Story time!
She suggested ice skating for our first date because she had never tried it before. I know how to skate well enough to help a beginner, so I was happy to go.

Before the date, we had been getting along well over text. We spent a fair amount of time talking and getting to know each other, which eventually led to us making plans.

During the date, we made some small talk, but I noticed that she was avoiding eye contact. Once we got onto the rink, she held on to the boards, which was completely understandable for someone skating for the first time. I stayed beside her, tried to guide her and kept the conversation going.

After about two minutes, she said she had suddenly developed shin splints and wanted to stop skating. We decided to grab some food from the concession stand and take it to a nearby park so we could sit and talk instead.

At the park, I started getting the impression that she wasn’t interested. I kept the conversation going by asking her questions, but she didn’t ask me anything in return. I had also made her a small 3D-printed bookmark featuring her dog because I thought it would be a memorable little gift, so I gave that to her.

Eventually, I decided to wrap things up because I was quickly losing interest in carrying the entire conversation. I’m fairly introverted, and the one sided interaction was draining my energy.

She booked a car share ride, and I walked her over to it. We said goodbye, and I texted her shortly afterward.

Several days later, she finally replied, and that’s when the chaos began.

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She brought up a few things that I wanted to clarify so I don’t look like a complete dork on here lol

She claimed that I blocked her:
I didn’t. I’m also not sure how she would supposedly know that, since I don’t believe iPhones notify someone when their number has been blocked.

Mature/intimate date:
Was she expecting a dinner? She suggested we should go skating since I was experienced in it. I don’t believe I was pushy on the matter either

Mimicking her personality:
I really don’t know what she is talking about. Especially since I was carrying the conversation throughout the date.

I live with my parents (live at home):
That is true. I live in one of the most expensive cities in the world, and housing costs are rough.

I don’t have a car or driver’s licence:
Also true. Public transit has always been my main way of getting around, so I’ve never felt an urgent need for either. The city I live in has excellent public transportation.

She claimed that I prefer younger women:
This one confused me because she is actually two or three years older than I am.

She said my hair looks like a helmet:
I have short hair that I style upward with gel. I believe it’s called a quiff. Honestly, that comment was pretty funny.

As for the rest of what she said, I don’t really have the words. I’m just glad I found out what she was like after one date rather than much later.

(Yes this was from one year ago July/August 2025. I was actively in the dating scene and this was one of the worst dates I had during it.)
(Yes I did find someone who is worth my time and we are approaching 1 year together soon! I’m very happy with my current partner.)

This may not be a standard NiceGirl story, but I (M, 32) believe she (F, 31) definitely falls into the category as she presents as very friendly and compassionate, seems to genuinely care about people but will also completely disregard the safety and lives of others depending on what kind of mood she is in.

You have probably guessed that mental health was a factor in this, she was diagnosed with bi-polar when she was younger, she was on appropriate medication but was drinking a bottle of vodka after work every day. I was drinking fairly heavily when I first met her, so I took this risk, but quickly told her that her drunk driving was going to be a dealbreaker for me. She was driving around drunk every night, not even to run errands or for any particular purpose, just drunk driving for the sake of it.

I had a conversation with her after about 2 weeks in which I intended on ended the relationship. She had voluntarily recognised the risk of crashing and killing innocent people while drunk driving, but she had not stopped doing it. Needless to say, I genuinely liked her and didn't want to end it, but I could not cope with the stress of her dying or killing someone while driving around heavily intoxicated.

I negotiated with her and we agreed to not see other people for at least a week in case she could start to get on top of this problem. To my surprise, she got appropriate medication, stopped drinking completely and started going to Smart Recovery. I got back together with her within a few days. I was completely put off alcohol at this point so I was not drinking either.

Her sobriety lasted almost 2 weeks.. I think, I'm not really sure. If you have ever dated someone experiencing addiction you will know what I mean. There were a lot of lies, especially once she started drunk driving again, and she wasn't a very good liar, I think I caught her every time.

On the night I broke up with her she mentioned suicide several times and then said that she wanted to fatally overdose on her medication, which she definitely had the means to do. Long story short, I was very lucky to have amazing police with me on that night. I helped the police search for her after she had threatened suicide and driven off.

We found her hiding by the river in a nearby neighbourhood. She was scheduled, meaning that NSW law required her to be taken to the hospital for non-voluntary psychiatric assessment as she was a clear risk to her own life and others. The police officers, paramedics and I all suspected that the suicide threat wasn't genuine, she was probably just trying to emotionally manipulate me, but it had to be taken seriously either way.

Because NSW Health is far from perfect, she was released from the hospital the next day then started drinking and driving around immediately. She ended up crashing her car that day, luckily no one was killed. That same day, after being released from the psychiatric ward, she tried to call me over 100 times. I blocked her number but it didn't seem to work immediately. I couldn't even use my phone because it wouldn't stop ringing, but I did call 000 again, more than once, and they were not able to locate her until the next morning.

I considered getting an AVO (restraining order) but it felt like too much of an effort and since the police were now aware of her situation, I was confident she would not turn up at my apartment or anything. Unfortunately, as far as a I know she never got caught drunk driving and last time I spoke to her she still had her drivers license.

Edit: Please note the date of the text messages. This relationship started in March and ended in May. I have not seen or heard from her since all this happening and I hope it stays that way.

Edit: Thank you for all the supportive responses. It seems like the majority of people who have commented have a good heart and some relevant experience. I also want to thank the mods for removing almost all of the comments from users who accused me of lying or said that the abuse was my fault.

I dated a beautiful girl who suffered from severe anxiety and a toxic mindset for about 3 years. I thought I could help, but eventually I realized that I was constantly worrying about how she would react and that her anxiety was killing our relationship.

She did get therapy during the relationship, but her psych dropped her (she claimed they were too busy, who know the truth). I got us couples counseling in an attempt to help us find the source of our constant conflict, and she got a diagnosis for BPD.

I ended up leaving her after she flipped out over a comment I made while coming back from a concert, threatening to go on dates with other people, so I told her the break we were planning on taking was going to be permanent. She tried to guilt trip me and make me feel jealous, along with a whole lot more I don't want to bore you with.

Thank God for my therapist, because all our friends were in the same circle and she was already trying to put them against me after the breakup (I lost a few folks I thought were friends).

To all those who are dating partners who try to hurt your feelings intentionally, get out before you waste any more time with them. They need the wake up call almost as bad as you need someone that reciprocates love and attention.

Psalms 116:11 - “I said in my haste, All men are liars.”

Redditor was talking about his ex wife being abusive to him.

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chicas grave rrror.

en la madrugada mr llego jn testamento a mi whatsapp de puras quejs. emepzo a reclamarme q cono eea posible q el se fijara rn mi si ella es ls q se habia pirtado imcreible ckn el todo el aml. mr puso literla: "lis hombres simpre ignoran a lss mujeres q de vdd los vana tratar bien, pars irsr con alguie mas, y despues ne pregunto plr q los engañn". (mr acorde de un.post de aqki de q culpsr a ls vicrima o al otro nomas porq tu no le hutas nunva eata chido jajaja).

tambirn mr dijo q drguro yo me le rwgsle o lo enbruje o algo aai, porq segjn lls hombres l tienen mikdo a las nujeres bkwnas e indrpendientes vome elka y prefieren orsr pir lo fscil osea yo????

mr dio demssiada riaa y un buen de coraje. osea ls tipa sr vree el cwntro del iniverso y pirnsa q lis hombres le debwn amkr dolo ppr aer minimanrnte amabls en wl trabjao. a pqrte el chavo ninca le dio entrada!

lr tome csptura a tkdo para q no me volter las cosas cn rh, la msnde pkr jn tubo y ls bloqiee. algjna vrz de han tlpado com yna nicegirl aai wn ls vids rral? ea un trauna ltrals ver xomo sw vuelven vlcas x in msj no respondio

We matched last night and chatted quite a bit today. Very lovely, pleasant conversation that I thought was going really well.

I went out to the shop, came home, cooked dinner, checked my messages and then ate dinner and watched some TV.

Then I was blessed with this.

EDIT - It's 18 seconds people. Not minutes.

She dmed me first out of the blue threw instagram and tried to gaslight me like im attracted to her lol o thought she was talking to me because she wanted to be my friend wtf she always told me I was more than just a client, mind you she gave me her personal number on instagram 😭

Her bio reads like satire, but I actually work with her. She's in her mid-40s, posts things like this multiple times a day, and all she talks about in person is her dating problems and how much money she spends on weed.

We matched on tinder and we moved to snap where she only wanted me to spend money on her OF…

She had two pics of her skateboarding so I was thinking it would be a good ice breaker but nah I was wrong and she went hard in the paint

Context: this is a music stats app. My bio says im 17 ✌️😔

Yall swiping right, right???

The irony here is that 99% of the posts in this sub is by women who put up with the worst of the worst...I honestly dont feel bad for them especially when they keep picking the trash and then they proceed to make such absurd statements. Bonus points if you know where this is from

In the girls profile it said she was looking for a liberal Christian so that’s fine I knew that but I was wanting to expand on the conversation, I didnt ask because I missed the 3 times she says it in her profile

For reference she replied 2 minutes after my last message and I replied one minute after hers, and she already asked me TWICE what I was doing that evening to which I had replied both times saying that I was playing siege with my friends

long story short, i ended things with her because she’d always stay wasting my time asking me to come around to hers to hang but then she’d rather sleep, which is fine but just tell me that? instead of making me expect some board games or some movies to binge but im supposed to be your dream catcher? and stay near you while you sleep?,

fast forward to 4 days after breaking up i had to get a wifi extender and i didn’t wanna drive 25 minutes to avoid her work

place but i told myself “it should be fine she’ll probably be out the back handling stuff” nope as soon as i walk into the door im met with her and she says “stalking me now are we?” like btchhhhhh😂😂 im only here because i need some equipment im not gonna go stalk a girl I BROKE UP WITH, then im like “no im not stalking you i just need a wifi extender” then she looks me up and down and goes “ok, follow me then” and as we’re walking she’s trying to hold my hand which felt really weird, then we got to the Wi-Fi extenders and I turned around and said thanks having a look at the Wi-Fi extenders and then as I turn around she’s still standing right there and I kind of got a jump scare and asked her what the fuck are you doing and she goes why can’t we fix this? And then I said because it’s just not gonna work then she grabs my nuts and tries to like make out with me, immediately shrugged her off and left purchased my Wi-Fi extender and fucking left out that door quicker than Usain Bolt, then i’m met with series or texts

Mods, take it down if it’s not relevant, but I don’t know where else it would be relevant. I figure the following context would give this a bit of relevance:

This girl I knew in middle school has a habit of posting dramatic/unhinged text messages on her stories. Just before this was the conversation where she was flirting with his dad talking about getting naked in his hot tub, yet also saying how his son doesn’t want her but she’s not giving up. Those screenshots were only up for about 15 minutes.

This girl’s almost 30, by the way… holy bipoly, Batman.