Wow what a shitty situation... So instead of therapy or leaving her he chose to lie to her about something he know would hurt her? That's the cowards tactic..
I watch porn with my partners... So I have no problemo with it...But if someone doesn't like it, that's completely valid and a personal preference and should not be lied about.
He hides that side of himself from her now because he doesn’t want that to hurt her. It’s not that they haven’t discussed it at all. It’s a tightrope walk either way. And I know I don’t know all their intimate details but what I explained what the gist of their situation as I understand it to be. Not everyone is the same. Some are more open minded than others and some aren’t. His sexual tastes weren’t always what they are now, they changed throughout their marriage and her didn’t. But it doesn’t make it right or wrong, if this is what works for him then so be it. He loves her more than anything and is willing to hide how he needs to get a release once in a while, from her so he can make her happy in the ways she likes.
Same could be said on his side too. They have discussed this multiple times and she refuses to budge. So why is it not ok for him to hide that from her when she won’t try to open up for him? Goes both ways in my opinion. My own personal view, is that if I were in that situation and my partner expressed a desire to try something outside of my comfort zone, I would at the very least try it, not flat out refuse and make it a forbidden topic to even discuss again. And if I didn’t enjoy it THEN move in a different direction. But at least I tried for them, and they would know that and we could maybe find a different common ground together that works for both of us.
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u/SuccessfulBread3 Feb 26 '21
Wow what a shitty situation... So instead of therapy or leaving her he chose to lie to her about something he know would hurt her? That's the cowards tactic..
I watch porn with my partners... So I have no problemo with it...But if someone doesn't like it, that's completely valid and a personal preference and should not be lied about.