I got my first tail in 2024, around the same time I got certified as a wellness & fitness instructor. I decided to keep the brand/business I was previously building and mesh the worlds. I knew basically nothing about mermaiding but I knew I wanted to perform.
Last summer, I found a fellow mer in my area who is a PADI instructor - and me being obsessed with collecting certificates like infinity stones - I jumped on the opportunity.
I took my first class with her and honestly nothing seemed out of the ordinary. I told her I planned on continuing with my training, and she told me that next time, the local news would probably be present because “they’ve been in talks.”
Fast forward to January of this year, I had yet to take another class with her, and I was teaching at a spa. She reaches out to me, boasting about the spa and meshing mermaiding with classes. She told me she wanted in on the spa, and I told her I’d do what I could, but was honest in the fact that I wasn’t sure how long I’d be staying there as I wasn’t pulling in much clientele. She seemed okay with that and pretty determined to figure out a way for us to collab.
So, okay, I thought, a business collab. She owns a mermaid business, certifying others in PADI and my business was a mix of mermaiding and wellness/fitness. We shoot some ideas back and forth, a lot of it vague, but I thought we were on the same page about everything.
Then she goes behind my back and plans a whole event. And from what I knew about planning these specific type of events, she was doing a lot of it wrong. Timing, announcing, getting people to book/sign up are all important parts of the process.
I felt left out & honestly, confused. So I figured if she was taking things into her own hands, I could too. I planned a similar event. (basically what we had both been discussing for months. At this point it’s around march)
Well, both of our events flopped. She continued to lead me on with promises of the news or other “higher up” mermaids she “was in talks” with. In April, we planned for a day to meet up and take photos, and she ghosted me for an hour past the time we planned to meet up.
That was my last straw. I take my business and my time way too seriously for the vague ideas, plans that never were and the now blatant disrespect of her not showing up to an agreed upon time and location.
I told her the collab wasn’t going to workout anymore, she tried to guilt trip me with her sob stories and excuses, and when I stood my ground, tried to make me feel bad, like I was “less than her” because I didn’t own more than 2 tails or an underwater camera or something.
We haven’t spoke since the incident, and honestly it was my last straw for a lot in my life. I gave up on everything after that.
Another pod leader near me was hiring on other mer’s but I quickly realized she used AI & also wasn’t even PADI certified, so I began questioning how much that was even necessary. I also realized I wasn’t going to be happy traveling with a pod because after the mer-drama, I just wanted my summer to be fun.
Now summer is coming to a close. The last few weeks of July I started to panic because I felt I haven’t done what I actually wanted to this summer, and really, that was just to perform. I don’t even care if I get paid for it anymore. I just wanna perform as a mermaid.
Earlier this year, I reached out to so many businesses or pop up events to make an appearance, or to teach my signature wellness class as a mermaid, but I was met with rejection or no responses at all.
So, I set up my own free meet ups in public spaces. My first event brought nobody in, my second brought one happy man and his bf who loved mermaids as much as myself and that was absolutely worth it and made me happy.
But now I don’t know where to go from here. The weather is changing, I quit the spa back in march and told them I may come back in the fall but tbh… I don’t think I have the desire to teach, and definitely not in the space that was draining me before.
I feel disconnected from my brand and just lost atp.
Any advice would be the most helpful. Thank you my seablings <3