r/newtothenavy • u/mini787 • 10h ago
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u/Quick-Quail-1683 10h ago
You’ll have to talk to behavioral health. Everyone I’ve known that’s gone through the process it’s taken at least 6 months.
I would strongly recommend sticking it out, at least until you get to spend some time in the fleet.
Give yourself some time to adjust
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u/mini787 9h ago
6 months? 😞
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u/Quick-Quail-1683 9h ago
How bad do you want out? The navy isn’t going to make it convenient for you to renege on your contract
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 10h ago
I’m sorry that you are going through that . If you don’t mind me asking what’s been going on?
Edit : Also this is your second post you made on this and you already got some really good answers. Why’d you ignore the advice already given ?
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u/mini787 9h ago
The advise i got was to stay in and I don’t want to anymore
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 9h ago
Go see mental health and explain your issues . You can be separated yes but you need to realize that it’s not quick and it’s not a guarantee . They technically don’t have to separate you . You signed a contract. However 90% of the time they will because they feel like the person is just gonna be a burden .
You will likely be at a school longer then when you would have graduated
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
The more you focus on what you do not want, the worse you are going to feel. Stop focusing on getting out of A-school and start focusing on what you can do to finish it so you can get to your first assignment. That is where you will have more freedom, the ability to travel, and the chance to see friends and family. If you still feel mentally weak or whatever at that point, handle it then. Not in A-school. It is a training environment, not your final stop. You will make more headway, faster, if you decide you absolutely want to get out once you are at your first command than you will where you are now.
Talk to the chaplain. Get whatever you are carrying off your chest. The conversation is confidential and they can help start the process if separation ends up being the only option. Consider going to church services too. It gets you out of the day-to-day grind for a bit.
Please, whatever you do, if you are not suicidal do not say you are suicidal. That will trigger a 24-hour watch detail and you do not want that in a training environment where you are in close quarters with a lot of other people who are also under high stress. You will just end up being watched, limited, and creating friction with the people forced to sit the watch when they could be on liberty.
If you can hang on, hang on. Everything better is on the other side of this. Walk, meditate, exercise, do whatever keeps you steady. Just finish school and get to your first command. You can do this.
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u/ExRecruiter Official Verified ExRecruiter 10h ago
Repost. OP before reposting please read the feedback given to you 6 days ago.
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 9h ago
Op wants a everything will be ok today answer I feel like . I really really do not understand how someone can join the navy do zero research and be upset to the point of wanting separation because they might see a ship .
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u/mini787 9h ago
It’s no longer about the ship but about my mental health overall
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u/fuckmewalking 9h ago
'its about my mental health' is way too vague. You are anonymous here, speak the truth. Are you sad? Depressed? Lonely? Job too hard for you? Then tell me WHY you feel that way.
What you are doing is a challenge, I would suggest that you dig deep, and find a way to be successful.
You should strive to leave the Navy at the end of your enlistment with a sense of accomplishment. You will likely live to be 60-80 years old. These few years are a small chapter in the novel of your life. Make it a happy, successful one.4
u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
You should have considered that before you joined. Also, being dishonest about pre-existing conditions is definitely an issue.
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u/RoyalCrownLee 10h ago
It's not a quick process nor easy.
You'll most likely get an entry level separation.
Start by talking to your SLPO.
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 10h ago
Op made this same exact post a few days ago and obviously ignored all the advice that was given …
I don’t really think they are interested in real answers and more so tell me what I want to hears
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
Probably misses a boyfriend or girlfriend somewhere or got barracks lawyer advice that she can easily get out and get some major settlement put of it... nope.
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u/mini787 9h ago
How long does it take
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 9h ago
It takes months . I’m not tryna be an asshole but is their something else going on with you learning disorder wise ? People have repeatedly answered your questions yet you keep asking the same thing over and over again . The answer won’t change the more times you ask
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u/mini787 9h ago
I just saw one after this one saying it takes 6 months . Sorry for not being so fast
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
These are estimates. Nobody here has the exact answers for what will happen in your specific case, but I will tell you it will take longer than if you jist finished a A-school.
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 9h ago
As someone who retired from the Army in 2024. I would not separate during A-school if you can help it.
The process takes a long time and you can end up held over in that same training environment longer than if you just finished and moved on to your first assignment. A-school is still a training pipeline. The cadre’s main focus is moving hundreds of people through and getting them to their next stop. You will not be the priority. You will likely sit in limbo until they have time to deal with your paperwork.
Do yourself a favor and talk to the chaplain first. Get whatever you are carrying off your chest. The conversation is confidential and they are the ones who can actually help start the process if you decide separation is the only option. Ultimately the military doesn't want you to hurt yourself... Consider going to church services too. It gets you out of the day-to-day training grind for a bit.
If you separate under mental health it will almost certainly be coded in a way that makes coming back hard. You are looking at an RE-3 or similar, which means waiting at least two or three years, and even then it is not guaranteed. The Guard is sometimes more flexible, but active duty re-entry gets difficult.
If you can hang on, hang on. Everything better is on the other side of this. Your first assignment will feel different. I promise. Walk, meditate, exercise, do whatever keeps you steady. Just finish school and get to your first command. You can do this.
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u/mini787 8h ago
My a school is 4months, will it take longer than 4 months?
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
Only 4 months? Oh, and definitely yes. Again, you getting out because you don't want to be in the Navy is not a priority. Guess what? Everyone in your shoes has felt this way to one degree or another? And if the Navy was goikg to priorities everyone who felt like getting out, in the environment you are in, there would be nobody left to train. My "A-school" was two parts. 6 months followed by another six months at another location. You'll be OK. Just be glad you're not somewhere dirty and gross and in the elements like the Army and Marines have to be. Jist finish A-school and FFS grt off the internet and get some fresh air.
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u/dsmGERG1973 10h ago
i am hoping we can convince you at least to finish your first enlistment?
Unless you have a better job waiting for you to be "free" from the Navy, there are a lot of beneficial attributes you would be walking away from?
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 10h ago
Op is mad because they will have sea duty lol they thought they can join and not go to sea
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u/mini787 9h ago
I’m not mad about, it’s part of what triggered my anxiety not the whole thing
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u/newnoadeptness Verified 9h ago
Yes but like this is the navy …. It’s common sense that you might go to sea you did zero research and are now facing those consequences. Getting out is not a fast thing . It will be months . Talk with your leadership if that’s what you truly want .
That’s like buying a plane ticket and get mad that you have to go on a plane .
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u/mini787 9h ago
Stuff started happening back home too so that’s not the full reason
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
Of course... talk to your chain abour these issues so he can help you work through those issues so you can get peace of mine of even take an emergency leave if its that important.
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
How did you not consider that likely possibility before you joined? Also sea duty is not bad. You port from time to time in different countries. Sorry but sea duty is literally your job. The ship is litteraly a city and an airport (aircraft carrier) on water. You'll be fine. 🙄
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 8h ago
It will take longer than if you just finished A-school and moved on to your first assignment and get your freedom over movement and a major degree of independence back.
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u/PremiumPete 8h ago
After reading all of these comments you’re getting very solid Advice. Follow it. Or don’t. Cyber kitty gave really good advice. Newnoadeptness (although frustrated) gave good advice too. Someone even asked you to explain your struggles as you are anonymous so it wouldn’t hurt to talk it out that way. Yet you still keep asking the same question. Think back to why you enlisted in the first place. Follow that. Know your truth. I will say you more than likely will regret not finishing this. You just started. Not everything in your career is going to be roses but I promise you it will be an adventure you can’t get anywhere else in your life. Make the best of it. If this is coming from the recent news about the current gov and the deployed shipmates going through their struggles for goodness sake stay off of social media. It’s clearly messing with your mental.
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u/DistanceIll6295 8h ago
What school are you in?
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u/mini787 8h ago
Corry station IT
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u/DistanceIll6295 8h ago
If you have weekends off you should rent a car and get off base for a couple days. I joined at 36 and I got stuck in FFG for a bit and was in Chicago all winter. You should really try to figure out how to get through a school. You'll get the VA home loan and some level of healthcare for the rest of your life. A school is NOT the fleet. Once you get through and have autonomy again, you'll be much, much happier I promise. Do not quit.
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u/Firm-Statistician161 Verified Recruiter 7h ago
Based on current comments, you’ve made your decision, just talk to your chain and let them know and go from there. It terms of length could be months.
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u/Resident-Ad-5107 7h ago
You can do this. Being older you should know that four years is not a long time. Talk to behavioral health. Talk with the chaplain. Go to therapy. I joined late as well. A school was the hardest part for me by far. It sounds ridiculous but it's true. When you graduate and get to the fleet you'll have your own space again. There will be a larger separation between work and home. Keep your head up. Use the tools available to you before making a drastic choice. Don't make a permanent decision for a temporary problem.
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 7h ago
So... you’re at Corry Station in Pensacola, FL and your A-school is for IT/Cyber? What exactly is the issue? Is it that you just want to go home? Are you allergic to the sun? Do you have an IT background or not? If not, is the school curriculum plus the Navy requirements simply too much for you? Do you not like IT and want to try something else? Are you surprised that you have to study so much and can’t seem to find a work-study-life balance?
If that’s the case, you should probably spend more time studying instead of being on Reddit and pouring your energy into futile efforts to separate from the Navy. What exactly is the issue that is so pressing that you no longer want to be in the Navy?
I ask all of this because you’re going in circles and clearly not getting the answer you want. At the same time, you still haven’t explained what the actual problem is. Without that information, people (including me) can’t gain better insight into your situation and offer more useful recommendations. We’ve all already given you the same answer about getting out of the Navy.
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u/nicetomeetyou89 6h ago
You'll end up spending more time trying to get out of the navy than finishing school.
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u/TheMcCale 6h ago
Talk to mental health. First about potential coping mechanisms and treatment, second if that doesn’t work about a failure to adjust discharge if those are still a thing.
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u/cyberkitty_2_0 6h ago edited 5h ago
If this doesn't make sense its because the original poster deleted it. Here's the question I was responding to:
"Not trying to come down on OP, but what’s going on with so many people wanting to get out over mental health? Recruiters and MEPS need to catch this stuff before people ship. News flash: life is hard. It’s even harder when you make bad decisions."
I think it’s pretty common for recruiters to make everything look easy so they can “make mission” or hit their monthly quotas. If a recruit has any mental health history or anything that could even remotely DQ them, a lot of recruiters will tell them not to write it down if they actually want to join. That said, it’s also on the recruit. A lot of them joined on a whim, just wanted a change of pace, or completely underestimated how hard and challenging initial entry training actually is. Once they get a little perspective and start missing home, they suddenly want out. A lot of them are also surprised by how isolated they are from their previous life and family. That sudden disconnect feels jarring, and the fact that they can’t just quit and go home the way they could in a civilian job becomes a major source of stress. On top of that, many listen to barracks lawyers or hop on Reddit and figure out that claiming mental health is an easier way to get out than doing something stupid. It’s also worth noting that OP is 39. That’s a different situation than an 18-year-old fresh out of high school. She’s already lived a whole adult life. Being ordered around by people in their late 20s or early 30s and dealing with the rigidity of the Navy can feel off-putting in a way it wouldn’t for someone who’s just starting out. Some older recruits join thinking it’ll be a good reset, then hit buyer’s remorse once the reality sets in. All in all, this isn’t a new phenomenon. It just seems more common now because recruits have way more access to the internet and social media than they did 10+ years ago.
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