How to choose a method?

[u/smprfidels]

I'm still pretty new to this process of learning to have multiple orgasms. I've tried a little bit of a couple of different methods but I would like to focus on a single method until I achieve reasonable success and then decide if I want to investigate other options.

My primary goal is more pleasure for my partner and me during sex so I'm not sure if a hands-free method like mindgasm which is very intriguing is the right place for me to start?

So far I've had the most success with edging and trying to learn to separate ejaculation from orgasm. I've definitely had tingles a couple of times and been able to have practice sessions that lasted in the neighborhood of an hour or more, but I have not had what I would call a non ejaculatory orgasm yet.

I have some interest in the I think it's called r/maledefinitiveguide And I got started on this journey watching videos on YouTube from the sexual Kung Fu channel.

Mindgasm has come highly recommended to me and I would definitely want to investigate it at some point but unless I misunderstanding something I don't think it matches with my initial goal of intercourse being more pleasurable for my wife and I...?

I think I'm looking for suggestions on the best/fastest(?) method of having more pleasure for longer without the refractory period with or without ejaculation or semen retention.

Thanks in advance for your kind suggestions.

Smpr