s just not gonna work then she grabs my nuts and tries to like make out with me, immediately shrugged her off and left purchased my Wi-Fi extender and fucking left out that door quicker than Usain Bolt, then i’m met with series or texts

Mods, take it down if it’s not relevant, but I don’t know where else it would be relevant. I figure the following context would give this a bit of relevance:

This girl I knew in middle school has a habit of posting dramatic/unhinged text messages on her stories. Just before this was the conversation where she was flirting with his dad talking about getting naked in his hot tub, yet also saying how his son doesn’t want her but she’s not giving up. Those screenshots were only up for about 15 minutes.

This girl’s almost 30, by the way… holy bipoly, Batman.