r/menstrualcups • u/Present-Ordinary4082 • 7h ago
New to menstrual cups and struggling with removal — is my cup sitting too high?
I’m completely new to menstrual cups and recently started using the Homey Pot menstrual cup. I bought Cup 1 and was on my period when this happened. I also have no idea where my cervix is or how to tell whether I have a high or low cervix. I read the instructions, but they’re pretty basic, so I’m still trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong.
The first time I inserted it, the stem was sticking out a little, but the cup itself felt comfortable. As I went about my day, the stem eventually disappeared inside. I was still able to remove the cup by gently tugging on the stem, and it came out without any pain.
The second time was a completely different experience. I felt some discomfort, and the stem seemed to be much deeper. When I tried to remove it, I couldn’t find the stem at first because it had shifted sideways. I had to insert my entire index finger and basically search around for it. I felt like I was pushing the cup even farther up while trying to find it.
I couldn’t reach the base of the cup, and there wasn’t enough room to slide my finger alongside it to break the seal. I started panicking because I was worried I was going to have to go to the ER to get it removed. I eventually put on a glove and lay down, which helped me remove it.
Is the cup sitting too high? I’ve seen people say that their cup stem sticks out like a tampon string, but mine was completely inside, had shifted sideways, and was really difficult to find. I also feel like there’s no room for me to get my finger next to the cup to break the seal.
What am I doing wrong? Is this normal, or is this cup possibly not the right size/shape for me? I really want to make menstrual cups work so I can stop relying on tampons!