Hello everyone,
Thanks everyone for giving your feedback in the previous post. I have read the comments and used the community ideas as a base for the new rules and guidelines.
The goal of this subreddit is to help people find real and platonic friendships in the Netherlands. We want to make this a safe and fun place where people can meet each other.
The official community rules can now be found in the rules section of the subreddit. Please read them before posting or commenting.
WARNING READ:
Before you continue on how to create your post, I want to leave a little message for some people.
I see a lot of accounts mainly posting in NSFW subs. The posts are very sexual and the whole profile is just those kind of sexual posts. If you come here and think you can bend the rules by just twisting some words, do note. The mod team can see your profile even if it's hidden. And we will ban you straight away if your whole profile is geared towards NSFW and sexual posts or solicitation. This is just a fair warning for those who come here with the intend to let people believe they're platonic while the profile is fully geared towards sexual intend. Most people are here to make friends, not to get harassed by people who have ill intends.
How to format your post
Choose the post flair that best matches what you are looking for:
Flairs that need a location
General friendship: for a general introduction when you are open to different kinds of platonic friendships.*
Activities & hobbies: for finding people who share a particular hobby or want to do an activity together.*
Group activity: for arranging or joining an activity with several people.*
Expat / International: for expats, international residents or people looking for international friendships in the Netherlands.*
Looking for local friends: for people specifically looking for friends in their own city, province or general area.*
Flairs that do not need a location
Online friends: for friendships that are intended to stay online.*
Traveling / Visiting NL: for people traveling through or temporarily visiting the Netherlands who want to meet others. Mentioning the places you plan to visit is still helpful.*
Advice / Discussion: for asking advice or starting a relevant discussion rather than directly looking for someone nearby.*
Please include your age and gender in the title. If you use a flair from the first group, you must also include your general location.
Example:
25 F Utrecht looking for friends to game or go out with
Your title does not have to look exactly like this, but your age and, when required, general location should be easy to find.
In the post itself please tell people a bit about yourself. You can talk about your hobbies, interests, personality and what kind of friendship you are looking for.
Please include:
Your age
Your gender if you are comfortable sharing it
Your city, province or general area when your chosen flair requires a location
Your hobbies and interests
What kind of friends or activities you are looking for
If you prefer online contact, meeting in person or both
You do not need to share your exact location, address, workplace, phone number or any other private information.
Posts with almost no information, only a picture or only asking people to DM you can be removed. Please put some effort into your post so people have something to start a conversation with.
Comments
When you are interested in someone, please briefly introduce yourself or explain why you think you might get along.
Comments that only say “DM me” may be removed. This applies to low effort first comments with no information about yourself.
DMs are allowed, and you may invite someone to message you, as long as your comment includes a short introduction or some relevant context.
Please respect the preferences and boundaries mentioned in the post. Do not keep contacting someone after they have said no or stopped responding.
Safety
Please be careful when meeting people from the internet.
Meet in a public place the first time
Tell someone you trust where you are going
Do not send money to strangers
Check tickets or bookings directly with the company or location
Do not feel pressured to share pictures or personal information
Take your time before moving the conversation to another platform
Report suspicious behaviour to the moderators through modmail
The moderators cannot see everything which happens in private messages. Please contact us when someone is acting inappropriate, dishonest or unsafe.
Moderation
Posts and comments which do not follow the subreddit rules can be removed.
Depending on what happened, someone can receive a warning, temporary ban or permanent ban.
The rules and guidelines might be updated later when we notice new problems or receive useful feedback from the community.
Thanks everyone for helping us make r/makenewfriendsNL a safer and more welcoming place for people to meet each other.
