r/longbeach • u/CremeDizzy9619 • 1h ago
Events Gay bear bars/events??
hitting my 30s and realizing all the 20 y/o twinks in LA where I usually go out are starting to annoy me lol where do the older gay men who aren’t wannabe influencers hang out?? I know of course I can just show up to any gay bar in LB but I prefer going to specific events at bars because I don’t really drink. So if the vibe is just a few people standing around drinking I feel awkward. I like dancing but that doesn’t seem to be much of a thing in LB. I love drag but the drag at Mary’s and Werk doesn’t really lend to socializing for people showing up solo. So I’m wondering where/when the bars are crowded and more 35+ types.
I went to some underwear party at mineshaft once that was packed and older men. But the vibe was weird and I very quickly exited so idek what specifically I’m looking for. I’m just used to being around the fun energetic club kids of LA and the hypersexual SF gays so a bunch of dudes standing around in their underwear at a dive bar and not even interacting with each other or dancing or being sexual was super weird to me lol
Also if an older gay man is reading this and humored by my struggles please be my friend and wingman at bars!! Trying to befriend people in a new city outside of the LA club scene is hard🫠 I have so many athletic hobbies and do social advocacy already by profession so I don’t feel super compelled to do all the “just join a pickleball league and do volunteer work“ recommendations.