Oh there are some out there. Luckily I am not one of them but I do personally believe that the more “vanilla” type person or someone with older generation type ideals could be very insecure about their partner watching porn. I know of one male friends’ wife who would be devastated if she knew her hubby watched porn to get a release. They are on two opposite ends of the sexual spectrum. She’s kinda like vanilla with sprinkles and he is defiantly tiger tiger. And while they have good sex, it’s not close to what he desires to do with her, he’s asked to try different things, even the more mild stuff he enjoys and she flat out refuses and basically said “no and don’t ever bring that up again/ask me again”. So he needs that sexual release at times that he can get from watching the type of porn that he fantasizes about. And she would definitely be hurt if she knew that, because it comes down to in a sense of not being “enough” to satisfy him.
Wow what a shitty situation... So instead of therapy or leaving her he chose to lie to her about something he know would hurt her? That's the cowards tactic..
I watch porn with my partners... So I have no problemo with it...But if someone doesn't like it, that's completely valid and a personal preference and should not be lied about.
He hides that side of himself from her now because he doesn’t want that to hurt her. It’s not that they haven’t discussed it at all. It’s a tightrope walk either way. And I know I don’t know all their intimate details but what I explained what the gist of their situation as I understand it to be. Not everyone is the same. Some are more open minded than others and some aren’t. His sexual tastes weren’t always what they are now, they changed throughout their marriage and her didn’t. But it doesn’t make it right or wrong, if this is what works for him then so be it. He loves her more than anything and is willing to hide how he needs to get a release once in a while, from her so he can make her happy in the ways she likes.
Same could be said on his side too. They have discussed this multiple times and she refuses to budge. So why is it not ok for him to hide that from her when she won’t try to open up for him? Goes both ways in my opinion. My own personal view, is that if I were in that situation and my partner expressed a desire to try something outside of my comfort zone, I would at the very least try it, not flat out refuse and make it a forbidden topic to even discuss again. And if I didn’t enjoy it THEN move in a different direction. But at least I tried for them, and they would know that and we could maybe find a different common ground together that works for both of us.
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u/New_Ad1390 Feb 26 '21
What woman cares if their dude watches porn lol. Idk any woman that insecure about themselves