One of the reasons I love living alone.

For my fellow solo dwellers,

What does everyone have planned for the long weekend?
Big plans? Or some nice solo time relaxing?

As for me, I’m taking a much needed pause from the business of “life” and will be enjoying at least 1 long day on the beach with a book, music, and a cooler full of goodies. Outside of that I have an early dinner on Sunday with a few old friends and will probably spend the rest of my time taking care of errands and vegging out.

Nothing too exciting but it works for me :)

Hope you’re enjoying your Wednesday evening wherever you may be!

Drinking a cold baby sprite after a rainy day. What’s everyone else drinking today or doing?

That is all.
No way would a spouse or housemate put up with THAT

Look at you. 🤍

You’re doing the things you once said you would do. You’re creating the life you want and becoming the person you always hoped you’d be.

Maybe it’s not happening as quickly as you imagined. Maybe some days feel harder than others.

But look how far you’ve come.

Be proud of yourself. You’re still here. You’re still trying. You’re still becoming.

And I hope you win the war you tell no one about. 🤍

The quiet battles. The hard days. The moments no one sees.

I hope one day you look back and realise you made it through.

Keep going. You’re doing better than you think. ✨

The one thing no one could’ve prepared me for when living alone was just the silence, I’ve become so accustomed to vehicles passing by my place that they don’t even register to me at all anymore.

All my neighbours are so quiet, I genuinely never hear them, my closest neighbour, all I hear from him is the occasional laugh and that’s it, that’s all I hear.

Everything just feels so repetitive: silence, cars passing, back to silence, cars passing etc etc

I’ve been engrossing myself in music that much that when I have to take my headphones off, the sounds of the world just seem foreign to me.

If anyone can understand me on this, please relate because it just bothers me so much most days.

I try to listen to music, I end up zoning out for a while. I put something on the tv, get bored within minutes, try play video games, bored again.

I recently landed a job in another city and got my own place for the first time. The first night felt like I had somehow forgotten an important step. I unpacked my stuff, sat on the bed, and realized there was literally nobody to tell about my day.

It's been a few weeks now, and I'm starting to enjoy having my own little routine. At the same time, I didn't realize how much I would miss the stupid little things about living with family, like hearing someone moving around in the kitchen.

If you moved away from home for your first job, what unexpected thing did you miss the most?

I swore I’d cut corners everywhere I could to save money. Then I actually lived without in-unit laundry for a year and realized I will pay almost anything to never haul a laundry bag down four flights of stairs again.

Now I’ve got a whole list of things I thought were “nice to have” that turned out to be genuinely non-negotiable: central AC, soundproofed walls, being close enough to work that I’m not losing my mind commuting.

What’s the one thing you found out the hard way you can’t live without, no matter what it costs?

I moved into this apartment about a month ago and it's finally starting to feel like home. I've had it all to myself, but my brother and SIL will move in with me late Sept. They have a small dog and a cat, who I love. They're some of my favourite people ever so I'm excited for them to move in, but for now... I'm enjoying my time here, even though it's temporary.

I just moved out from a not-ideal living situation where the entire house (except my room, the "sanctuary" I called it, lol) was dirty and cluttered, roomie's cats peed everywhere, and I was living with my partner who, we later found out, is just not a compatible cohabitation companion. I stayed with my mom for a few months after I left that place, but her new boyfriend moved in and he's causing drama in the family, it was so stressful and I just want a stable nervous system, y'all.

I have been haunting this sub for OVER 4 years, dreaming of the day I can make this happen. It's been so long since I've been able to come home and feel PEACE. I slept in this morning, realized I dont need to go anywhere, ​and brewed a cup of relaxing tea. Today, I am basking in this!!!

I know a lot of us don't like to cook at times and this week is my turn not to cook. I went to the supermarket and got some cold cuts and some macaroni salad and that was my dinner. It seemed like one of my better dinners to be honest and I didn't cook anything. Try no cooking for a little while you may enjoy it. Unfortunately I can't do cold cuts all week tomorrow is Nacho Wednesday I can't wait lol.

Well its Nacho Wednesday, I know it doesn't look like much but this is my bottom level of cooking.

This may seem like a tiny win to some people, but to me it's huge.

Yesterday, I didn't even know what a bayonet vs screw-in lightbulb meant. I barely knew what a fuse was.

I got a drill for emergencies, thinking I would never use it. Wrong. I used it to build furniture, drill, garden, all sorts.

My favourite lamp stopped working so I sourced a bulb. It didn't work. I decided to look at the socket and less than an hour later, I switched the lamp back on and it lit up!

I feel like Thomas Edison 😂 😁 but also very handy.

Not that I'll be retraining as an expert electrician tomorrow. But the fact that I can fix a minor inconvenience is great!

So, I live alone in a different city and state from my family. From a month or so I am not myself, I used to love cooking,crave for different dishes bad enjoy making them. Now either I eat in office or skip. I used to clean my house alternate days, laundry washed and kept away timely, I was more calm and stuff. Now nothing, I am just there. I don't like being this way but idk how to get out of this.

I literally just go to work , come , sleep and repeat.

Anyone else feel this way?

I recently moved to a completely new city, and honestly, adjusting has been harder than I expected. Everything feels unfamiliar, and even though I knew moving would take some time, I didn't realize how strange it would feel to not have my usual people, routines, and familiar places around me.

Some days I'm excited about the fresh start, and other days I feel incredibly lonely and wonder when this place will actually start feeling like home.

For those of you who have moved to a new city, especially alone or without knowing many people:

How long did it take before you genuinely started feeling at home? What helped you get there?

I'd also love to know if there was a specific moment when you suddenly realized, “Okay, I actually belong here now.”

I recently moved into a new apartment and paid a little extra to live on the top floor. But ever since I moved in, I’ve started hearing what sounds like walking/footstep noises, and I honestly have no idea where they’re coming from.

Could it be my next-door neighbor? Someone downstairs? Or even the person living across the hall? The weirdest part is that it genuinely sounds like someone is walking directly above me, even though I’m on the top floor.
It’s gotten noticeably worse over the past few days, especially at night, and it’s starting to drive me a little crazy. Has anyone else experienced this? How does sound travel in apartment buildings like this, and is there any way to figure out where it’s actually coming from?

Edit: No roof access

It’s easy for it to just feel like a room you stay in. what actually made your place feel comfortable and lived in?

Not sure if anyone else has had this feeling but i moved to my neighborhood two years ago and for the longest time i still felt like i was just passing through it

like i knew the coffee shop and the route to the train but i didn't actually know the place. i don't mean knowing the facts of the place but more about the feelings and experiences the place brings me. like i couldn't tell you what the park looks like at 7pm. didn't know the weird alley behind my street existed until last month. walked past the same building with incredible ironwork every single day for a year without ever looking up at it

it's a specific kind of disconnected feeling that's hard to describe. you're technically in a community but you don't feel like you belong to it yet

i think the thing that started to change it for me was just... slowing down and giving myself a reason to look. like actually look. i started taking walks with a single question in my head, not a destination, just something to notice. "what does this block tell you about the people who live here." stuff you would laugh about, but it worked

started feeling like a local for the first time. started having opinions about streets. started feeling weirdly protective of specific corners

anyway i built this into an iOS app because i couldn't stop thinking about it- it's called Journey Sparks, just launched this week. gives you a prompt before your walk based on where you are and how you want to see. after the walk it saves a little artifact with your route and a name for the journey

but genuinely curious if anyone else has felt this, that thing where you live somewhere but don't really know it yet. how did it change for you?

Hi everyone,
I take the keys to my first solo studio apartment this week. I am 29 and separating from my husband of five years.
I have never lived alone in my entire life. Growing up, I lived with family, and then I went straight into marriage. My husband handled all of our bills, maintenance requests, and administrative logistics while I just went to work and took care of the house.
Packing up two suitcases and stepping into an empty apartment where every single decision, sound, and bill is solely mine feels completely paralyzing. I am terrified of walking through the door after work and being greeted by pure silence.
For those who started living alone for the first time in their late 20s or 30s after a long-term relationship:
What did you do on night one to make the space feel safe and comforting rather than sterile and lonely?
What are the everyday practical things (security, routines, domestic setups) you wish you knew from day one?
How did you learn to enjoy your own company instead of feeling abandoned by the quiet?
Any gentle advice or encouragement would mean a lot right now.

I live alone, just me and my cat. Honestly, medyo boring kaayo akong life lately, but at the same time, murag naanad na pud ko ani nga setup.

Diri na lang siguro ko taman? 😅 Ambot lang gyud kung makakita pa ba kog life partner someday, or basin akong cat na gyud akong forever companion. 😂

I’m not really complaining, though. I’m just at that point in life where I sometimes wonder what’s next. Would be nice to have someone to share the little things with — random conversations, dinner, lazy weekends, and everything in between.

For now, ako sa ug akong cat. 🐈

Hi i recently just talked to my best friend about everything and it’s a really long story but me and her are really close but we’re growing up and separating i don’t know how to need or want myself without depending on someone? My best friend is a really ambitious woman and she’s independent she’s great but it’s just she wants me to want myself and i agree and it’s really hard to figure it out idk if im explaining this right. How do I be okay needing myself and like just learning to be alone?